Sunday, March 23, 2014

The Defining Moment In Their Marriage

Dave Meyer finally had had enough of Joyce's manipulative, controlling ways. They had been married for almost ten years. There would be times that Joyce was so angry with Dave that she wouldn't talk to him at all for weeks. When he would go and play golf, she would be angry with him but he wasn't going to let her control him. He'd go play golf any ways.

Dave had decided years earlier that he wasn't going to let Joyce take away his joy just because she had none. He knew that his worth and fulfillment came from Christ alone and had nothing to do with how Joyce treated him. He was confident in who he was in Christ. 

Finally, about the tenth year, Dave went to Joyce and said, "You've got me to the point where I can hardly stand you. I'm not sure what's going to happen." Well, that woke her up. She didn't want to lose him. Down deep, she was attracted to the joy and steady calm that he always had. She began to work on herself and tried to respect, honor, and be submissive to him.

A year later, she asked him if she was doing better. He responded, "A little." This was when she decided to study her Bible more and pray. She needed the Holy Spirit's help in her life. The Lord was the only one who could help her truly love her husband.

The day Dave felt truly loved by Joyce was one day on the golf course. He had just put a ball on the tee and looked over his shoulder. He saw Joyce coming with three of their children. He thought the house had burned down! She asked him to show her how to play golf.

Dave is the strong, silent type with an easy-going personality. Joyce is a strong, talkative type. Whenever she is worried about something and goes to Dave about it, he always responds, "Cast your cares..." {Great advice for those who struggle with worry!}

Now they have been married for 45 years. They have a solid, happy marriage. They have realized that everyone is born with different temperaments and personalities. Instead of fighting those, they learned to accept each other just as they were and allow God to change the other one where they needed change.

Ruth Bell Graham advised wives to "tell your mate the positive, and tell God the negative." Take your concerns to God. Faithfully lift up your husband or wife in prayer every day, and you will likely notice a transformation not only in him or her, but in yourself, as well.

Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. 
To that end keep alert with all perseverance, 
making supplication for all the saints.
Ephesians 6:18

***HERE is the video of the two of them sharing their marriage testimony.