Thursday, July 30, 2015

Are Leggings Modest?

There has only been one time that Ken told me I couldn't wear something and it was many years ago. I had a pair of leggings on and he told me I couldn't wear them in public. He said they were too immodest. They are tight and show every single curve on a woman's body.

I happily decided I wouldn't wear them anymore. This was WAY before I was a submissive wife but I figured if he thought they were immodest, I would trust him. He knows what attracts males and he has told me that its skin tight clothing and lots of flesh.

I asked the women in the chat room if there has ever been clothing that their husbands didn't want them to wear. Leggings were the clothing most husbands didn't want their wives to wear. 

Have you ever asked your husband what he thinks is modest and what is not? Have you asked him to be completely honest with you? Some men like their wives dressing immodestly. I think it must be an ego thing like, "Hey guys, look at the babe that I've got." It seems only insecure men would feel this way. Strong, godly men would desire their wives to be modest. They don't want other men lusting after their wives.

The majority of women today, even Christian women, don't seem to care about dressing modestly at all. They much prefer to wear what is in fashion or comfortable than to please the Lord. You must all realize, however, that men are VERY visual. They get turned on by what they see. We, as women, will never understand the way a man's brain works but we must trust what they tell us. We can't tell them that lust is their problem and we have nothing to do with it. What do you think turns them on? Scantily clad women, that is what! This is why God commands women to dress modestly. If you wear a long shirt over them, I believe it is fine to wear leggings but let's do all we can to not make it harder on men then it already is for them.

We can't simply live our lives for ourselves without any thought to the men we come in contact with. We are called to be modest and to esteem others better than ourselves. We are commanded to not be a stumbling block to others. When you dress in a way that turns men on, you ARE responsible for causing men to stumble whether or not you want to acknowledge it. The Lord tells us that in WHATEVER we do, we should do all for His glory. Do you dress in a way that is glorifying to Him?

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.

I Timothy 2:9

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Thinking of Having an Affair? Board That Baby Up!

Affairs can begin very innocently but they always end in destruction. Here is a comment from another women who wants to remain anonymous who had an affair ~ 

My husband and I are healing over my unfaithfulness which was revealed last May 2014. If you are in a tempting situation with another man, I cannot reverberate enough to get out! It is mass destruction. I am walking this road of repentance and brokenness and there has been good that has come from it because God always brings good, however, not worth the cost. Complete devastation. My heart shattered, my soul in anguish, periods of moaning, especially in the beginning, that now I understand the Psalmist when he speaks of the moaning. It was with an old flame from 20 years ago. He kept "checking in" with me on Facebook even though he was not on my "friends" list. I do not have a Facebook account now. My choice. So much deception an affair is. So much confusion and nonsense. Looking back, you cannot make sense of it because God is not the author of confusion. Please, please, please! If you are in a situation and you think you can change a man and you are just being used by God or you feel your heart soften toward another man please, please do like Joseph and RUN! This is one sin that is ever before me. I still don't know if we will make it through. Such torment. I love you sisters!

Then another woman admitted that she was close to beginning an affair and the anonymous woman responded ~

 Stay Strong. DO NOT GIVE UP!! If you can think of anyone you can talk to, as sister in Christ, go to her. Confess what is going on. It will free you so much to share this burden with someone. But more importantly, hit your knees, let loose and confess it all to God. He is faithful to forgive you if you ask, and He will give you exactly what you need to overcome. Then take whatever steps you need in order to close the door that has been opened. Lock it. Bolt it shut. Board that baby up! Whatever it takes!!! {Speaking from experience here; what may FEEL good now will end up in destruction.} 

Another woman wrote a list of things that might happen if you are to follow through on this open door!

Have a lovely relationship with a *person* {nice for a time}
Get found out or end up confessing {ouch}
Break husband's trust {ouch}
Have to tell children what I have done {ouch}
Have to tell family and friends what I have done {ouch}
Divorce perhaps? {ouch} Or long road to healing {ouch}
Leave a legacy of unfaithfulness {ouch}
And more ouches!

When I have made lists like these, it has helped me to see that the carrot being dangled in front of my face is actually poison in disguise. I would also agree with the other comments and say that telling your husband is a good way to put water on the fire. Secrets lose their power when they are brought into the open. They can lose their glamour too!

Many of the chapters at the beginning of Proverbs warn men about prostitutes and how they are a path to destruction. Unfortunately, many women are on the path to destruction as they leave the husband of their youth to chase empty and destructive dreams of a more romantic relationship with excitement. Once all the passion is gone, you'll only be left with the ashes of a ruined marriage and if you have children, damaged children. It is NEVER worth the cost. Going against any of God's ways is never worth the cost but sexual sins are sins against your own body.

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; 
but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Anerica in Spiritual Decline

According to a provocative Pew Research, Christianity is on the decline. 70.6% of people say they are Christians, down 8% from just seven years ago. Those opposing any religion is up 50% from 16.1% to 22.8% from 2007. There’s no question that people of faith are being marginalized by a secular media and pernicious entertainment. The rap industry often glorifies depraved behavior and that sinks into the minds of some young people. Many movies and TV shows promote non-traditional values. If you are a person of faith, then the media generally thinks you’re a loon. The prevailing wisdom especially among youths is whatever is good for me is good, period; the overall good be damned. There is a strong move to legalize drugs and decriminalize even the sale of poisons like heroin and cocaine. Any student of history knows that when a nation turns towards the pursuit of individual gratification, the country is in trouble. Romans ultimately rejected sacrificing for the republic, and the empire collapsed…Although the founding fathers wanted freedom of religion, they did not want a secular nation. That is clear in the writings of Thomas Jefferson and James Madison. The founders believed that a strong moral code protects people from harm and avarice….There is no question that America is changing for the worse.

These sobering words were said by Bill O'Reilly, host of a Fox News show. Now, as Christians, we know that that those who are true Bible believing, Spirit-filled Christians are always going to be a remnant. If almost 71% of those who claimed to be Christian were truly walking in the Spirit, this nation would look much different than it does today.

However, our nation was founded upon biblical principles, thus most people knew right from wrong and they had a strong sense of godly morality. This is what is being lost. What is right is wrong and what is wrong is right in today's culture. Mr. O'Reilly is right on when he stated that "the prevailing wisdom especially among the youths is whatever is good for me is good, period."

Unfortunately, when we seek only our good, nothing good comes out of it. This can be seen in women leaving their homes to pursue the "good" they believe is "out there" somewhere. When everyone is seeking their own good, societies crumble and children get the brunt of the storm. 

Our answer isn't in politics, as Mr. O'Reilly points out. No President can get us out of the mammoth hole we have dug for ourselves. However, our goal shouldn't be a "Christian nation." Our goal should be to live lives that glorify our Savior and give hope to the many around us living in darkness. As society grows darker, our light will shine brighter for greater is He who is in us than He who is in the world! How can we shine brighter? Mothers need to be home raising their children to know and love the Lord. Wives need to love their husband and be vow keepers. This world desperately needs to see Christians living godly lives and drawing others to Jesus, always remembering that we can do ALL things through Christ who gives us strength. This country doesn't need a great President {although that sure would be GREAT!}. This country needs Jesus and His children to live godly lives through Him and be lights to this once great nation in rapid spiritual decline.

If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14

Monday, July 27, 2015

Picking Up The Ball Older Women Have Dropped

Master's College is one of the very few colleges that offers a degree in Home Economics.  Many of you think homemaking, marriage and child raising should be taught in the home or church, according to this post I wrote over a year ago. I fully agree but many times it is not being taught by the family or the church. Older women are the ones who should be teaching but there are very few older women who are willing to teach young women to love their husbands, love their children, and be keepers at home.  Therefore, I think it is wonderful that Masters offers this degree.

What is more important than raising godly offspring; children that grow up to love Jesus, be salt and light to society, and then spend eternity in heaven? Can any other degree match the power of a wife and mother has on future generations and eternity?  I think not.

One mother's daughter went to Masters and got her degree in 
Home Economics. This is what she had to say about it ~

My daughter attended The Master's College and graduated with the degree Lori mentions.  She attended community college her first two years and finished out at Master's.  This helped with the cost.  Also, we paid nowhere near $20,000 a semester after scholarships, etc.  We homeschooled her through high school so she had a good start in "home economics," but as a young woman who desired a college degree yet did not have any career aspirations {She wanted to be a keeper at home and home with children.}, this was a wonderful choice!  She learned so much more than cooking or sewing, but was mentored and encouraged by godly women, was challenged by Dr. MacArthur, was pushed academically and had many opportunities to serve.

She is now married to a wonderful young man whom she met at Master's, is home with our sweet grandson, and already mentoring and encouraging those younger than her!  She is making a lovely home, decorating on a budget, fixing home-cooked meals, sewing some of her own clothes, helping friends plan their weddings, caring for her son, and being a helper to her husband.  She is enjoying using the gifts God has given her, and in her case, is very grateful for the opportunity to hold a college degree that prepared her for exactly what she wanted to do!

This is the class description at Master's College of the Home Economics Class which is now called Family and Consumer Sciences ~

Use time management skills in her home.
Manage the family finances.
Cook nutritious meals.
Practice hospitality.
Joyfully submit to her husband.
Raise her children in the "fear and admonition of the Lord"
{Ephesians 6:4}... that the Word of God will not be discredited.

This sounds absolutely amazing to me!  If the older women have dropped the ball and so few take the time to teach young women, why not let a godly, Christian college pick it up and run with it? However, if you are an older woman, I encourage you to pick up the ball and begin teaching the young women in your life!

The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior 
as becomes holiness...teachers of good things.
Titus 2:3