Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Her Sex Addicted, Alcoholic Husband

Do you think you are in a miserable marriage and you just need to get out?  Would you consider your husband a jerk, an addict, or worse?  Do you see no redeeming quality in him and you have had enough?  Megan felt all of these things and she had every right to feel them.  Her husband was a sexual addict, couldn't hold down a job, and was an alcoholic.

Most everyone would counsel her that she had multiple reasons to divorce her husband.  After all, many wives divorce their husbands simply because they are unhappy.   When she was pregnant with her third child, she decided to abort the baby since her life was such a mess and was manipulated into following through at the abortion clinic.

She could easily have divorced him but she stayed with him for many years. She began to spend a lot of time in God's Word and prayer. She stopped arguing with her husband and began showing Christ's love to him.  The Bible says a believing wife sanctifies her husband.  It tells us she may win him without a word.  After many years of putting up with all of his garbage, she decided she had had enough and told him their marriage was over, but this happened ~

I was heading to church and he asked if he could go. I said if he wanted to go he could get there himself {believing this was manipulation}. I left and on my way home I saw him heading towards church. I couldn’t believe it! He came home from church and I suggested he go into a rehab program.  To my surprise he agreed and said he was ready to go into a Christian drug and alcohol restoration program. He was concerned about how we would make it financially while he was in the program since he was the bread winner. I told him not to worry about it, that God would provide {which He did miraculously}. We checked him in and it was there that he surrendered his life to Jesus Christ! It was there that Jesus took his alcohol addiction, sexual addiction and cigarette addiction away! That was in June of 2010. I never left his side as I saw that my husband was being transformed just as Saul had been to Paul!
I used to pray and ask Jesus to save my husband. I had no idea that he would give me a new amazing husband. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! This is exactly what happened to him. He is so loving, trustworthy and caring now. We had our daughter in October 2010. Since then have had one more girl and I am currently pregnant with our fifth child. 
I always loved the song Amazing Grace, but now the words have meaning to my husband and me that resonate throughout our very souls…Amazing grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me. Thank You Jesus for saving these two wretches! All glory and honor to our Savior!
You can read her whole story HERE.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Babies And Children NEED Full-Time Mothers

People say it is okay for mothers to work part-time, leaving their babies and children with others. This is not true. Babies and children need their mothers. God gave mothers breasts for a reason. They are to give consistent daily nourishment to their babies for the first year or two of their lives. Around one years old, the baby cries every time the mother leaves the room. He/she mourns being separated from mother. It is a natural, healthy instinct God has given them.

Up until WW2, mothers were consistently with their babies and children no matter how poor they were. Mothers have the nurturing nature that children need. God tells us we are to be keepers at home. This means we are to be keepers at home, raising and nurturing our own children. Listen to your heart ~ to the quiet yet insistent voice coming from deep within you and urging you to be with your baby.

The first step lies in taking a stand against the all too prevalent thinking that added income will solve all of a family's problems. If this added income means separation of mother and baby, then it may not be the solution; it may be a new source of stress. The long-range effects of separation are seldom as easy to correct as a temporary shortage of funds. Home is your base of operation, and some of your best work will be conducted in your rocking chair.

What a baby needs most is mother. Being there is the most precious gift, after life, that you can give your child. To the infant, mother is an extension of self. He feels complete only when close to her. {When Erin leaves the room for even a moment, my one-year old grandson begins wailing and crawling after her. He can be happily playing one minute with mommy in view and completely come unglued when she leaves the room.} 

All future accomplishments rest on the foundation laid in the early years. "My husband and I want to put our personal mark on our children, and unless I'm there all the time for them, our mark is weakened. The time when we have the greatest influence on each child is so short, just about five years, and then peers and other adults start to become a larger part of children's lives."

In the early years, the baby has an intense need to be with his mother that is as basic as his need for food. Mothers and babies need each other. The time a mother spends with her little one is the rich soil that nourishes motherliness. In the long run, it can affect the long-term relationship between mother and child.

It has been determined that children who don't have the benefit of a single, sustained contact with a loving mother-figure for at least the first 3 years of their lives, will manifest a diminished capacity to love others, impaired intellectual powers, and an inability to control their impulses, particularly in the area of aggression. 

A mother must make a decision about who deserves the "first call" on her time. If she decides her baby and her family deserve not just a small portion of her time but a large quantity of quality time, then she knows what she must choose. In the upcoming chapters we'll offer you a way to make being at home an economic possibility in addition to being the choice of your heart.

The words in italic are all taken from a book called The Heart Has Its Own Reasons. I encourage all of you who want to be keepers at home and the ones who raise your children to read it. It was written by La Leche League and many mothers who wrote them explaining the importance of being home and how they did it. It is not from a Christian perspective but gives profound reasons why children need their mothers home with them on a consistent basis in order to learn to properly bond with others proving what God has commanded is true.

Teach young be keepers at home.
Titus 2:5

Monday, April 21, 2014

Steven Found His Texas "Duggar" Gal!

Last fall, I told Ken I would love for Steven to find a girl like one of the Duggar girls. As you know, I love that show and admire their love and commitment to Jesus. I wanted Steven to find a wife who loves Jesus deeply and that love permeates all of her life.

Last November, he went out to coffee with Emily. She was busy with grad school finals and was pretty stressed out. Nothing happened from that time together. After Christmas vacation, Steven went back to school and decided to go out with her one more time. This time they both clicked immediately and have been inseparable since.

She came out to visit us last month and told me that she loves the Duggars! She watches them all the time and admires them also. Emily was raised very similar to Steven. She is also the third of four children, the same as Steven. Her parents raised all four of their children to love and walk with Jesus. All of her siblings continue their commitment to Him.

Steven knew within three weeks of their date in January that she was the one for him. Her parents love him and we love Emily. They are just perfect for each other and enjoy the same things. Their goals and vision for the future are the same also, so they are excited to spend the rest of their lives together loving each other and serving Jesus {and watching the Duggars with each other...Steven's favorite show...not! :)}

He proposed on Saturday evening and they are getting married in 
August. When she posted this picture on Facebook she wrote above it, "We're engaged and I am going to marry the man of my dreams!!!!" We are all so very excited for this very special couple!

Congratulations, Steven and Emily!

Who can find a virtuous woman? 
For her price is far above rubies.
Proverbs 31:10

Sunday, April 20, 2014

What Easter Really Means

When Christ died, we died. When He was buried, we were buried. When He rose again, we rose with Him and now we sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus. {Ephesians 2:4-6} We are now new creatures in Christ. We are dead and freed from sin. We have been rescued from the kingdom of darkness and placed into the kingdom of His dear Son.

Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into His death? Therefore we are buried with Him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. For if we have been planted together in the likeness of His death, we shall be also in the likeness of His resurrection. Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. For he that is dead is free from sin. Now if we be dead with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him; ...Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Romans 6:2-11

What Christ did for us is nothing compared to Easter bunnies, eggs, and baskets. We will never be able to comprehend the grace He has bestowed upon us until we one day see Him face to face. He now calls us saints and His chosen people.

The whole plan of salvation is a beautiful love story written by the hand of God. All He asks is that we believe in Him. Then learn of Him, walk with Him, love Him and love others. He has done all the work and now lives inside of us mightily to accomplish all that He commands.

He tells us 365 times not to fear. He wants us to trust Him. He's got it 
all under control. He has conquered sin and death so now rejoice in Him always! 

This is the day that the Lord hath made;
we will rejoice and be glad in Him.
Psalm 118:24