Thursday, February 11, 2016

Living a Life of Repentance?

Christians often speak of living a life of repentance. After my study of Romans and understanding that we are dead and freed from sin, I decided I was going to look up all of the verses having to do with repentance and see if there were any that said we needed to live a life of repentance. {I will only study those verses in the New Testament.}

I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish {Luke 13:3} Yes, in order to be saved, we must repent of our evil deeds and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. After doing this, we are saved for eternal life.

Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost {Acts 2:38}. This is the same thing as the previous verse. Repentance is a one time act of confession and believing that Christ has paid for ALL of our sins. Once we believe, we are filled with the Holy Spirit.

Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord; {Acts 3:19} One time act again. When we repent and believe, our sins are blotted out, meaning they are remembered no more!

Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance? {Romans 2:4} God's goodness leads us to the repentance of our sins and we then begin a life as a saint; cleansed in the precious blood of the Lamb. This is a one time act and it is finished. We are made righteous and have been given the salvation of our souls.

Now I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because your grief led to repentance. For you were grieved as God willed, so that you didn't experience any loss from us. For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death {2 Corinthians 7:9, 10} Here is how Matthew Henry's commentary explains these verses, "Sorrow according to the will of God, tending to the glory of God, and wrought by the Spirit of God, renders the heart humble, contrite, submissive, disposed to mortify every sin, and to walk in newness of life. And this repentance is connected with saving faith in Christ, and an interest in his atonement. There is a great difference between this sorrow of a godly sort, and the sorrow of the world. The happy fruits of true repentance are mentioned. Where the heart is changed, the life and actions will be changed." Again, this repentance is a one time action that leads to the salvation of our souls and changed behavior for true repentance changes us.

The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance {2 Peter 3:9}. God wants all to come to repentance and not perish; a one time event that saves our souls.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness {1 John 1:9}. A one time event that Jesus' death on the cross does for us after we repent; He makes us righteous by cleansing us from all unrighteousness. The next time we sin doesn't make us unrighteous again. No, once we repent of our sins, we are made righteous. It is a one time finished work in us. It is a miracle.

Therefore, there is nothing in the Bible that says we are to live a life of repentance. No, once we repent of our sins and become righteous, God asks that we be thankful and grateful for all He has done for us. If we sin against someone, we quickly apologize to them and ask for forgiveness {Matthew 5:23}. If we have a sin in our life, we confess it to others and pray we'll be healed from it {James 5:16}. 

Yes, we are sorry when we sin but then we remember that He cleansed us from all unrighteousness, we are dead and freed from sin and we thank Him once again for the marvelous work He performed in us on the day that we repented and believed in His finished work for us! This is what we should be focused upon instead of living a life of repentance. Faith is believing what you can't see nor understand; how sinners like us are called righteous, called saints and given eternal life.

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Beautifying Your Home

It doesn't matter if you live in an old runned down condemned building like my parents lived in when they were first married or a large suburban home with all the new and updated appliances; it is our job to make our homes beautiful for a good wife is a good housekeeper. When the Bible commands older women to teach younger women, one of the components is to teach them to be keepers at home. This doesn't mean they spend their time at home lounging around watching soap operas, reading romantic novels or spending a lot of time on the Internet or smart phone. It means taking good care of the home the Lord has blessed you with.

"The wife who would be happy, and make her home happy and permanently beautiful, must work with her hands at the housewifely tasks which the days in turn bring to her...In other words, good breakfasts, lunches and dinners, a well-kept house, order, system, promptness, punctuality, good cheer...There certainly have been cases in which very tender love has lost its tenderness and when the cause lay in the disorder, the negligence and the mismanagement of the housewifery" {J. R. Miller}.

Yes, it's a tall order to keep a home running smoothly, plus being clean and tidy. However, if women would stop doing those things to entertain themselves and instead do those things that the Lord has called them to do, their homes would be beautiful. The Lord commands that we be lovers of God rather than lovers of pleasure. This includes keeping our homes beautiful, even if you have very little money. It is not gorgeous window coverings and expensive furniture and appliances that make a home beautiful; it is cleanliness and order. Clutter and dirt make even a perfectly decorated home ugly.

Therefore, it matters not how much money you have for even women in the olden days who had very little money, like my mother, could keep their homes beautiful by keeping it clean and uncluttered. This is your job from the Lord, women, so don't take it casually. Take it seriously and do your work as unto the Lord; being thankful and praising him that you have a home to beautify.

When you have small children, it is almost impossible to keep it orderly all of the time but teach your children from a young age to put back their toys right after they play with them. Teaching them to be clean and tidy will be a discipline that they will appreciate all of their life. Teach them to put their dishes in the dishwasher as soon as they are able. Don't buy a lot of toys and plastic junk for them. All children really need are balls, games, puzzles, crayons, coloring and reading books and a special doll for the girls. These things would keep them plenty occupied, plus a lot of time outside when possible.

Everyone loves going into a clean and tidy home, a beautiful home. As I have written in the past, a sedentary life is bad for your health. God created us to move. Use your moving to keep a beautiful home and a home of order. We weren't created to sit all day as many do today. We were created to move. If you are moving, you will create a beautiful home. This isn't optional, women. Keeping your home means to work hard in your home. If you work hard in your home, it will be beautiful.

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, 
as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23
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Tuesday, February 9, 2016

In Defense of "To Train Up a Child"

We never once pulled our children's hair or ears. We never slugged them anywhere or slapped them across their face. We rarely yelled at them. We never cussed at them and we never called them names. I was home full-time with them. I taught them all about Jesus and His Word. I made sure they were warm and well-fed. Ken worked hard to provide for them. He coached their sport's teams and taught them that life was not fair and other things they needed to know. We taught them that Alexander's don't fight with each other but loved each other instead. We loved our children deeply and sacrificed for them. They are all adults now who love the Lord and are happily married. We are close to all of them. Yet, some people believe we abused them when they were young because we gave them a few swats on their fanny when they were disobedient. This is how warped our culture has become.

Some countries have forbidden spanking a child; our country will be there one day soon unless there is a revival. The farther away the people of a nation stray from God's Word, the bigger and more powerful a government becomes and begins taking away freedoms from its people. They take away parent's freedom because they believe they know what's best for children instead of the parents.

The purpose for spanking a child is to train them to be obedient. When you ask them to do something, they should obey the first time you ask. The sooner you train them to obey you, the easier child raising will be for you. You don't want to have to count since this won't work if they're running into the street in front of a car or about to touch a hot stove. As soon as you say, "Stop!" they should stop. Train them to obey you the first time! It may save their life someday.

Many people who hate the Pearls send me links of what others have written about the Pearl's form of teaching saying they teach abuse. They never give me quotes directly from the book to state their case. Here, let me give you a few quotes from To Train Up a Child.

"Disciplinary actions can easily become excessive and oppressive if you set aside the tool of training and depend on discipline alone to do the training." {page 9} Training takes a lot more than a few swats on the bottom. It takes time talking to them and explaining right from wrong. It's teaching them the Word of God and having them hide it deep in their hearts. We only spanked our children when they were very young and it was only when they were disobedient so they would begin obeying us. By the time they were five years old, they were obedient to us and happy children. Children need and want boundaries. They want to learn self-control for without it, life is much more difficult. In fact, women from the chat room have thanked me for keeping boundaries in it. Everyone appreciates boundaries in their lives for without them, chaos reigns.

"The average parental response to a disobedient child is to lecture him, shame him, or deprive him of some privilege. His parents may make him go to his room or sit in a corner, or jerk him around and administer a few hasty slaps. Finally, they top it off with a threat and dismiss him with a scowl. A child thus denigrated will not be released from his guilt or rebellion. On the contrary, it will only provoke him to react in anger and make excuses. Accusations, threats, and ridicule, which are forms of intimidation, may cause the child to yield temporary compliance, but his heart of uncleanness remains, and his self-image degrades. He may fall in to a pattern commonly labeled 'self-loathing.'" {page 43} We never did any of these things when our children were disobedient. A few swats on their behind that hurt. They clearly knew what they had done wrong. They felt remorseful and repentant afterwards and it was over. There was no more guilt and they went happily on. It was dealt with quickly and was over. There was no abuse here. Many parents end up abusing their disobedient children while they are growing up with no discipline so they threaten, ridicule, jerk them around, etc. All of which are not profitable at all and don't train a child to be obedient.

"There are always some who act in the extreme. These individuals are capable of using what has been said about the legitimate use of the rod to justify ongoing brutality to their children." {page 50} This is why the Pearls were never persecuted for the deaths of the children whose parents had their book in their home. They clearly teach against abuse.

"The rod should never be a vent for parents' anger...Where the supreme motivation is anything other than the child's good, it is inevitable that such behavior by the parent will assuredly create problems." {page 51} Many people today have deep-seated anger problems from their childhood. Divorce causes anger. Lack of disciplining from childhood causes anger. Not being loved as a child causes anger. If you can't spank your children without anger controlling you, don't spank. The whole premise of this book is to TRAIN your child to one day be a self-controlled, hard-working adult who loves the Lord. 

If your children don't obey you; if you don't enjoy them; if you're at a loss as to how to discipline and raise them, I encourage you to read this book. It is full of biblical wisdom and has raised generations of disciplined and happy children!

Train up a child in the way he should go: 
and when he is old, he will not depart from it 
{Proverbs 22:6}. 

***On another note, here is the schedule the CDC has for vaccinating your children. Please be very wise when it comes to putting this many vaccinations into your child's body!

Monday, February 8, 2016

By Divine Appointment ~ Chapter Twelve

Written by Happy Homemaker
The only position where you will find real fulfillment as a woman
 is as a help meet to your husband.*

Let me begin by saying I love the title of this chapter; knowing that my divine appointment is being a help meet to my husband.

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God" {I Corinthians 11:3}.

"For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body" {Ephesians 5:23}.

Your husband, dud that he may "appear" to be, is appointed by God to be your immediate Superior Officer in the chain of command. Your position under him is where God put you for your own spiritual, emotional, and physical safety. It is the only position where you will find real fulfillment as a woman.*

I am sure there are many women that may find this offensive. I admit that had I been reading my Bible when I first married, I probably would have been offended by the above verses as well as the statement by Debi. Now, however, I love these verses and others that clearly tell me how I am to live my life as a help meet to my husband. Before reading this book, I often had sinful thinking and believed lies that feminism would have you believe. 

I struggled with this for a long time, but I have to admit that God's ways are always best. There are sometimes I just want my husband to agree with me on a decision and he doesn't. I submit to his decision, but  with the attitude that my way really would be better {needless to say, I am pretty hard-headed}. On more than one occasion, God has given me a glimpse of what would have happened had we done it my way and I am shown once again that my husband was right. I have this problem of sometimes trying to base decisions on emotions and thankfully my husband can see past this. And even if my way would have been better, it would have been wrong because my husband is to lead our family, and if I do what I want, I am trying to take that God-given leadership role away from him {even if I tried, my husband would not allow me to lead or have my way just because I wanted it, and I am thankful for this}. 

You must answer to God for how you obey the one he placed over you. It takes faith in God to trust him when all you seem to see is one carnal man leading you- to "God only knows where." *

When I first read this book, I would respond by thinking "that's not fair, what if he uses me as a doormat because I submit, etc..."  First off, let's talk about "fair"- was it "fair" that Jesus, a sinless man, died on the cross for my sins so that I could have salvation?-- That puts it in a whole new perspective, doesn't it? And, then once I started submitting, I realized my husband would not treat me like a doormat, it was basically a fear tactic I was buying into. You see, my submitting shows my husband that I respect and trust him to lead us.

 We came forth from man's ribs and were created for him. We are a part of him.

"For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." *

This is my favorite "romantic" story. It thrills me to know that I was created for my husband; that my very design is for my husband. My purpose in life is to be a good help meet for him. Your husband is the glory of God, and you are the glory of your husband-- wow, now let that sink in! God created you to be a glory to your husband. Are you a glory if you don't submit and are constantly questioning his leadership and authority, or are you a thorn in his side and another hassle he has to deal with? You could have no better job or career than to be what God created you for. Feminism would have you be ashamed to be a submissive wife; I say there is no joy unless you are living as you were created by God, to be a help meet to your husband.

It is not good that man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him {Genesis 2:18}. Read that verse again, I will make an help meet FOR him, not a help meet to be his conscience, or question him; a help meet FOR him. Next time you are struggling with submission, ask yourself, am I FOR him? or am I going against him?

It was God's design, before the fall, that the woman's desire would be to her husband and that he would rule over her. This relationship was not punishment, but after the fall it would be a source of suffering for the woman. God created the woman to be the helper of the man-a sinless man. Now that she has lead him into sin, she is still his helper, her desires are still focused on him and his goals, and he will still rule over her as before-but now he is sinful, selfish, and carnal.*

Okay, I had to look this up to be sure; I had never heard anyone talk about  God's design for women before the fall. I found it to be true {Genesis 2:20}, and I also found out something else. According to Genesis 2:15, Adam's job was to dress and keep the garden of Eden. After the fall, his job was made harder because now there thorns and thistles. So neither of their "jobs" changed, only the difficulty of the job. Eve's design was to be a help meet to Adam, and sin didn't change this; sin only changed how hard it would be. God established that Eve would be a help meet to Adam before the fall, not after as I always believed.

It is not a question of being qualified; it is a matter of being authorized. God has established an order for the home, a chain of command that is consistent with the very nature of men and women. It is an order from the throne of Heaven that is healthiest and best for rearing of children and for the good of marital relationships.*

"Let your women keep silence in the churches: [Paul gives this as a New Testament mandate] for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law" {I Corinthians 14:34}. 
Paul anticipates those who would say that his commands concerning women are unique to a specific culture and not universally applicable. He points out that there is nothing new or unique about this command, for the law of the Jews had made such a distinction for hundreds of years.*

I have often heard people explain this by saying it was the culture of the time, and then again have heard these same people tell me "God's word is unchanging"-- that seems a little contradictory to me. I prefer to take God's word for what it says here. I don't believe in women "preachers" or women teaching men. I believe older women can teach the younger women {Titus 2:3} but not other men. It is not a question of being qualified; it is a matter of being authorized. But I know what God teaches about women, and I know that for you to be happy---really happy--- as I have been happy, you must follow and abide in God's role for women.*

I am another example of this. Before I read the book and learned about submission, I thought I was a good wife. I obeyed on the big things and I used technicalities for others {after all, if he didn't tell me not to do something, how could I be wrong, even though I knew he wouldn't like it?}. I am ashamed of the wife I was then, and while I am not perfect, I have peace that I am living as God has called me to. My husband is the head of our home; he leads us and his decision is final. And really, unless you have been practicing submission, I don't know that I can explain to you the peace that is in my heart from it. I wondered at first if I would be a doormat, but that is the biggest lie that I chose to believe. Our home is happier and more joyful now that I am not fighting my design and my husband. Now that proper leadership and authority has been established {husband, wife, children} in our home, there's more fun. We all know our place and I am thrilled to be his wife! Amazing things happen when you follow God's design for you.

When someone tells you that the Greek doesn't read submit, obey, or silence, just ask that person, "How is your marriage? Would you say it is glorious? Will God use your marriage as an example in Heaven of how he wants Christ and the Church to be?"*

This was my favorite part of the entire chapter. -----How is your marriage? I have been known to ask women this when they want to tell me that I am wrong for submitting and obeying. I have even asked a couple, "Are you truly happy? Can you lie down at night and feel confident that not obeying your husband is the right thing?" Some may tell you that yes, they are truly happy and I believe they are just lying to themselves, otherwise why are they so anxious and stressed about their marriage all the time? But for me, at the end of the day, I don't answer to them. I answer to God and my husband, and that is all that matters.

Traits of a Good Help Meet ~
* She fears God.
* She believes God's word as it is written
* She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command.*

Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to share this. 
I truly feel that my position as a help meet is a privileged command.
{The Happy Homemaker wrote this as my guest writer today!}

*Quotes from the book.