Friday, March 27, 2015

Difficulty of Being an Older Woman

It's not easy being an older woman trying to teach young women in this day and age. Submission is a dirty word. Keepers at home doesn't really mean being at home. Modesty doesn't include bikinis since everyone wears bikinis and children should be able to rule the home. Firm discipline is a no-no.

I teach things so contrary to even Christian women. All of the excuses I mentioned above have been thrown at me by Christian women. If you want to be an older woman who teaches young women, you must develop a tough outer shell and be confident in what you teach. Many older women just don't feel they can do it. It's difficult but knowing I teach the Truth of God's unchanging Word, having Ken's support, along with my Mom and Dad and many others, helps tremendously!

Satan has so manipulated the word submission that it is barely recognizable today. Most Christian marriages don't want to say there is one leader in the home. Both spouses are the leader. Little do they realize that a submissive wife is a strong woman. It takes strength to give up your will and trust your husband to lead. It takes strength to honor and resepect his wishes knowing that when you obey your husband, you are obeying God.

Many older women have a difficult time teaching young women to be keepers at home since they have careers and are hardly ever home. God commands older women to teach young women and I know this is a ministry that is badly needed in our churches today. Yes, I realize some women have no choice but to work. I am addressing those older women who want to work so they can have more money and stuff, instead of ministering to the young women around them in any way they can.

Modesty means different things to different peoples and cultures. The best way to find out what modesty is is to ask a godly man his honest opinion. He will most likely tell you the more flesh, the more difficult it is to not lust. Bikinis are NOT modest.

Concerning children; no, parents are to rule the roost. When children rule, chaos reigns. It isn't easy to discipline your children but it is something that needs to be done. 

If God commands that older women teach young women, it only makes sense that young women should have teachable hearts, willing to listen to older women who have good marriages and raised godly children. If you can't listen to them and trust their wisdom and experience, who can you listen to?

I just received this comment from a woman who I shared these thoughts with, "I agree, we need more women not repackaging the Word, as to not offend modern Christian women. Modern? God is timeless and His Word transcends the ages. Modern is an excuse to continue living from a position of "self," packaged as new and improved. How quickly we forget how appealing deception is; one of the empty promises of sin. Continue boldly speaking and teaching Truth. What a mighty ministry you have been entrusted to carry out. As Pastor Bob often reminds us, 'If the Truth is not acceptable to you, you are welcome to leave.'" ;-)

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; 
but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, 
having itching ears.
2 Timothy 4:3

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Feminist's Lie ~ "It's All About You!"

Sarah Ellis, in her best selling book The Women of England: Their Social Duties and Domestic Habits {1839}, articulated a set of widely accepted beliefs about the "natural" roles of men and women; in this formulation, men are "naturally" suited to striving in the public world to advance themselves and their families, while the "innate" moral beauty and selflessness of women make them ideally suited to the vocation of the home and raising children.

After reading this, I thought about all the ways we, as a society, have suffered since departing from these well-defined God-given roles between the sexes. First, let's take the issue of women getting an education. I am all for women getting educated. The problem comes with WHERE they get educated. If they are educated in the public school system, they are in a school that is mandated to be anti-God which is completely opposite of what God has commanded we teach our children and who we should be learning from.

I believe women should have the opportunity to become teachers and nurses or whatever they want if that is what they desire as long as they can leave these professions without a lot of school debt when they get married and have children. I am seeing too many women so wrapped up in their education and career that when the man of their dream comes along, they can't pick up and leave to be with him. He is now saddled with her huge debt load and many times trying to fit his schedule into hers. She was created to be his help meet, not the other way around. 

Women working before they get married is okay if this is what they want to do. Even once they get married, it is probably okay as long as they can be the help meet in every way to their husband that the Lord has called them to be. Are they able to keep their homes neat and tidy? Are they able to fix nourishing meals? Are they able to have the energy for many intimate times with their husband? Are they free to have and raise children as soon as they get married? 

Every couple must ask these questions and make sure their marriage and raising godly offspring is a top priority. Way too often, couples put their marriage and having children on the back burner and financial wealth as a priority. "Our society is so captivated with earning money, having money, and spending money that we can think of nothing else. NOTHING in Scripture and in the chosen lifestyle of Christ could be clearer: Wealth is NOT an objective of the spiritual life" {Dr. Richard Swenson}.

Once women have children, however, I believe wholeheartedly that they need to be home full-time with their children since they are the ones with the God-given qualities children need as they are growing up and every indication from the Word shows us that God intends mothers to be the ones raising their children, since they know them best and love them the most.

Feminists lied to women and made them think life was all about us. It is NOT all about us. When we only think about ourselves, our happiness, and our fulfillment as the feminist movement promised, destruction lies in its wake. When women wanted to become men and "strive in the public world to advance themselves," many of them left their homes and families in the dust. We can see the consequences of this all around us. Divorce has skyrocketed, single mothers are becoming more the norm than the exception, and latch-key children are coming home to cold, empty homes with no training or supervision.

The words by Sarah Ellis correspond to God's given roles for the sexes. He built us differently for different roles. Children need their mothers just as much as mothers need their children. When mothers work, the husband is the one neglected. When the husband is neglected, divorce is too often the outcome. When divorce happens, the children suffer greatly. The only person made happy with mothers working outside of the home is the mother who fell for the lie that it's all about her. Everyone else, including society, has suffered. 

Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house, 
Your children like olive plants around your table.
Psalm 128:3

***I realize that some mothers have to work, however, 
God's ideal is something we should all strive to fulfill since His ways are best.

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Stretching Her Husband's Hard Earned Income

She is an amazing woman who made an incredibly long comment on my post Making It On One Income. {You might want to go read it along with all the other wonderful comments!} She does everything she can to live within her husband's income even if it means sacrificing some of the pleasures in life. Most women today simply put things on their credit card, thus digging their family deeper and deeper into debt. This is NOT a good way to live. Stuff will never bring happiness and debt makes us a slave. Why not learn from this very thrifty woman! Here, in her words, is how she does it.

We breastfeed, use cloth diapers, napkins, 'mama cloth', 'family cloth', line dry, solar cook, burn wood for heat that we harvest ourselves. We cook on the wood stove, buy all clothes that we NEED second hand {except socks and underwear}. We pick as many wild blackberries as we can during the summer and freeze them. 

I make my own cleaning products, personal care products, and most condiments. I would also add that we have a child with multiple severe food allergies, and I do buy our staple foods in organic versions and make all my own baked goods, treats, etc. from healthier ingredients. 

We have SLOW Internet, no cable. No smart phones. No fancy gadgets. We do have newer vehicles, one that we are still paying on, and my hubby just bought a motorcycle for its fuel efficiency for his commute. We have a small backyard flock of chickens for egg and for meat. 

We use natural lighting and open the windows when it gets hot; we don't turn the A/C on until it gets to 85 degrees. We unplug all of our electronics when not in use, except for the fridge, upright freezer, alarm clock and the electricity that runs our well pump. My kids don't do organized sports. If they get a gift that they really don't like, we store it to re-gift to a friend. We don't do big birthday parties; just milestone birthdays. We limit their Christmas gifts to 5 things; a want, a need, a wear, a book and a new Christmas ornament. 

Vacations consist of visiting family in another state. We limit driving. We limit eating out, or impulse shopping; we stick to the grocery list. If the kids don't leave the house or play outside, they don't take baths. When they do bathe, they share bathwater. I clean the shower with baking soda when I take my shower. We ask for new shoes from grandparents at birthdays and Christmas. 

I work at our local YMCA to get a free family membership. We got rid of all of our carpeting so I could just sweep the floor and not have to use electricity to vacuum. We hardly ever, ever go to the movies, if we do its the second run theater. We don't have expensive hobbies, or participate in expensive activities. I sell things we no longer need on EBay. I could go on and on. I'm always looking for ways not necessarily to SAVE money, but to stretch my husband's hard earned income more. 

Moreover it is required in stewards,
that a man be found faithful.
I Corinthians 4:2

***Here is a GREAT post!

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

What Do You Wish Your Parents Did Differently?

In the chat room, I asked the women, "If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?" Not ONE woman said that she wished her mom had a career and worked more from outside the home so they could have more stuff. Not one said they wished they had more fast food and came home to an empty home. Not one wished her parents would have gotten divorced.

Many shared how they wished their mom taught them how to cook and clean. Some wished their mom was home more and gave them more chores to learn responsibility. They wish their parents got along better and didn't argue. Some would have loved being raised in a Christian home. Here are some of the comments in their own words. {I removed their names to protect their privacy.} May we learn from them!

I was never made to do anything; never had chores or had to clean anything. Anytime I was told to clean my room or something, if I didn't do it, mom would do it for me. Never was punished or made to do anything. Learning to keep my house clean was a huge challenge for me. Still is.

I wish I would have learned to cook more, too. I pretty much had to teach myself. I have a lot of the same struggles.

My parents prioritized high grades over keeping my room clean, chores, and cooking. Great idea for raising an independent woman; not so great for training as a future stay-at-home mom. I didn't even know how to make pancakes from a box mix when I got married! I also wished I would have learned to sew while I lived at home and could ask my mom.

I wish my mom had taught me how to keep a home. She didn't ever teach me how to cook, clean, sew or anything. She didn't know how to do any of these things herself, so I grew up in a filthy home and eating TV dinners the majority of the time.

That they were more demonstrative with their love; meaning hugs and kisses. That dad was more of the leader of the family in certain areas.

I wish my mom would've been at home. Both my parents worked two jobs a piece until I was in high school. I was left to fend for myself while my little sister was in daycare. Children shouldn't be responsible for raising themselves.

That my parents had a second child and raised me in church.

To be raised in a Christian home and taught about Christ. Although my parents were/are awesome, they weren't Christian. I didn't get saved until about 4 years ago and didn't regularly go to church until around that time either.

I wish we had healthier meals. We ate too much fast food as we were always busy. Also, I wish I was allowed to be a kid more, instead of being forced to take sides in my parent's disagreements.

Are there some things you wish your parents did differently while raising you? It is good to learn from other's mistakes so we don't make the same while raising our children!

That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing,
 being fruitful in every good work, 
and increasing in the knowledge of God.
Colossians 1:10