Monday, September 1, 2014

A Husband can Decide the Family Rules???


 Cabinetman recently had a blog, but closed it down. He use to comment on some of my posts. Women either loved his words or hated them. He wrote a "controversial" post on his blog which wasn't so unusual! His blog was directed at men and many were offended by his words. Just because you don't agree 100% with what someone writes, doesn't mean you have to get offended, for love is not easily offended. I love what he wrote to husbands once ~

It is okay to tell her she is not going to work a job.  That you’re going to home school.  That you are going to find a church that is biblical.  That you're going to spank your kids when they flat out disobey.  That you will not allow credit card debt.  That you will have sex three times a week.  That she is not allowed to hang out with that woman.  It’s okay to tell your woman to put the apple down! {Referring to Adam and Eve}

These words will most undoubtedly make most women's skin crawl. It is very difficult to be in submission to someone and allow them to have control. It is very scary! However, God established families in a certain way. He made the husband the leader and the head of the home. He alone is responsible how he leads his family, not you.

The majority of husbands will ask for their wives' input before making big decisions, especially if they have a wife that honors and respects him. After giving our opinions, we have to allow our husbands to make the final decision. He is accountable to God to lead and we are accountable to God to follow, unless he asks us to sin or causes harm to us or our children.

I think too many men are afraid of their wives. We are so good at using our emotions and feelings to manipulate our husbands. {I am speaking from personal experience!} Our desire is to rule over our husbands {Genesis 3:16} but we must allow them to be the leaders of the family. If they make a mistake in their decision making that isn't one of the above exceptions, they will learn from it. Better to learn from a mistake then tear down your husband's leadership and ultimately, your marriage.

One woman commented on his post with, "Great post! I would take exception with the 'we will have sex 3 times a week' part. I believe there was a good reason God had Paul write that the marriage bed is a place of mutual authority as described in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. But this is such a minor point and probably not worthy of debate."

Cabinetman came back with, "You are right, it should have said 4 times a week! I was trying to be gentle and full of grace by saying 3. But in some homes that will be different & each man needs to lead his wife as needed within scripture."

So if you aren't afraid of your man reading his blog, tell him about it and then let him decide whether or not he wants to read it. {I wrote this before he shut it down and will let you all know if he starts a new one!} Just warning you! It is not for the faint of heart. {And I will say it again, you don't have to agree with everything someone writes! I disagree with a lot of writers but I certainly don't get upset with them and belittle them. Sometimes I will challenge them on their thoughts, but it's their blog and they can write what they want.}

Therefore as the church is subject unto their Christ, 
so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Ephesians 5:25

As the church can't tell Christ how to run the church, we are not 
suppose to tell our husbands how to run our family.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

Don't Let Satan Steal Your Joy!



The main thing that most women I mentor have lost is their joy. They exhibit no joy, especially towards their husbands. They have allowed circumstances, feelings, and/or emotions to steal all of their joy. They have completely forgotten the riches they have in Christ and that the joy of the Lord is our strength.

Ken and I mentored a young couple years ago who were high school sweethearts and were full of joy. She was eager to be a godly help meet to her husband. They wanted a marriage that glorified the Lord and I believe they are accomplishing this goal. The Lord blessed them with beautiful twins. Recently she wrote this on her Facebook page ~

Y'all the coolest thing just happened. I was all grouchy and tired and the babies were being fussy. And I just put on some worship music and prayed for more joyful heart and the craziest thing happened. It was like instantly I felt so much joy and peace and contentment and I remembered the saying that the mom is the thermostat of the home. She sets the mood of the home and now the babies are being so good and playing by themselves.  I was able to clean the kitchen and make two batches of baby food and do laundry. God is so awesome how sometimes he immediately answers prayers.

Then I read these words by Michael Pearl ~ “If you know God, and you’re saved, and you have a productive, fruitful life, you’re going to be joyful. You’re going to be happy. I don’t know any joyful people that are unhappy. Joy is not some abstract theological doctrine. It is something that’s on your face, in your lips, in the muscles of your body, when you’re joyful. Everybody knows you’re joyful."

Too many wives have lost their joy. They have allowed their husband’s imperfections to cause them to be moody and unappreciative. When they do this, it simply pushes their husbands farther away from them. God commands that we REJOICE always! He wants His people to be known for their joy and happiness. He forbids grumbling and complaining. We are to shine like stars in a dark universe!

Choose to be happy! It is a choice you get to make every day and we, wives, have a powerful influence on the happiness meter in our home. If we choose to be happy, most likely we will raise happy children and will draw our husband to us. There are abundant riches to being joyful!

A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: 
but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.
Proverbs 15:13

Saturday, August 30, 2014

Does God Bless Junk Food?


A woman I was with recently believes that as long as we ask God to bless our food, He will bless it. We shouldn't worry about what we eat but just make sure we pray over it. I challenged her on this belief and asked her if someone chooses to eat french fries, pizza, and coke at every meal and asks God to bless it, will the food not affect him negatively? She didn't know how to respond to this.

God gave us common sense. He created food for us to eat. We should all know that the food God created for us to eat is the best food to nourish our bodies. How can man possibly make something better for us than God? He can't. God created us and knows what is best for us.

If you believe you can eat anything you want and it won't affect your health, you are testing God and He doesn't like this. Up until 100 years ago, no one had the choice between God's food and junk food. Everyone ate from their own gardens and farms or other's gardens and farms. There was no toxic fertilizers, pesticides, hormones, or steroids. The air and the water weren't contaminated. Once sanitation became implemented, many of the diseases cleared up. Now, we are experiencing the diseases of a rich nation {cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.} who caters to taste buds instead of healthy bodies.

It is well known that food created the way God created it is healthier for us. Even the Cancer Society recommends numerous portions of fruits and vegetables a day. There are many articles being published today about the value of eating food in its natural state.

I believe the bottom line is discipline. We are a nation of undisciplined people who would rather eat what we want, when we want, instead of showing self-control and eating what we know is good for us. Eating healthy is a lot of work. You must shop more, chop more, and cook more. You must read labels {although I think it is best not to buy food in a can or box} and know what is in your food. It is a lot easier and convenient to just buy pre-made everything and zap it in the microwave or go out to dinner and let others prepare your food with who-knows-what. I love what Michael Pearl wrote in his latest magazine, "When scientists perform genetic modification on our seeds, they are assuming they are wiser than God"{Revelation 11:18}.

God gave us wisdom. He gave us food. He even gave us common sense. We need to use these in all of our decisions in how we live our lives. No, it shouldn't become an idol as many accuse those of us who care about what goes into our bodies, although most of them idolize their junk food! Eat as healthy as you can and then leave the rest up to the Lord. We do live in a very toxic world so we have little control . The only thing we really can control at all is what goes in our mouth.

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, 
or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
I Corinthians 10:31

Food Babe is someone I would recommend you reading!

Friday, August 29, 2014

Glorifying God and Having a Blast!


These were the two goals Steven and Emily had for their wedding; glorify God during the wedding and then hoping everyone has a blast at their reception. Mission accomplished! Emily walked down the isle to the Doxology and then the song we sung was Great is Thy Faithfulness. The minister preached Jesus and the purpose of marriage. JB, Ken's best friend, read scripture. It all glorified God!

The reception was a BLAST!!! The food was wonderful. The toasts were great. The dance floor was packed full the entire time. The groomsmen and the bridesmaids had a dance off that was hysterical! Randy, one of Steven's best friends, danced alone for awhile and was simply amazing and funny. All those on the dance floor knew numerous dances that they all did together. Texas people know how to dance! And it was decent and celebratory dancing. If you didn't see the short twelve minute video capturing the best of the evening, HERE it is again. It was a beautiful, amazing evening.

Weddings should be great times of celebrations! Two lives are joining into one and a whole new generation is being created. Jesus' first miracle was at a wedding, changing water into wine. It shows to us the importance He places on weddings and marriage for someday all of us will be eating together at the great feast in heaven when Christ is united once and for all with His bride, the church, us!

Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: 
for the marriage of the Lamb is come, 
and his wife hath made herself ready.
Revelation 19:7