Monday, October 3, 2016

Downright Cruel to Have a Baby Sleep Alone?

The Los Angeles Times has an article called It's Okay to sleep next to your infant child. In fact, it's beneficial. They wrote that sleeping with an infant is common in other cultures, therefore it is probably the best way to do it.

The American Academy of Pediatrics advises against parent-child co-sleeping, or “bed-sharing,” citing safety concerns from accidental suffocation or falls. Doctors worry that tired — or intoxicated — parents will roll onto their infants in the middle of the night without realizing it. Putting babies in cribs or cots in a separate room is also customary in Britain, Germany and other parts of Western Europe.

Much of the rest of the world believes it is “downright cruel to have a baby sleep alone.” There is so much contrary information out there; what is a mother supposed to do? Speak to your husband about it and see what he would prefer. This is the most important thing to do.

I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way in deciding how to do this, unless a mother is an alcoholic, drug addict, or heavy sleeper. I would accidentally sleep with my babies when they were infants while I was nursing and we would both fall asleep but most of the time, I would put them in their bed right by my bed up until six weeks old. Ken and I are such light sleepers that all of their little squeaks and noises would keep us awake. There was no way we could sleep with them in the same room for long. A mother and father getting no sleep or little sleep is not a good thing.

Also, it doesn’t matter what the rest of the world thinks or does. There are many women I know who always slept with their infants and raised great children. There are many women, like me, who didn’t sleep with their children and raised great children. This should never be a cause for conflict among mothers. They should do what their husbands want and feel comfortable with.

We made our infants sleep through the night by six weeks. I was too exhausted to be woken up all throughout the night. It was better for both of us when we had a good night sleep. A baby doesn’t know how to put themselves to sleep so every time they wake up, they cry. Allowing them to cry the first time they wake until they go to sleep will teach them that they can go to sleep without their mama. This didn’t harm my children at all.

Other mothers could never dream of allowing their babies to “cry it out” so they shouldn’t if they don’t want to as long as they aren't getting emotionally and physically distraught for lack of sleep. Then they need to allow their babies to cry so they can get to sleep. An terribly exhausted mother is not good for anyone. However, this is no cause for conflict either. It’s a non-issue in my mind. You’re not a better mom for whatever way you chose.

You’re a good mother if you raise your children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. Period. This is what is important to the Lord so it should be what is most important to us.