The main thing that most women I mentor have lost is their joy. They exhibit no joy, especially towards their husbands. They have allowed circumstances, feelings, and/or emotions to steal all of their joy. They have completely forgotten the riches they have in Christ and that the joy of the Lord is our strength.
Ken and I mentored a young couple years ago who were high school sweethearts and were full of joy. She was eager to be a godly help meet to her husband. They wanted a marriage that glorified the Lord and I believe they are accomplishing this goal. The Lord blessed them with beautiful twins. Recently she wrote this on her Facebook page ~
Y'all the coolest thing just happened. I was all grouchy and tired and the babies were being fussy. And I just put on some worship music and prayed for more joyful heart and the craziest thing happened. It was like instantly I felt so much joy and peace and contentment and I remembered the saying that the mom is the thermostat of the home. She sets the mood of the home and now the babies are being so good and playing by themselves. I was able to clean the kitchen and make two batches of baby food and do laundry. God is so awesome how sometimes he immediately answers prayers.
Then I read these words by Michael Pearl ~ “If you know God, and you’re saved, and you have a productive, fruitful life, you’re going to be joyful. You’re going to be happy. I don’t know any joyful people that are unhappy. Joy is not some abstract theological doctrine. It is something that’s on your face, in your lips, in the muscles of your body, when you’re joyful. Everybody knows you’re joyful."
Too many wives have lost their joy. They have allowed their husband’s imperfections to cause them to be moody and unappreciative. When they do this, it simply pushes their husbands farther away from them. God commands that we REJOICE always! He wants His people to be known for their joy and happiness. He forbids grumbling and complaining. We are to shine like stars in a dark universe!
Choose to be happy! It is a choice you get to make every day and we, wives, have a powerful influence on the happiness meter in our home. If we choose to be happy, most likely we will raise happy children and will draw our husband to us. There are abundant riches to being joyful!
A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance:
but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.