I was talking with a precious friend of mine yesterday and we were discussing my blog and she made this comment: "Marriage is difficult and takes a lot of hard work." I agreed and we hung up.
As I was getting ready for bed, I started to think about that statement. My friend is the most wonderful wife and mother. She serves her husband and children faithfully. I would have agreed with that statement until a few years ago.
If 1 means you have a very difficult marriage and 10 means your marriage is really easy, mine would have rated a 2 in the past...We argued all the time. He drove me crazy. Everything he did bothered me.
But then I read Created To Be His Help Meet and it changed everything. It took lots of work for awhile. I had to bite my tongue and pretend to be cheerful around him. But practice makes perfect...
I eventually didn't want to argue anymore and I really was happy around him. I learned to not let my feelings dictate my actions. Now I would rate my marriage a 9, sometimes even a 10.
Some women's personality makes marriage easier for them. They are lay back, easy going, and nothing bothers them. I bet they think marriage is fairly easy. Women like me with strong, bossy personalities have a harder time not always speaking our minds.
Some women marry one type of man and he turns out to be another type after she marries him. Marrying an unbeliever, an angry man, or one with different goals and values would make it hard. Marrying one with a completely opposite personality than yours would be hard.
But mine was very hard and now it is very easy...so things can change. What do you all think? Is your marriage hard? Does it take a lot of work? Have you found things that make it easier?
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 18:22
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Tierra · 577 weeks ago
I feel like marriage can be really hard like during the adjustment period, when you're trying to get used to living together or like you said if you have a strong personality. I can relate because i have ALWAYS been bossy and am now LEARNING how to "boss femininely" when my husband is around the kids and I, however i need to do it full time not just when he is around! uh oh!! Marriage has been really hard for me, but I am in process like you mentioned here, I am learning to bite my tounge not defend the kids, not suggest to many things to do or volunteer his time etc..praictice will make perfect! I read Created to be his help meet and it stopped me dead in my tracks!! It was like a road map and I saw myself headed in the WRONG direction so I made a turn around. I may stumble along this road less traveled but boy is the view a whole lot prettier, the people a whole lot friendlier and the future a whole lot brighter! I love that book! That and fascinating womanhood. Now that I am practicing I'd say marriage went from a level 1 difficulty but balanced around a 4 or 5 level satisfaction, and now is blossoming into a 8,9,10!