Over 14 years ago, two neighbors and I were driving together to a funeral. On the way there, we were talking about our marriages and our husbands. One of the women told us there was not one thing she would change about her husband. We were shocked. "Wow! Really?"
They live across the street from us. They never argue and are madly in love with each other. They are both always gentle and kind to each other, never raising their voices or showing disrespect.
On the radio today, one woman said she decided to start acting nice to her husband and she said her husband changed on a dime. Dennis Prager then said most men change dramatically when they are treated nicely by their wives.
So having a good marriage is simple really, unless you are married to a very bad man. Love him just the way he is and treat him nicely. Doesn't everyone want to be treated this way? Shouldn't we treat all our family and friends this way?
Of course my neighbor's husband isn't perfect. Nobody is so we must not expect it of anyone. The people I enjoy being around the most are those who accept me just as I am and aren't critical of me.
We have so much control over our thoughts and behaviors. Begin with your thoughts. Change from critical thoughts to positive thoughts. Start being nice even if you don't feel like it. Do what is right instead of what you feel like doing. Then, maybe even your husband will change on a dime.
May the God of endurance and encouragement
grant you to live in such harmony with one another,
in accord with Christ Jesus,
that together you may with one voice
glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Romans 15:5,6