Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Keep Holding Hands!


A new commandment I give unto you, That you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.  By this shall all men know that you are my disciples, if you have love one to another. 
John 13:34,35

Jesus said we are known to the world as His disciples as the world sees us loving others, yet the state of Christian marriages is terrible.  Our divorce rate is not much better than those outside of the church.  Think what power to change society we would have if we obeyed God and loved our husbands.

As I mentor women, they finally see so clearly the lack of love so many of their married friends have for their husbands.  Their friends roll their eyes when their husbands speak, interrupt and correct them, and show disrespect towards them.  One young woman wanted me to mentor her because all of her Christian married friends were either very unhappily married or getting divorced.  This should not be.

We should be known for our love.  LOVING our husbands!!!

Ken and I walk around our neighborhood.  We try holding hands most of the time.  People have commented to us when they first meet us, "Oh, you are that couple that is always holding hands."  We realize how much people notice such a simple act, so we continue to hold hands.

When we are at a restaurant and I see a couple laughing and enjoying themselves, more times than not neither of them have wedding rings on.  Let's be those couples at restaurants that hold hands and laugh with each other that have wedding rings on.

We need to be an example to society how wonderful marriage is and that it is a very good thing.  Start obeying God and LOVE your husband.  That command written above is for you to really love your husband.  It isn't a feeling.  It is a choice, a decision.  As you start acting like you love your husband, even if and when he is unlovable, your actions will follow and you will be pleasing the Lord.

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Folks at the local store call us "love birds" because we always hold hands and enjoy each other's company.
this post made me feel bad I enjoy my husband so much and hold hands with him and laugh with him at restaurants, but I'm not wearing my wedding ring because of my fat pregnant fingers! jajajaja, I wonder if people actually think bad since he's wearing his. :P.. Thanks for the reminder, Lori. I too see that in christian married couples. I see many single women that desire marriage and I tell them how hard it is. But I was thinking the over day how hard it really is not when you have a wonderful conexion with your husband; actually that makes it easy. I enjoy my husband very much and I appreciate your advice and counsels that keep me going in that direction. God bless!
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ERDR'swifeMomof 12 · 653 weeks ago

After 12 children, 14 pregnancies, arthritis, having re-sized my rings numerous times, I learned to just wear SOMETHING pretty on the left ring finger. Currently it is a silver ring with aquamarine stone hubby gave me for Christmas. Better than nothing!!!
As far as holding hands, DO hold them, kiss them, squeeze them, stroke them, admire them. Without those faithful, hardworking hands, where would we be?!!!
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middlechild · 653 weeks ago

Your last sentence.....perfect for me to hear.
Such an encouraging post! I resolve to enjoy my husband's company always! Thanks for the reminder.
Stopping in from the link up. SO thrilled to have found your blog! :)
Thank you Lori for another encouraging post on marriage. Precious Husband and I will be married 29 years in November. I got a late start at the age of 34 but God's timing is perfect I know. Truly a good marriage is based not on feelings but on biblical decisions and commandments. Each day I "choose" to love my precious husband and that does make all the difference in our day.

Blessings from Arizona,
Dorothy
Hi! I found you through Women Living Well and I'm your newest follower! Thank you so much for this reminder! It's so easy to get caught up in "life" and "parenting" that we forget to show love toward one another! I will be more conscientious from now on!

Christie http://satisfactionthroughchrist.blogspot.com
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are you really that judgmental when you see a loving couple together yet they don't always have wedding rings on? There could be any number of reasons that they don't wear them- what if they were both nurses and couldn't wear them for work? And seriously women "disrespecting" their husbands. I'm a catholic and have a deep love for God and one day will share that with my husband but it's these "holier than thou" options from Christians that think they're better than everyone else, that their relationships are better than everyone else's that are the reason why people dislike Christians.

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