Saturday, September 3, 2011

The Birds And The Bees

This is a topic that your children MUST learn from you!  If they don't hear it from you, they will hear it somewhere else.  

I just read on another blog that their seven year old son came running home the other day nauseous and scared.  He was at a friend's home that was six years old and was taught and showed all about homosexual sex...At seven years old!  This little boy had hid behind the couch and watched pornography when his parents watched it...So sad!  

I didn't even know what homosexuality was until I was in junior high but it is a different society now, so you must educate your children early.

Ken sat the boys on his lap when they were young and told them all about sex.  We sent them to purity fitness camp and gave them a lot of good books to read.  We wanted them prepared for the battle.  I home schooled them through junior high.  I had heard that is when most boys are exposed to pornography.  I wanted to protect them from that as much as possible.  We taught them to "Flee it!

We were more concerned with our boys than our girls because their sexual drive is so much greater.  I tried being as open as possible with my girls.  I let them know how wonderful sex was inside of marriage.  They needed to save themselves for their future husbands.  I taught them about men's sex drive so they would understand men.  I told them they wouldn't feel like having sex sometimes after they were married, but we are taught not to deprive each other in Scripture.  I told them to learn to enjoy it, because it makes their husband so happy.

Before Erin got married, I answered any questions she had and gave her all the advice I had learned in my 30 years of marriage.  Alyssa and Cassi were there also.  I think it is good to learn from other Christian women...older and wiser women.  It was a very good discussion.

My encouragement to you is be open early and often.  We live in a highly sexualized society and they will see it unless you don't own a television and are vigilant.  It is good to be vigilant.  Their little minds can get warped so easily when they are young.  This is why the Bible admonishes us to "flee the sexual desires of youth."  They can cause a huge bondage in their lives that they may have to battle for many years.

Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.  
II Timothy 2:22

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  
Proverbs 22:6

P.S.  My sister taught her boys to bounce their eyes when they saw something inappropriate and they would...I saw them bounce their eyes while watching television if an immodestly dressed woman came on...very cute!  She writes a blog to them encouraging them in their walk with Jesus.  She wrote a post to them the other day how she and her husband are handling the empty nest syndrome.  They have been very honest with their children how much fun they have together as a couple...if you know what I mean  ;) !