This is for all you married people out there...I have a homework assignment for you. Memorize this and then live it out with your spouse ~
Let all bitterness,
and wrath,
and anger,
and clamor {a vehement expression of dissatisfaction},
and evil speaking,
be put away from you,
with all malice {desire to inflict harm or injury}:
And be kind one to another,
tenderhearted,
forgiving one another,
even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
Be ye therefore followers of God as dear children and walk in love.
Ephesians 4:31,32 and 5:1,2
Can you imagine how incredible marriages would become if believers actually bestowed this verse upon their marriage and were really kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving, and walking in love? THIS is how marriage is suppose to be, but it doesn't seem to be lived out in regards to marriage.
I was introduced to a woman recently. She was a beautiful woman. There was so much pain in her eyes. Both her and her husband are on their second marriage and they have several young children together. She said her marriage is a mess and she started telling me why.
Her husband isn't a Judas, an evil man, but a Peter, a good man that makes mistakes. I asked her if she ever smiles at him. She said, "Never." She told me so many things in her life are a mess. I told her that if her marriage becomes good all those trials will become a lot easier.
Nothing is easy or good when your marriage is going down the tank. She wants me to mentor her. She's crying out for help. I see it everywhere...people not applying Scripture to their marriage. They seem to apply it to their neighbors and friends, but not their spouses.
So I encourage you to memorize this passage. Let it dwell in you richly. Chew on it. Really understand what it is saying and then, with the Spirit's help {ask Him to help you}, start living it out with your spouse. Only good will come from it. I don't care about your spouse's behavior. You are only responsible for your own. Remember, you can only change yourself. Let God change your spouse.
