Respecting His Name

When I first start mentoring women, most of them just want to tell me all the negative things about their husbands that they don't like.  I let this go on for several weeks, then I ask them to not say anything negative about them anymore. {If they were being physically abused, it would be a different story but so far, I have not mentored a woman who was being physically abused.}

Many women love to complain about their husbands to anyone that will listen.  It is good for them to have an older, wiser woman they can go to and discuss true concerns with, but to speak negatively about him to others is wrong.  It damages his character and reflects poorly on them as wives.  As long as they are speaking negatively about their husbands, they will never treat them with the respect that God commands of them.  What we say and think about others always comes out in our actions towards them.

We must guard our husband's reputation and never speak ill of him, especially to our children.  We are to treat others the way we want to be treated and we sure wouldn't like it if he was speaking evil of us to our children.  A house divided falls.  Work on building a united and peaceful home for your children.

I always ask my young women to explain to me all the good things about their husbands, what made them fall in love with them, and to start dwelling on those qualities instead.  No husband is perfect and never will be so learn to accept them with their faults and speak highly of them to others.  This honors God, your husband, and his name which is so valuable.

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: 

but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. 

Proverbs 12:4

A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches,

and loving favor rather than silver and gold. 

Proverbs 22:1

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