A godly wife told her godly husband, "I don't mind being under your headship, as long as you are under the Headship of Christ." Is this correct thinking? It seems to be what the church is teaching to married couples, "Husbands must love their wife as Christ loves the church or the wife doesn't have to submit to him." This is destructive teaching and thinking this will destroy your marriage.
Our behavior and obedience to God's commands NEVER hinge upon someone else's actions. Never put stipulations on God's commands to us. We will all stand before God one day and have to give an account for our own actions; not the actions of our husbands or any one else. Therefore, we need to be happily under our husband's headship and submit to him regardless of whether or not he is under the Headship of Christ or the Bible would have told women to submit to and obey your husband along as ________{You fill in the blank.} but it doesn't do this. No, we are called to submit no matter what our husbands are like. In fact, God may use a wife's submission to win her husband to Him.
Therefore, if your husband is not the leader you think he should be, follow him any ways. If he tells you to do something you disagree with, gently tell him why you disagree but if it is not against God's commands, obey him. As you obey your husband, you are obeying the Lord since this is what He requires of you. No, it's not always easy. We'd much rather be the leader of the home but God didn't make us to be. He made us to have babies and nurture them. He made us to be help meets to our husbands. It's a good and holy role that God has given us. Don't ever let the lies of our culture convince you otherwise.
For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church:
and he is the Savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:23
