Monday, March 5, 2012

Birth Control Options

Some have asked if we are quiverful.  In today's society, that means do we believe in allowing God to plan our family and give us as many children as He wants for us.  The Dugger family is a quiverful family.  They have allowed God to give as many children to them as He wants to give them.

I have read that in past years, before birth control, the average family had between four to six children.  Just because you decide not to use birth control and allow God to plan your family, doesn't mean you will end up with 19 children.  Some will end up with none and others will end up with only one.  Allowing God to take control, means you trust Him with the number of children He gives you.

Having said all that, Ken and I were not quiverful when we were young.  We did use birth control until I had Ryan.  After that, we used natural family planning.  Years later, we decided we did want God to bless us with more children if He wanted, but I was 45 years old at that time.

If you are wondering what to do in this area of your life, let me just give my opinion about the different forms of birth control.  I would never recommend the pill.  It stops a normal bodily function.  Women are suppose to have periods.  The pill has many side effects.  Just read them on the Internet.  Many believe it is even an abortificant. 

The IUD can cause many complications, including aborting a fertilized egg.  If you use a diaphram, you need to put spermicide in it which is full of deadly chemicals.  The tube of spermicide I had when I was young said that it may cause cancer.  We are suppose to put that up inside of us?  Condoms are no fun and are no guarantee they will work.  All forms of birth control have side effects, except the condom.

Let's face it.  God wants us to have children!  Men are ready almost all the time.  Women are ready during the time they ovulate.  God created us to procreate.  He tells us the purpose of marriage is to raise godly offspring.

Birth control has led to nothing good, in my opionion.  It has led to sexual promiscuity, less children being born in two-parent families, abortion, and more children being born out of wedlock.  I am certain that God didn't invent birth control.  Also, there is no such thing as safe sex outside of marriage.  It all has consequences just as God intended.

This decision, however, needs to be between each husband and wife.  There are some great resources out there on natural family planning.  It seems healthier for the mommy to space the children out a little to allow her body to get stronger.  Some would tell me that is not trusting God.  Maybe it is not.

We need to seek God's wisdom and do what we think He is asking us to do.  Wives need to submit to their husbands in this area.  If your husband doesn't think you should have more children, you must listen to him.  If you want more, pray that the Lord would change his mind.

God tells us we just need to ask to get wisdom.  So just ask, keep asking for wisdom and He will give it to you.  He keeps His promises.

And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it. 
Genesis 1:28

And did not he make them one? Yet had he the remnant of the spirit. And why one? That he might seek a godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. 
Malachi 2:15