Friday, March 29, 2013

Bad Company Corrupts Good Morals


Having my children set apart from the bad influences of foolish children and ungodly teachers is certainly one of the greatest blessings of homeschool.  Negative socialization and peer dependency can be almost completely eliminated by home schooling if parents stalwartly combat the invasion of their home by ungodly media and are wise in choosing outside activities and friends. 
{Helen Aardsma}

The Bible is absolutely correct, bad company does corrupt good morals.  We must choose our friends carefully and be vigilant about the friends our children are hanging around with.

The main reason we decided to homeschool our sons through junior high was to protect them for pornography.  This is the age most boys have it thrown into their faces and become addicted.  The Bible warns to flee the evil desires of youth for a reason.

Look at what is on television these days...filth.  There are no family friendly television programs anymore.  Look at what movies are playing at the theater.  Having sex with someone you just met and are attracted to is normal.  Look at the way other's dress.

Do you want your young children exposed to peers who are continually being exposed to all this garbage?  It WILL corrupt their morals no matter how much Bible you teach them for the Bible says this will happen.

Sending your children to public schooling is getting more and more risky.  Parents spend huge amounts of money going deep into debt to send their children to universities only to watch their children walk away from the faith.  Allowing them to go to sleepovers is risky.  Few people share our morals and values, even many Christians.  We walk a narrow road few are willing to walk.  However, there will always be a remnant whose hearts are fully devoted to Jesus.

Protect those precious children the Lord has blessed you with.  Seriously consider homeschooling them.  There is so much good material out there now with the Internet.  Raise a part of the remnant.  They will be happy you did when they see so many of their peers walking in rebellion and suffering the consequences.

Do no be deceived;  
Bad company corrupts good morals.  
I Corinthians 15:33

***No, Emma doesn't usually eat with her mouth open showing us her food!
I just thought it was the cutest picture.
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Cynthia Swenson · 626 weeks ago

I think this is very interesting & courageous of you to share Lori ! I have been praying about sharing more of my testimony. I also chose to home school partly to protect my children. My husband agreed at first, but later he insisted the children be allowed to attend public school as they were older. I didn't agree but what could I do? We had computers in the family room but, with special needs children, they kept getting broken. Eventually, my husband moved out into a townhouse, where the teenagers followed him & they all developed computer & pornography addictions! Eventually, my husband divorced me & moved out of town. Most of the children have stayed or returned to me. God is setting them free & it's wonderful. I don't know about my ex husband. I still think of Jesus's warning to stumbling blocks! I'm praying especially for my oldest son, with confidence that God will save him too. I am the happiest I've ever been, because of Jesus! Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
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Lori Alexander 122p · 626 weeks ago

Thank you for sharing, Cynthia. I am so happy to hear that most of your children are returning to you and to the Lord. A praying mother is very powerful in the kingdom of God!!!
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Erin · 626 weeks ago

I understand the desire to protect one's children from "the world." However, it is a world that they will have to live in when they don't live with you anymore. If they experience it all at once when they start living on their own, rather than experiencing it in part while they live in a safe home where they can talk openly about things with caring and godly parents... Well, I'd worry about them more when they're suddenly sheep among unfamiliar wolves.

I'm not saying parents shouldn't protect their children from the evil in the world. I am saying that they should prepare their children for the evil that exists in the world, because they cannot always be there to shield them from it.

I went to public school. My three closest friends in junior high all turned to drugs in high school... and yet, I did not. My parents had talked to me about drugs, and so I knew better than to get involved in them. Bad company does not ALWAYS corrupt good morals. Was I always a "good girl?" No; I did some things I'm not proud of, but in the end I always turned back to God. I attribute this to the protection of God, and the influence of a godly mother and a streetwise father -- not to homeschooling.

Maybe it works for some people, but please beware of thinking that by homeschooling your children, you can protect them forever.
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Lori Alexander 122p · 626 weeks ago

Of course you can't protect them forever but children should be protected as much as possible from the evils of society. I look at the Duggar family. They have all been home schooled their whole lives. They interact with others easily. They are kind and considerate to all they meet. They have all walked with Jesus and not one has rebelled yet. The grown son is married and has two children. They influence society tremendously in many ways yet have avoided evil. I am an adult and I avoid evil. Why do I need my children to experience evil in any way?
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Lindsay Harold · 626 weeks ago

There's a right way and a wrong way to learn about evil. Adam and Eve were meant to learn about good by knowing and interacting with God. Then, they would recognize evil as anything that was against God. This is kind of like training bank tellers to recognize counterfeit money. They don't train them with counterfeits - they train them with the real thing so they get really good at knowing the real thing and will recognize fakes when they see them. In the case of Adam and Eve, however, they learned about evil by experiencing it. That's not the right way.

Children are very vulnerable and often don't have the ability to make decisions properly yet. They need to get really good at recognizing things that are good and wholesome before they are turned out into the world. They need to be told about the evils they will encounter and immunized them against the many wrong philosophies out there. But they don't need to experience that all around them at a young age when they aren't equipped yet to make good decisions or to recognize subtle wrong ideas.
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Lori Alexander 122p · 626 weeks ago

Great thoughts! Thank you, Lindsay.
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Charly · 626 weeks ago

How do you deal with getting the children socialized with their peers correctly? Every child I knew growing up and every child I've met as an adult who has been or is being home schooled is virtually incapable of socializing well. Considering being able to interact with others is a crucial life skill-both in and out of church-for everyone, how do you combat this?
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Lori Alexander 122p · 626 weeks ago

There are many adults who came out of the public school system who don't socialize well either. I think it depends upon the parents. If the parents talk to their children a lot and communicate well with them, they will learn how to socialize with others. Look at the Duggars. Those children socialize great with others. So do the Pearl's children. I don't think one has to go to school to be socialized.
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Shelley · 626 weeks ago

I find that home schooled children socialize well with people of all ages instead of just their immediate peer group like most public schooled children. Public school children sit at a desk all day with people the same age as them, they're rarely supposed to talk unless they're doing a group project or at recess. Home schooled children discuss things all day with their parents, they have play dates with other kids of all ages, they explore the world with their parents and meet a variety of people and situations. Is it possible you are mistaking politeness or gentleness instead of loudness and rambunctiousness as not being social enough? Just curious.
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Lindsay Harold · 626 weeks ago

I have had the exact opposite experience. The children I have known who are most able to communicate well with a wide variety of ages are homeschooled. The children who went to public school are more often so peer-oriented that they don't know how to communicate or interact well with those who are not of their age group. Of course, both groups contain those who are shy, and there are some homeschoolers who so withdraw from everyone that their kids don't communicate well, but this isn't the rule (and I've known lots and lots of homeschoolers).

Real socialization does not consist of sending children to spend a majority of their time with children of their narrow age group. That's not socialization. That's peer-dependency.

Homeschoolers, like anyone else, can become socialized by spending time with other people of various ages in various settings. Church is a major way that homeschoolers achieve this. There are also many homeschool support groups, sports teams, and other outings such as field trips that are common among homeschoolers.
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Joluise · 626 weeks ago

The Duggars are just one family, a celebrity family at that, far from a normal situation. My brother lives in the USA. He has raised three children to adulthood. All went to public schools and university. Wonderful young adults that have not strayed at all. Strong Christians. There are many young Americans like my niece and nephews. My two sons went to public schools and didn't get hooked on porn. Most don't. Whilst we need to protect our children and ourselves, children who go to public schools and universities generally turn out just fine. It's how the parents run the family home that's really important and the role dad plays. My brother was very hands on.
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Megan · 625 weeks ago

Hi Lori - I'm over from UBP and just wanted to drop a line and let you know I love your post! I was just reading on through the comments here and just have to say, I was homeschooled until high school and my 5 siblings were homeschooled all the way through and none of us have any social issues, I was maybe kinda dorky in high school but had no problems finding friends and my spouse :) all my siblings are pretty cool people though and are all married, succussfully I might add. I agree with the commenter who stated it depends on the parents whether or not a child is socialized, you can't blame homeschooling. I have 4 children, the oldest is 7 and so far we have been fortunate to live way out in the mountains of Montana and have access to a teeny tiny little country school that I am comfortable sending my kids too but homeschooling is always in the back of my mind! I am so excited to follow your blog!

Thanks,
Megan @ http://foodsofourlives.com
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nhudelson1 14p · 624 weeks ago

Visiting from the UBP and stopping for a minute to link up and say HI!
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Elizabeth · 624 weeks ago

Hi!! New follower here, I found you on the UBP13! Your blog is absolutely amazing! I am a new blogger and hope you can come by and follow me at http://mybutterflyhaus.blogspot.com!

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