Paul Washer said in a sermon called The Basics of Biblical Courtship that what Christians wear to the beach today, just 60 years ago would have been jailed or fined by unbelievers since it was against the law. The women in the chat room were discussing the onslaught of immodesty our men see on the television screen, in the supermarket and everywhere. Even before a football game begins a woman who claims to be a Christian is singing and dancing provocatively on a stage in a dress up to her fanny. It actually looks like a top that is missing its pants. In church, women who lead the songs wear skin tight pants. The church doesn't even set and uphold standards of modesty that Paul says should take place in the Church. It's sickening how much Christians look like our culture instead of being beacons of light shining in a dark and decaying culture. Now, we shouldn't expect modesty from unbelievers but from those who claim to follow Christ, we should.
People will tell me that I am not to judge. Yes, we are to judge those within the church and we are certainly supposed to call any and all sin what it is, SIN. We shouldn't have to worry about going to church and seeing immodest women. This should be a safe place for Christians to worship the Lord and learn about Him. The Church and its leaders shouldn't be afraid of the women in the church but should set standards for modesty. When we visited Michael Pearl's church as a family, the women were all very modest and it was wonderful! It was a peaceful and secure feeling. All of God's ways are like this; peaceful and secure.
A friend of mine said her father was a pastor and he had a very strict dress code for those who were going to be on stage. I asked her why pastors today don't seem to have those same standards and she said that they cater to the young. This is not how it should be. The young should be catering to the older since they are the ones with wisdom. Some churches have robes for their choir like David Jeremiah's church. This is a great idea!
If you are a woman of God who desires to please Him in all that you do, dress modestly. Don't spend a lot of money on your clothes since this is forbidden by the Lord. Wear clothes that are neat, tidy and even pretty but make sure they are modest. Ask your husband what is modest if you're not sure since he is a man and thinks like a man! Be a godly example of modesty to those around you.
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9
***Please take five minutes to watch this clip by Dennis Prager about a man's sexual nature if you don't believe showing more flesh is difficult on a man and why you should dress modestly around every man, except for your husband's eyes only.
"Why are men so easily turned on sexually by a woman's legs, but not vice-versa? Why are female strip clubs so much more prevalent and popular than male strip clubs, but not vice-versa? Why is the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue a nationwide hit every year...among men? In five minutes, Dennis Prager explains why the answers to these questions reveal so much about male and female sexual nature, and how the visual impacts the two sexes in totally different ways."
***Please take five minutes to watch this clip by Dennis Prager about a man's sexual nature if you don't believe showing more flesh is difficult on a man and why you should dress modestly around every man, except for your husband's eyes only.
"Why are men so easily turned on sexually by a woman's legs, but not vice-versa? Why are female strip clubs so much more prevalent and popular than male strip clubs, but not vice-versa? Why is the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue a nationwide hit every year...among men? In five minutes, Dennis Prager explains why the answers to these questions reveal so much about male and female sexual nature, and how the visual impacts the two sexes in totally different ways."
Tam · 478 weeks ago
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Diana · 478 weeks ago
I think one of the main problems is simply that pastors (in all times) feel the pull to stay away from topics that will draw congregational anger. If they have divorcees, they don't talk about divorce. If they have working moms, they don't talk about women being at home. If they have women dressing immodestly, they don't talk about modesty (or they talk about it as a "heart attitude"). I think pastors of all ages are tempted to this sin (people-pleasing), but in an age like ours that is sliding fast, the temptation is all the more. We do need men of God who are willing to preach hard things to congregations that desperately need it.
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Anon · 478 weeks ago
I am 29 and a wife and mother. I have been a Christian for 5 years. I did not have a change of heart about modesty until reading different Christian authors. No one at my church talked with me about modesty, not even when I wore a bikini to a church swim party! In fact, the pastor's wife was complaining that her husband would not allow her to wear a bikini. Although obedient, she was obviously angry about it.
There is a young high school girl in our church who leads worship about once every 6 weeks. After watching her lead worship dressing immodestly for the last 2 years, I finally got the nerve to say something. That morning she had worn a see through white dress that barely covered her rear end. When she dropped her sheet music she about flashed everyone trying to pick it up. I prayed for the Holy Spirit and graciously and lovingly talked to her about it. I emphasized that the way she is dressing is drawing attention away from the Lord Jesus and onto herself. She was not receptive, instead she took it as I was only talking about this one outift. The next Sunday she led worship again, this time in her regular skin tight jeans and tight fitting shirt. I am thankful my husband has finally decided to leave this church (for other reasons, one being that women are on the leadership board and the women are so rebellious and leading their homes that they are totally against even speaking about submission to husbands).
Thank you for your post, Lori.
Taylor · 478 weeks ago
Rob · 478 weeks ago
I am training my girls to look modest and I need to protect them from the eyes of others even though they are only 9 and 6. When we are getting ready for church I tell them quite often to change. So it's got to point where they say dad is this ok to wear?? It's so cute.
We live in a world where sex can sell almost anything. Half naked woman attempt to sell cars, cigarettes you name it and they advertise for a product. It's just sad.
I mean this with all do respect and love when you are leaving your house have a second look in the mirror and say to yourself hmm should I really be wearing this? Don't make yourself eye candy for men, just your husband. For me anyway I cannot speak for other men, but training my eyes and mind is a constant battle because of the temptation of visual sin, but I am at a point when I see someone dressed immodest or as I call it inappropriate I just feel sad for them!!!!
I'll give an example I have a new job in a whale house where it's 99% men, on Wednesday morning I was leaving work after working the night shift and one of the office staff walked by me as I was exiting the building and she had on a short short mini skirt nylons and those long boots. And heading in where she has to pass every guy in the warehouse to get to the office. Shameful!!!!!
Anon M · 478 weeks ago
Another church we went to the pastors wife dressed almost like a prostitute. My husband confronted her about it and she said she wouldn't stop dressing that way as her husband loved it.
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