Can you imagine this society without a rule of law? Few would stop at stoplights. They would go however fast they chose without worrying about a ticket. Hey, get drunk and drive home and if you kill someone on the way home, no big deal since there are no policemen and jails. It would be chaos! We have to live by the rules and if we don’t, we suffer consequences.
People at work have to obey
their bosses or else they will get fired. Children who obey their parents
usually grow up to be children who obey all authority in their lives (teachers,
coaches, and bosses) and make others’ lives pleasant. In every institution on earth,
there is someone in the leadership position and all those under them are in
submission to them.
I
receive a lot of hateful comments as many of you saw when my post went viral.
Our culture hates the truth of God’s Word and as everyone can see who watches
the news, the rule of law in our land is meaning less and less and chaos is
beginning to show its ugly face.
One
woman made this comment on my Facebook Always Learning page, “I don't tend to go on feminist rants but holy hell this Always Learning page is a huge help to the patriarchy...might I even say rape
culture in one of these posts. I'm so grateful that I was not taught this way
and have learned recently about how this type of thinking only breeds hate and
system of oppression of women everywhere. This is the type of stuff on Facebook
that actually scares me bc people don't truly think about what they are posting
before they do it. Just because this lady is clearly a Christian doesn't mean
what she is saying is worth any substance. Husbands and wives both need to be
happy and no one that is being submissive is happy...ever. I can't.”
Therefore, according to her logic, all children who are submissive and obey their parents are miserable. All employees who are submissive and obey their bosses are miserable. All citizens who are submissive to their governments and obey the law of the land are miserable. All wives who are submissive to their husbands and obey them are unhappy. In conclusion, you can only be happy if you live in rebellion to all those who are in authority over you.
She is terribly mistaken. Most marriages where the wives become submissive heals and strengthens the marriage which usually results in making both of them happier. All those who are in rebellion to authority are the ones who are miserable. God has set an authority structure so there will be peace. When people obey those who are in authority over them, more people will likely be happy since things run more smoothly and those under authority must use self-control to do what is right.
It takes a lot more discipline to be submissive to authority rather than just do what you feel like doing. Most can see the chaos beginning to reign in our culture as many are doing as they please: broken homes, prisons overflowing, riots in the streets, less safety for all, STDs, drugs addictions, and miserable, unhappy people
She has listened to the lies of the enemy of her soul. I pray her blinders come off and she can see the error of her ways and decide to repent and follow the King of kings. I was happy, however, that she can tell that I am "clearly a Christian." This was my favorite part of her comment! I have never been happier in my life since I learned submission to my husband. We have a wonderful life together now that I am not continually battling his decisions and there isn't an undercurrent of disharmony in our home.
Therefore, according to her logic, all children who are submissive and obey their parents are miserable. All employees who are submissive and obey their bosses are miserable. All citizens who are submissive to their governments and obey the law of the land are miserable. All wives who are submissive to their husbands and obey them are unhappy. In conclusion, you can only be happy if you live in rebellion to all those who are in authority over you.
She is terribly mistaken. Most marriages where the wives become submissive heals and strengthens the marriage which usually results in making both of them happier. All those who are in rebellion to authority are the ones who are miserable. God has set an authority structure so there will be peace. When people obey those who are in authority over them, more people will likely be happy since things run more smoothly and those under authority must use self-control to do what is right.
It takes a lot more discipline to be submissive to authority rather than just do what you feel like doing. Most can see the chaos beginning to reign in our culture as many are doing as they please: broken homes, prisons overflowing, riots in the streets, less safety for all, STDs, drugs addictions, and miserable, unhappy people
She has listened to the lies of the enemy of her soul. I pray her blinders come off and she can see the error of her ways and decide to repent and follow the King of kings. I was happy, however, that she can tell that I am "clearly a Christian." This was my favorite part of her comment! I have never been happier in my life since I learned submission to my husband. We have a wonderful life together now that I am not continually battling his decisions and there isn't an undercurrent of disharmony in our home.
Unfortunately, this
woman has twisted godly submission into an ugly thing. I love what John
Piper says about submission: “At the core of all godly women, cemented in the
soul, there is a simple but steadfast hope in God. It is from the security of
this hope that wives fear nothing that is frightening — even submission to
husbands who do not follow Jesus. These godly women adorn their souls with a
peculiar beauty: not base servility or brash power, but a combination of
humility and lion-like courage that the world cannot explain.
The world cannot make women this way. Their beauty comes from somewhere —
from someone — else. With their souls beautified by God, Christian women
display Jesus in such a way that unbelievers may be won to Christ, even without
a word being spoken. (1 Peter 3:1)”
Knowing Jesus, loving Him, and living for Him is the only way to find happiness and joy. Many have tried to get me to change my message, tone it out, or stop writing, but Truth is the only thing that convicts and changes people, plus I only stand accountable to the Savior of my soul.
Happy is that people,
whose God is the LORD.
whose God is the LORD.
Psalm
144:15
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ALM · 444 weeks ago
Respect is how I understand the choice of submission. When I was desperate to learn how to be a submissive wife, the key to my understanding was when I figured out that my lack of respect/reverence for my husband was equal to a lack of submissiveness. I loved and adored him but I lacked respect and barely saw it in myself.
If he came home from work, grumpy and stressed and had no intention of talking about it, I would press him a bit to try and get him to talk, thinking that's what he needed to get better. However, by not letting him deal with it the way he saw fit, I was displaying a lack of respect, thinking I knew better than he did how to handle his problems. This was an unsubmissive attitude. Regardless of my heartfelt intentions, I was disrespecting his manhood. That opened my eyes to the many other ways I was disrespecting him as my husband by viewing him more like a child. Many women do this and it's evidenced when they jokingly say they consider their husband as one of their children. This is a dangerous attitude that undermines marriage and is no laughing matter.
I resented my husband for not doing some housework I thought he should. I was always thinking of ways he could help me, but he is not my helper, I am his! It took time and practice to be transformed by the renewing of my mind, but now I do as much as I possibly can without asking him for help unless it's something I really can't do on my own. I find I no longer resent him because my attitude toward my housework and him are on track. My husband works very hard, is so kind, allows me to stay home...how I wish I'd figured out sooner that I wasn't being submissive. I could have made his life, our lives, run smoother.
Another problem I realized was the nagging, however gentle, that was cloaked as "reminders." I began to question whether the reminder was necessary. I decided once was enough. There were plenty of times I realized those reminders were things I could take care of for him. Such relief it brought the both of us!
What I discovered as my husband struggled at work is that when he came home, he would feel like he was failing on both ends. I felt like nothing short of a superhero as my growing respect and submissiveness transformed an undercurrent of stress in our home, to one of peace and love. I am submissive and so happy!
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
Mrs. Kelley Dibble · 444 weeks ago
What a fabulous testimony! I was there, too, ALM. I've never been more happy since choosing to submit (which is my spirit willingly obeying and respecting when my flesh is unwilling) to those in authority over me (my husband's over me as my head and this is ultimately obedience to Christ who is my husband's Head).
happy
----- adjective
delighted, pleased or glad; characterized by joy
Notice that happy describes. You cannot do happy and you cannot hold happy. One is or chooses to be happy. "I am happy" can also be stated "Happy am I." I am delighted, I am pleased and I am glad. I am marked by joy.
joy
----- noun
the emotion of great delight caused by something good or satisfying
----- verb (used without object)
to feel joy; be glad
----- verb (used with object)
Obsolete. to gladden
My delight is in the law of the Lord. In It I meditate day and night. I am never more happy than when I delight in the ways of God.
*hugs*
Kelley~
HappyHomemaker · 444 weeks ago
Mrs. Kelley Dibble · 444 weeks ago
Yes x 18 and Amen to your testimony! It's my honor, my pleasure, my delight to submit to God's plan of reverencing my husband.
*hugs*
Kelley~
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
Thank you HH!
sipcode 22p · 444 weeks ago
Unfortunately that Facebook comment reveals she is hanging onto death (and obsurd logic, as you point out).
Keep the faith, even when the persecution starts.
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
sipcode 22p · 444 weeks ago
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
Mrs. Kelley Dibble · 444 weeks ago
I have been BOTH of these types of women. I've been the Facebook commenter and, today, the submitted woman described of old. I am happier aligning my choices with godly women of old.
*hugs*
Kelley~
Ken · 444 weeks ago
True intimacy cannot flourish without trust, and the fullest intimacy with our spouse and with our God comes from fully trusting in them.
It is precisely the lack of trust in a husband, and a wife's "need to be right," and "need to have her needs met," that creates a huge barrier to the bonding process in marriage. The two cannot become one in mind and will if they are not trusting each other.
The vast majority of Christian men are very trustworthy, (and I did not say "perfect." Yet they battle their wife's demands for intimacy at the same time getting nothing but disrespect for their wishes and decisions. You can't get to to oneness and intimacy until a wife recognizes that her husband is indeed trustworthy and begins to depend upon his faithfulness to her. Not faithfulness always done her way, but faithfulness done his way, as he leads her.
He will only grow up into this role of trustworthy leader if she allows him to be her trusted and respected head. The one she choose to make life with and become one with.
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
Mrs. Kelley Dibble · 444 weeks ago
Truer words were never spoken. God's Word challenges us to "Try Me" with our giving. Watch what He will do. When I "allow" my husband, as you stated, to lead me, to decide for our family, to obey his Head, when I give him respect and reverence and trust him, I not only sow with joy, I happily reap immeasurable benefits both spiritual and physical. It's amazing!
*hugs*
Ken · 444 weeks ago
There is no doubt that God's intent for a true marriage is complete trust of a wife in her husband and honoring him even when she feels he may be wrong, so long as it does not put her or the kids in any danger. He learns and grows up into his responsibilities in most cases. Yes, some husbands may never grow up to lead well, but God still works to develop a closer bond between spouses when doing things God's ways for marriage.
Many wives complain that their husband is not showing good leadership, but that complaint really means that I disagree with how he wants to lead. Headship can take many forms, but a wife will never know what a husband can become if she does not accept him fully for who he is and the gifting and personality that God gave him.
Penny · 444 weeks ago
Ken · 444 weeks ago
The answer is that many partnerships can do great together and yet in my area of work we say that the average partnership lasts 5-7 years. Somewhere along the line the commitment of partnership wears thin and one partner or the other feels taken advantage of, and bolts from the relationship. The best partnerships are often not just two individuals but 3-30 in a group each participating in the partnership, but always a lead partner. The lead partner almost always is followed with their recommendations and works hard to insure that he/she has a majority of partners on his/her side.
Even if the partnership model in a two person partnership worked 90% of the time instead of 30%, it still could never achieve God's ideal. God says that He wants marriage done a certain way for it best achieves His purposes and best fits for the couple and society.
A partner in business is looking for a financial and quality of life reward from the partnership, but you must agree that marriage is so much more than that. I am looking for my marriage to provide me with a deep and abiding connection that comes from one life united with another through faithfulness. And the longer we live together, and the more my wife trusts me, the more connected we become.
sipcode 22p · 444 weeks ago
Partnership in Marriage? Answer: No, simply because God does not want it that way. God designed man to lead and woman to follow. We blasphemy God when we try to implement our way of thinking over His. It has zero to do with how bad or foolish a man may be or how good or smart a woman may be. God has said it and if we love Him we then keep His commandments. And we have Hell to pay [figuratively and literally] when we don't keep His commandments.
Eph 5:21 ['partnership' --submitting to each other] only applies to the brethren, not to marriage.
Helen · 444 weeks ago
Why do people always think they know better than following Gods ways for marriage?
It says in Psalm 119 'To all perfection there is a limit, but your commandments are boundless'
Part of Matthew Henrys commentary on this verse says - 'the psalmist had seen the fullness of the word of God, and its sufficiency. The word of the Lord reaches to all cases, to all times. It will take us from all confidence in man, or in our own wisdom, strength, and righteousness'
Blessings to you Lori
Helen UK
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
"O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him." (Psalm 34:8)
Grateful Wife · 444 weeks ago
I am the most grateful wife in the world to be under the godly leadership of my beloved husband!
Lori Alexander 122p · 444 weeks ago
KiwiGuest · 444 weeks ago
Interestingly, a friend's mother, who has been happily married for 35 or so years, was talking about being a submissive wife. Someone at our church had asked her for some marriage advice. After praying about it, my friend's mother gave her the book "Fascinating Womanhood" based on the teachings of Helen Andelin. The woman asking for the advice was absolutely horrified and said "my husband isn't like your Graham, you know". My friends mum simply answered softly "My Graham is so wonderful because he has been allowed to take the lead." She is truly happy, and she mastered the art of submission long ago. She told me that she wished all young women would learn to be submissive to their husbands because God's ways truly are best.
Charles · 444 weeks ago