Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Josh and Anna Celebrate


Joshua and Anna Duggar just celebrated their eighth anniversary. This is what was said about them: “Throughout this ordeal, Anna remained faithful to her husband. While she publicly shared the deep grief and betrayal that she felt, she never once talked badly about Josh. She continued to trust in God and be strong for her children, and she waited patiently for her husband to complete his program and return home.”

The world can’t understand this type of love and forgiveness. They consistently ridicule the Duggar family’s values and of course they do. The Duggar family lives for the Lord and His glory, not the world’s. Yes, Josh committed terrible sins against his wife but she was determined to show him the grace and forgiveness the Lord shows us.

The Apostle Paul murdered Christians. For I am the least of the apostles, that am not meet to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God. But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me” (1 Corinthians 15:9, 10). God showed His grace and forgiveness to an evil man who was murdering His children and used him in a mighty way. The Apostle Paul saw Jesus, took part in the beginnings of the Church, and wrote the most powerful books in the Bible.

God did this to show His depth of compassion and love upon us and that no one is beyond redemption. There are women in the chat room fighting for their marriages. Their husbands are living with their girlfriend, trapped in addictive drugs, and living in direct disobedience to the Lord. Yet, these women know what is at stake: their husband’s eternal souls. This is what they are fighting for. They have an eternal perspective, not a selfish, "it’s-all-about me and my pain" attitude.

The stakes are high, women. Eternity in hell is a long, long, time. Men who are caught in Satan’s web are blessed who have godly wives who are broken up inside from the rejection and suffering they are going through but continue to stand strong in the Lord like Anna. In the Lord’s strength, they are being Jesus to their disobedient husbands and showing love, warmth, and joy to them. It’s amazing to read their testimonies when their husbands come home and want healing for their marriage. Some begin going to church and loving the Jesus they see in their wives.

No, the world can’t understand denying ourselves and living for something so much bigger than us. Time here is short and it is far better to live our lives for others and for His glory than for ourselves and for the pleasures this world has to offer.

The Duggars are consistently being mocked for their faith because they are willing to put it on display for all to see. I have learned from them and I am sure many others have. We’ve learned what a blessing children and strong marriages are and the importance of dressing modestly. We’ve seen them go on mission trips, take treats to the local policemen and firemen, and how they handle difficulties by trusting in the Lord. We’ve seen them forgive others who have sinned against them. The children wait patiently for the one they are going to marry and stay pure during the courtship and engagement, then go on to have strong marriages, except the precious one who forgave her husband who sinned greatly against her.

I love the writings of Charles Spurgeon, as you know. He wrote: “You tell me there are no persecutions now. Indeed, perhaps if you followed Christ more fully, you would find out there were.” Follow Christ fully, trust the Lord, and expect to be ridiculed by many in this evil age but never take part in the mocking of other believers who are living their lives for the Lord. Rejoice with them when their prodigal comes home.

Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.
2 Timothy 3:12

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Beautiful message. Through all the physical pain and mental anguish, God allows this so that He is glorified. We don't fully understand this of God but must thankfully accept it. As you note Paul, think also of David, the most beloved of God, yet an adulterer and muderer. Can we understand this? Well, not without ever increasing fear and respect for Him, no matter the situation.

When God does not make sense, you are in control. Switch to Plan B: "Not my will but Thine be done."
1 reply · active 443 weeks ago
Yes, God proved throughout His entire Word that He can use ordinary men as well as evil men and redeem them for His good purposes. Thank you.
Jesus told the crowd, those without sin cast the first stone! He told that woman to go and sin no more. He forgave her of her sin. This made me very happy to read this post...
Thank you!
God, please give all the women who need your strength to fight for their marriages as it will be to Gods Glory and to the marriage love and grace the world does not understand!
1 reply · active 443 weeks ago
These women need our prayers, Roxy, and I am sure you have many you are praying for too. Thankfully, we have a God who hears our prayers and wants all to come to the knowledge of Him.
Praising God for His loving kindness to them and to the rest of us. I pray they continue to draw close to Him, seek His strength, and rejoice in the midst of this continuing trial. They have a story to tell to the nations. He has not abandoned either one of them. Thank you Lori for sharing this.
1 reply · active 443 weeks ago
You're welcome Raylene. We all need to have an eternal perspective in all of our actions because this life is very short. Anna has an eternal perspective.
The best marriage advice I ever received was "Marriage isn't meant to make us happy, it's meant to make us holy." Clearly marriage can make you deeply happy, but we are to become more like Christ every day. Just like you said, the world will not understand why Anna stood by her Josh. This is a great post! It's so encouraging to Christian women standing by their men, who may be struggling obeying God at this time.
1 reply · active 443 weeks ago
Thank you Stephanie. Hopefully, Anna will be an inspiration to many women who are struggling with disobedient husbands. Yes, it takes the Lord's strength but He is the one fighting their battle.
I think it is great when couples can work through horrible times and have forgiveness, so I certainly don't think Anna is wrong for being committed to her marriage.
What bothers me is she seemed to let Josh off a little too easily. I know he went away for 6 months to a facility, but that facility admitted they have no certified therapists. Josh has issues that need to be addressed by a professional. There are certified Christian therapists out there.

What Josh did was very serious. Even at 14 or 15, he was old enough to know what he was doing was wrong. Anna has small daughters to think about.

Josh also put her and her unborn baby at risk of STD's when carrying on with that porn star.

I'm glad she is committed to her marriage. I just wish she would have required Josh to get treatment from a certified professional and not let him come home until he had proven himself a while longer. I sure hope Josh doesn't see Anna's love and forgiveness as a license to continue his bad behavior since he knows she won't leave. . I wish them the best though.
3 replies · active 204 weeks ago
I am sure Anna has done what she thought was best for her and her family. She needs our prayers and support. She gets enough bashing from the culture. She doesn't need it from Christians, Michelle.
Michelle, it became pretty obvious very quickly the porn stars story was fabricated. There were more holes in it than swiss cheese. She was just in it for fame and money. Even if Josh did have an encounter with her, it certainly was not as physical as she claims. In her line of work, they are well looked after to keep up with flow of business and if a client is violent, they get barred from accessing the service.
The Word of God doesn't say to seek out professional help when dealing with sin. Rather, it admonishes us to flee and repent. Joshua doesn't need "professional" help, he needed to repent and place his trust in Christ. For Anna to "not allow him to come home" would have been placing herself in authority over her husband which, again, goes against what Scripture says. Anna has been a beautiful example of Gods longsuffering mercy and grace and i commend her for that. She is an example to Godly wives. As for Joshua, he is an example of each of us. We have each sinned against a Holy God, and yet He has shown us mercy and grace when we least deserved it. Actually, we never deserved it.
I really do pray Josh has learned his lesson, I too am concerned for the children Anna is old enough to make the decision to love him and let him back into their bed and lives. However I pray she has made the right decision for their children as they are not old enough to make it for themselves. I pray too that his daughters are safe. I don’t know the Duggars but since seeing them on telly and Face Book I have always thought there was something very sad about Josh he always looks lost and sad, I felt this before all of his problems came to light and mentioned it to Ant. When it all can out Antony turned and said to me “Jilly you saw something most people didn’t!”
I so admire Anna’s love and commitment to their covenant of marriage; I pray that I would be so Godly and forgiving if I was in her shoes. I just thank God I have never had to be in her shoes. I must say I am so grateful for the Godly man I married and the more I hear of things like this the more grateful for my precious Hubby I become. God is good. One thing is for sure they will always have my prayers.
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Sonja Keller · 442 weeks ago

Anna is a beautiful example to young women. I pray that Josh is completely repentant, and that the world will leave them alone. Their family has been through a lot as the result of the medias hounding them. Seriously, this could happen in any family, but for some reason people really pick on the Duggars. Thank you Lori for your blog. I enjoy it very much, and appreciate being able to learn from other Godly women....Sonja

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