Thursday, September 29, 2016

Taking Pictures With Tongues Out


As many of you know, I have two new granddaughters. One was born in July and the other in August. They are beautiful and fun to watch. We laugh when their little tongues come continually out of their mouths. When they toot, we think it's funny. When they burp, we all laugh and are happy they got their air out so it won't cause a tummy ache. All of their noises are so sweet to all of us. However, when grown women are doing these things, they aren't funny or cute anymore. It is disgusting and they are not being discreet.

Sticking out your tongue for pictures and having tooting and burping contests are common among women today. I hear it directly from them. They think it's funny. The Bible tells us otherwise: When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. (1 Corinthians 13:11) Even as our children grew older, they never stuck their tongues out or looked like the girl in the picture. We would never have allowed this. They didn't burp or toot on purpose in front of us either. (I actually never heard them burp since they had healthy gallbladders.) We taught them from a young age to have manners. 

 Godly women are called to be discreet and not do anything to draw attention to themselves. They are not children anymore and should not do childish things. It's amazing that I even have to teach younger women this today. When I was growing up, we never did such things. We would have been mortified! If we had to pass gas, we held it until we were alone. (If you have a lot of gas, you need to find out to heal your digestive system and I am sure less sugar and more real foods with probiotics will help.)

I don't ever remember having a problem with burping. I have heard that if you burp a lot, you are having problem with your gall bladder so check out ways to heal your gallbladder. (Ken had many horrible gall bladder attacks but was able to heal it completely.) I would have never stuck out my tongue for pictures, ever. When I see women do this, it looks disgusting. Tongues are meant to help us talk and eat to enjoy our food, not show off to other people, especially when they are coated with a thick white film which usually means they eat too much dairy and other unhealthy foods. (You may want to check out how to heal this too.)

Be a godly feminine woman. Show discretion in all that you do and don't try to gain attention by doing something that is ugly. You are grown up now and have put childish ways behind you. No longer give into your feelings and emotions but be guided by the clear teachings of the Word of God. Don't follow what culture is doing but follow what the Lord wants you to do: "Let it be the hidden person of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price" (1 Peter 3:4).

Next time someone takes a picture of you, stand up tall and smile with the tongue in where it's supposed to be. You will look much more feminine and pretty this way.

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Oh gracious!! I agree wholeheartedly with this post! I have some girlfriends, who are awesome Godly women, who think it is hilarious to talk about passing gas, etc. - even in mixed company. It always embarrasses me and I've often wondered if it was addressed in Scripture somehow. This verse answers that for me. As I'm preparing to lead a new ministry to 15-25 year old, unmarried young women in my church, I am also thankful for this post as a resource for a great lesson in spiritual, as well as, physical maturity.
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It's something I wouldn't have had to teach when I was growing up since we all knew they weren't things to do in public and there was still a measure of femininity back then. Times sure have changed, Denice, and yes, teach the young women the truth of God's word instead of them being influenced by culture.
It has taken many years for me to learn to be discreet and not draw attention to myself by doing things that are unladylike. I was raised to believe it was funny. When I belched loudly in front of my husband and laughed about it once, he gave me a disapproving look and I was mortified. He's 6 years older than me, so I have always looked up to him and he almost had to re-raise me in a lot of ways! But he is so patient with me and I am so grateful for him and his guidance! Ok, now I'm actually tearing up thinking about how good our God is to send this wonderful man into my life!
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You are blessed, Lisa, and thank you for sharing.
I never thought of all those things, Alisha, but it sure it ugly and God is a God of beauty and we should reflect His beauty, not diminish it.
Kali is a Hindu goddess not a demon. If you acknowledge Kali is real aren't you concerned that you are legitimizing the existance of Hindu gods? Charles Manson is severely mentally ill. Although he is inarguably evil I'm not sure he is provably demonically possessed. If that was his only problem and he wasn't also a paranoid schizophrenic then someone should be able to quickly exorcise those demons and he would become a lucid, productive human. That clearly hasn't happened.

I think it's more effective to discuss this bad behavior in real humans who are not stark raving mad. That's who the girls are really emulating. This is especially true for Miley Cyrus. You omitted that this is a sexual reference when girls do this, especially when done like Miley. That makes this selfie pose even more repulsive and inappropriate. It also makes it more puzzling when the mothers and grandmothers don't step in and put a stop to this.
I instantly thought of Miley Cyrus when I read the title. I have always thought that she would be such a pretty young lady if she were...well....a lady.
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It seems like she was the one responsible for starting the whole thing with grown women sticking their tongues out of their mouths. Not a good example, that is for sure.
Lori,

Amen x18. And might I add the disgusting sound of hearing a mother/father/guardian ask loudly in another aisle of the department store, "Do you have to p**?! Do you need to go p**p?!" Parents need to example AND teach discretion to their little ones. When we were growing up, we were not allowed to say "b*tt."

When our girls were growing up, we didn't discuss bodily functions publickly. They were addressed privately. If in public, I would whisper in my girls' ears, "Do you need to go potty? Do you need to go BM?" And their privates were privately referred to as "a female part" and a breast was and is a breast, not some other worldly term.

Some of the things I cannot help but overhear some parents and children discuss is, to quote you, disgusting, indiscreet and unladylike/ungentlemanly. There is a sore need for a revival in manners, etiquette and discretion.

*hugs*
Kelley~
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I don't think there is anything wrong with teaching children the correct names for anatomy, such as vagina and penis. As an article I recently read quotes, "Teaching children anatomically correct terms, age-appropriately, says Laura Palumbo, a prevention specialist with the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC), promotes positive body image, self confidence, and parent-child communication; discourages perpetrators; and, in the event of abuse, helps children and adults navigate the disclosure and forensic interview process." Sexual abuse often takes place by people the victim knows (the Duggars are a great example), and so this is important for all children, homeschooled or not.
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/04...
I agree with you Kelley. We never wanted to do anything to shame our children in public and always spoke about personal things privately with them.
Lori, I have been thinking about this lately. In our culture, in many ways grownups act like children. It's common to see men dressed like little boys in the street -- long shorts, baseball caps and silly graphic tees. To me, this is beach wear but people dress this way all the time. I was traveling waiting for a ferry and in the space of a couple minutes I must have seen eight people in their sixties eating gigantic ice cream cones. I don't think it's a big deal for an adult to have a snack, I think ice cream is delicious! It is more that I cannot even imagine my grandparents walking around eating huge sloppy cones in public. They might have bought them for their children or grandchildren. It looked a bit childish, I don't know why. Perhaps this observation is harsh. Also, movies successfully marketed to adults have a lot of gross-out jokes. There seems to be an epidemic of adults taking on childish pursuits, wholeheartedly, like people in their thirties being obsessed with comic book movies. I am not sure what is happening in our culture. I think about my grandparents and their generation all the time. I am not one to associate age with wisdom anymore necessarily, and that is sad. I do appreciate that there are a few older people in our church (mostly the elderly ones!) who are very well-grounded and have a lot to teach.
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There are many people in our culture who don't want to grow up and have a sense of entitlement. It's very sad and so harmful to the entire culture.
Thanks for this message. I especially dislike the fish lips pictures so many young adult women post on Facebook.
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I agree :)
It seems like cultural norms are being raised to the level of biblical mandates. It might be rude to burp in one culture and not another. The Bible says not to give offense, so if burping is rude then refrain. But if you are in a culture where burping is not considered rude, then the Bible does not prohibit women or men from burping.
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Tim,

Older women are to teach the younger women to be discreet which means to not do anything that draws undue attention to ourselves. Burping is considered crass in our culture, therefore, feminine, godly women should not do it in front of others.
my boyfriend is in the medical field, so i don't have a problem discussing any medical issues that I have with him. and obviously, although we all have bodily functions- sometimes they get the best of us. if you have to do it, try to walk out of the room and if there is no time, just apologize. happens to the best of us. lol. i try really really hard to not do anything gross in front of my boyfriend, but there was one night when i had a stomach bug and I just couldn't help it. thankfully he made sure i was cleaned up and in bed and all was forgotten a few weeks later. I say a few weeks because he definitely teased me about it. :)
but i do teach my daughter about these things too because i dont want her to be acting ridiculous in public. when you are young you can be silly, like we all have silly funny moments, but then pull it together!
when I came across this blog and post I thought to myself this woman has taken the words right out of my mouth... It is one of my pet peeves to see a woman or a young man do any of theses things... I would hope I have taught both of my grown girls who are now woman for to act and behave like a lady and to pass that on to there children...

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