As we know from the Bible, women are the weaker sex (1 Peter 3:7) and are more easily
deceived (1 Timothy 2:14). We allow our emotions to control some of our life and decisions. This is why God
has said that women are not to teach nor be in authority over men (1 Timothy 2:12). God made
women and men differently for the different purposes He has created them for.
He has created women to get married, bear children, and guide the home (1
Timothy 5:14 and Titus 2:4, 5).
The reason women are flocking to Jesus Calling and many of the female Bible teachers and writers is because they appeal to their emotional nature. Women
love to feel things. If they don't feel in love with
their husbands, they will often divorce them to find another man they might feel in love with. They may not even feel that they love one of their children but they must regardless of their feelings. Women love to feel emotional over the Lord and His Word. I am not
saying this is wrong but it shouldn't be our goal. Our goal should be to obey
the Lord by doing what He has clearly told us to do in His Word without
depending upon our emotions to lead us.
I went to a wonderful retreat this past weekend where a close friend of
ours led a women's one-day retreat. Carol Hopson said, "Emotions are not
dictators; they are indicators of our need to run to Jesus." Women
absolutely have a tendency to allow their emotions to dictate their behaviors.
Emotions and feelings aren't always right and often lie to us.
When Fifty Shades of Grey was popular, I read some blogs and women
praising this book and how much better their sex lives were from seeing this
movie. They were being led by their emotions and not by love for their
husbands. I am sure the women who had "great sex lives" from this
movie don't have great sex lives anymore because emotional highs don't last very
long.
Since we know we are the weaker vessel and easily deceived, it is all the
more reason to be in the Word daily and be led by the perfect will of God, no
longer allowing our emotions to run and ruin our lives. If you want God to
speak to you personally, as Justin Peter said, "Dear ones, if you
want to hear God speak to you, there’s one way I can guarantee you that you
will hear God speak, read your Bible. If you want to hear God speak to you
audibly, read it out loud. I promise you, I promise you, you’ll hear Him
speak."
If you want to grow strong in the wisdom and the
knowledge of the Lord, the only path is through His Word, not feel-good, warm
and fuzzy devotionals, female preachers, emotions, and books. God's Word is convicting, challenging, and
encouraging so read and listen to Christian authors, teachers, and male
preachers who teach convicting, challenging, and encouraging messages.
If you're sick of being a baby Christian and only drinking milk, unable to distinguish clearly between right and wrong, and not understanding who you are in Christ, I encourage you to listen to this teaching by Michael Pearl on Romans 8. Romans is one of the most powerful and important books of the Bible. Paul explains what happens to us when we believe and how we can walk in the Spirit. Chapter 8 is the culmination of these teachings in Romans. This is good, solid meat for you to chew on and mature you in your walk with the Lord.
If you're sick of being a baby Christian and only drinking milk, unable to distinguish clearly between right and wrong, and not understanding who you are in Christ, I encourage you to listen to this teaching by Michael Pearl on Romans 8. Romans is one of the most powerful and important books of the Bible. Paul explains what happens to us when we believe and how we can walk in the Spirit. Chapter 8 is the culmination of these teachings in Romans. This is good, solid meat for you to chew on and mature you in your walk with the Lord.
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
2 Timothy 3:16, 17
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Michelle 33p · 443 weeks ago
I also switched car repair places when I suspected they were encouraging unnecessary repairs.
My 64 year old mother was not fooled and reported a scam when someone called claiming to be from the IRS saying she owed delinquent taxes.
When the BIble says we are the weaker sex, it means physically.
Also, remember the BIble says Adam was "with her" when Eve ate. He was just as at fault. Eve was not the only one responsible.
Lori Alexander 122p · 443 weeks ago
"But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet." (1 Tim. 2:12)
Why?
"For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression." (1 Tim. 2:13, 14)
Michelle 33p · 443 weeks ago
However, outside of church, he expects me to be able to handle what I can on my own without always depending on him unless it is something I physically can't do. That comes from his days in the Air Force when he was gone frequently. He was actually engaged to someone else before me but broke it off because he felt the young lady was too clingy and dependent.
All I meant was that women are capable of making intelligent decisions and not being deceived. Proverbs 31 talks about her husband having full confidence in her. I'm sure mine was happy I did not let us get scammed with that computer virus.
Lori Alexander 122p · 443 weeks ago
sipcode 22p · 443 weeks ago
Further, I suggest that scripture is sufficiently clear that Adam was not with Eve when she was with the serpent and took the fruit from the tree. Gen 3:6b“She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.” There is no evidence that Adam was there during the discussion with the serpent - no recorded anything about Adam until Eve gave the fruit to him. If he was physically nearby when Eve and the serpent were talking why wouldn’t the author say so in some form? The author did that for Eve, going to the trouble of outlining her mindset and motivation to eat the fruit. But why not that of Adam ...unless he was not there? Many a teacher hangs their hat of Adam’s supposed transgression on the phrase "with her." ‘With her’ could simply mean with her in the Garden -- was the Garden 100 sq feet or 100 sq miles? I’ve been ‘with’ someone many times but not with them, not in the same conversation or space. And it is too easy to presume that Adam would have recognized the fruit, and certainly not seen it peeled or cut [if applicable]; and the flesh could have been very similar to other fruits or not seen it at all before he ate. As in Gen3:17, he may have been distracted by the woman – wanting to please her by doing her desire -- and did not know what he was eating. I’ve been at a mall ‘with’ my wife but I have not been with her. More than once she has walk up to me, after being at the other end of the mall, and shoved something she bought into my mouth and said ‘here, taste this’ – without me seeing it, wanting to surprise me. I envision it could have been EXACTLY like that with Adam. And Paul supports this position, making it clear in 1Tim2:14 that Adam was not deceived, did not transgress.
1 Pet3:7 “Dwell with [wives] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel…” This “weaker” is not physical strength, as most pastors teach, because it talks about husbands ‘dwelling’ with them with ‘knowledge.’ This verse does not warn men that if you shake a woman’s hand be mindful not to crush it. The ‘weaker’ that Paul talks of in this verse is in being true to self, of self deception. The Greek = Strongs 772 ‘asthenes’ = ‘feeble, strengthless, weak, sick; 769-771 = disease, infirmity, a scruple of conscience; against knowledge & power, from root word “sthenoo’ 4599 is to confirm in knowledge and power. And this is why scriptural instruction to wives is so black and white –“submit in everything” “without a word,” etc’-- without room for discussion, negotiation, or collaboration. [FYI: The Greek word for knowledge used here is different from the ‘knowledge’ of spiritual discernment [1922 ‘epignosis’ = discernment, recognition, acknowledge – as in accepting the truth of God]; Strong’s 1108 defines “gnostis,” the knowledge in 1Pet3:7 as ‘science’ or fact finding, to learn what makes women ‘tick’ so-to-speak, so men can better lead, better love, better interact with, and [yes] better ‘lord’ over their wives. BTW, the opposite is agnostic = w/o knowledge. This all ties in with 1 Tim 2:14 that Eve did deceive herself; Adam did not.
KiwiGuest · 443 weeks ago
The reason I ask is because I have had many people tell me that yes, women should submit to their husbands, but God gave us (women) minds so we can think for ourselves, and now that we have access to good education, and we have learned how to think and it is accepted and expected that we think for ourselves, surely we are just as knowledgeable as our husbands and should not be submitting to them in matters of intelligence?
Personally, I am far more educated than my husband (he left school at 15 with no qualifications, I went to University). But we have had no issues over submission with regarding to schooling, academics, intelligence etc. because we are both intelligent people with skills in different areas, and my strengths complement his weaknesses and vice versa. In practical things, he is better (stronger) but in areas of research, or finding information (for example, researching before deciding whether or not to vaccinate our children, or researching before deciding whether or not to have scans when I was pregnant ... etc) those decisions fall to me. He has no desire to make those decisions, or have me submit in that area - he trusts that I will find out the information and make the best decision. Yet your claim that women must submit in 'everything' appears that for women to make decisions in anything at all, is wrong.
This is a genuine question, I'm not looking for an argument, but rather, I am hoping you can use scripture to back up your claim that women must submit in everything, no discussion, no negotiation.
sipcode 22p · 443 weeks ago
Great heartfelt questions. An initial perspective to any discussion of God: we need to learn the language of God --which is obedience, and drop the language of the world -- which is asking ‘why?’ Using words of scripture: from our carnal perspective we demand to understand before we obey; from our spiritual perspective [as a mature Christian] we obey first and let God reveal the ‘why’ in his time. At the root of our carnal responses is our demand to be in charge, to be God for ourselves. That is all children are doing when they say “why” to a parental instruction; they want to be in charge of their lives.
INFERIOR: I don’t for a moment believe women are inferior in the sense that they are as much a part of God’s plan as men, as a being of God’s, with His kingdom offered to them. However, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, male or female” in the kingdom is after the resurrection, not here on earth. There are still positions and distinctions until Christ returns. A sergeant is always inferior to a General. So we should not be afraid to say that a wife is always inferior to her husband. That is the language of God. Women are incredibly impressive and life giving, but not in being equal to or greater than men. That is when they become incredibly depressive and deadly. In the carnal mind we compare how smart a woman is or how strong or experienced, etc. In the spiritual mind that would not occur to us: God does not want women leading men NOR getting his glory [1Cor11:7]. BTW, simple test: if you as wife or woman is getting the glory at the expense of your husband or a man, then God is being blasphemed.
THINK FOR SELF: that phrase smacks of not submitting. If a wife reserves the right to ‘think for herself’ that suggests she does not need to ‘obey in everything’ and that she reserves the right for the last word, justifying it because her husband is corrupt or ignorant, thereby demanding she is ultimately in charge. God does not want us to think for ourselves; He wants us to obey His word. ‘Renewing our mind’ simply means to stop lying to ourselves, stop deceiving self, and come back to obedience to the Word.
EDUCATION: and knowledge is power. That is what Eve grabbed for on the tree …to become like God …powerful. God wants us obedient before He wants us knowledgeable. We can use the knowledge properly when we are strictly obedient; improperly when not. You say you are more educated than your husband. That is not the issue. God does not want women leading men. He wants us poor and obedient rather than rich and blasphemous. There is literal Hell to pay. My sister kicked her husband out of the home because of adultery. She had to ‘protect’ her kids from their father. She homeschooled 5 of them to the biggest named [the biggest] universities in the world and everyone said ‘Wow, she is so great!’ Yet, her kinds reeled then and they are reeling more now at ages 25-35, from the alienation of their father [not to mention that I think she drove him to the adultery]. Education literally was her god from a little girl. But God ‘will turn the hearts of fathers to children…’ Malachi 4:6 !!
OBEY IN EVERYTHING: Lori has covered that well over the years and Eph 5:24 is so clear. Let me be to the point: anyone who does not see that verse does not want to see that verse; it is the condition of their heart. And God looks on the heart. As far as the reason behind it, I made a comment below about 1Peter Chapter 2+3 [and Lori has covered well –search all her blog; she is very good!]
Kiwi: I understand your POV. We are at war with powers and principalities that cloud the Word. We fight that by, as James 4:7 says, resisting. And we resist the Devil by aligning with God. And we align with God by strict obedience to His Word, the very being that is Jesus Christ. That is when we truly know Him. Bless you in your walk with Him.
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Lori Alexander 122p · 443 weeks ago
"Likewise (as Christ suffered for us and was in subjection to His Father), ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external-- braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear."
sipcode 22p · 443 weeks ago
1 Pet 2:13“..submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake” Why? To respect God’s authority structure. V18 “…be subject to your masters with all fear, not only to the good and gentle but to the froward [harsh in NKJV; Greek ‘skolios’ 4646 = warped, perverse, winding, crooked]” Why? V15“For this is the will of God…to silence the ignorance of foolish men.” V19-21“For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully…fore even hereunto were ye called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow His steps.” Then 1 Pet 3:5-6“For in this manner in the old time, the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands, even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any ‘amazement’ [alarm, cause to fall, fly away - 4423/4422’ptoesis’].” Now since this is such a controversial topic and seemingly litigious to counselors, Guest, draw your own conclusions from God’s Word, simply repeated here. And let God be threatened with a lawsuit.
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Mrs. Kelley Dibble · 443 weeks ago
Each day that passes brings bold and new evidence that we're in a battle in the war for men's souls. We have a close pastor friend who has chosen to be deceived, sow discord among the brethren, and set himself in a place of leadership that will certainly lead him to distruction. A decision had been made by a leader and with which this pastor disagreed. He allowed anger, and bitterness and resentment from an event from the past, to dictate his actions in rebellion toward authority and disobedience of God's Word. It has been grievous to watch and horrifying to think of the bitter fruit that will result. Oh, the tears I have cried for this man, his precious wife, their four married children and many grandchildren.
The Bible tells us that the just walk in integrity and their children are blessed after them. That's the kind of husband I want, the person I want to be, and how I want my children to live. As long as there's breath, it's never too late to do what is right (Chuck Swindoll). May my prayers not be for judgment or revenge but that our friend would come to himself as the prodigal son did and make things right here on earth so they are regarded well in Heaven.
I plead with your readers to refuse to let emotion dictate their lives. One rash decision made in the heat of emotion, whether that's fear, anger, sadness, even joy, disgust or shock, could reap untold pain, suffering, even ruin. Let every decision and choice be made based upon the Word of Truth and even among a multitude of wise counsel where there is safety.
Fearful? What does God Word say? His perfect loves casts all fear out. Angry? Take care to self-control and be Spirit-controlled lest you do or say something you'll live to regret. Sad? Hang in there. His Word tells us there's a time for mourning, and while it endures for a long night, joy will come. It will come. Happy? Thinking this is just the greatest feeling? Oh! You're so happy! Make certain the reasons are based on the truth of God's Word, for the one who finds wisdom and gets understanding is happy. Today's popular thing is to disgust, and shock factor is off the charts. This world says, Let's see how far we can go, how many windows we can break, how many people we can hurt, how many faces we can get into and how many fowl words we can say. "I have my rights." Emotion gone wild.
Remembering that Jesus has overcome it all is a major win in the mind. I read that the martyred missionary to China, John Stam, was impressed by the Lord to believe, "Act as if I were and you shall see that I am." God can help us with our emotions because He created them for us. May our controlled emotions bring glory to Him.
*hugs*
Kelley
Lori Alexander 122p · 443 weeks ago