Charles Spurgeon wrote, “Never try to live on the old manna, nor seek to find help in Egypt.” As believers in Jesus Christ, we should not try to find marriage counselors from the secular world, help for training and disciplining children or any type of relational advice from them either, since they come from an entirely different perspective with different goals than a Christ follower.
Recently, Susan wrote to me about her father who is living a sinful lifestyle and she doesn’t want to have anything to do with him. However, she knows from Scripture that she must honor her mother and father. How does she reconcile the two? If she went to the secular world or probably even many lukewarm believers, they would probably tell her she didn’t need to have anything to do with him if he was doing something she didn’t like. The Bible is outdated and written by men any ways.
What does the Bible say? We are to honor our father and mother regardless of their behavior. Our parent’s disobedience doesn’t give us a right to be disobedient, just as a husband’s disobedience doesn’t give his wife the right to be disobedient. We will one day stand alone in the presence of the Lord and have to give an account for our actions, not our parent's or spouse's. We are told to reverence our husbands and respect all those in authority over us for the positions they hold and the responsibility that goes along with it.
How does Susan honor her father who is living a sinful lifestyle? She needs to gain an eternal perspective. Hell is an awful place to spend eternity and she must keep his eternal soul in mind in all her behavior towards him. Pray for him consistently. Write him notes with Scripture verses and encouraging words. When she sees him, she should always be kind and loving since the Lord may use her to win him to the Lord. Remember, even Jesus asked the Father to forgive those who were murdering him. Those trapped in sinful lifestyles are in bondage to sin and the enemy is winning their soul. It is all a spiritual battle being waged in the heavenlies. When you try to win your parent, spouse, children, and friends to the Lord, you use the same weaponry: the armor of the Lord to fight this battle. Once you put on the Lord’s armor, you have a great chance of winning them to the Lord because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.
Whenever you have a relationship problem, go to the Word or to a godly person you know. Don’t seek help in Egypt. Years ago, Egypt said pornography was fine. Now, they are realizing the harm in it. We always knew sexual immorality is evil and something we must flee since the Word is clear about it. Read and study the Word to find principles to live by. You will never go wrong obeying the Lord in what He commands that you do. It is much better to reap rewards from the Lord, than the manna the world has to offer that quickly spoils.
But without faith it is impossible to please Him: for he that comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him.