Sunday, December 11, 2011

Sanctifying Husbands

There are many women out there that believe if their husband is involved with pornography, they have grounds for divorce.  I have addressed this in previous posts but still feel led to share more with you on this topic because of the comments I am receiving.

Pornography is an insidious evil. There is no denying that.  I hate it.  It leaves destruction in its wake.  Most child abusers were addicted to pornography.  It wraps its gnarly vines around many men's feet and they become trapped in its web.

Micheal Pearl wrote a great piece about it called Pornography ~ Road To Hell that I would encourage you to give to your husbands and sons.  Warn your young sons about it so they will know to flee it before it gets a hold on them.

After saying all this, I believe wives need to stay with their husbands and win them without a word.  You may be the only Jesus they see in their life.  The Bible says ~ 

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.  {I Corinthians 7:14} 

I am not exactly sure what that means but I think it means that as long as you are living with them, they are seeing Jesus and having His presence in their lives.

When a woman leaves her husband because he is trapped in sin, she leaves him without Jesus in his life.  She needs to work on making living for Jesus look so attractive to her husband, that he will desire to have what she has and will want it for himself.  If he already is a believer, you need to stand by his stand as he fights this battle. 

God's ways are good.  They are not always easy, but they are good. 

A woman commented on a recent post about pornography.  She had left her husband because he was involved in it.  She was convicted that she should not have left him and is winning her husband back. 

Lusting after a women is committing adultery with a woman "in the heart" {Matthew 5:28} according to Jesus.  That is different than committing it in the flesh.  If Jesus thought divorce was allowable because of lust, he would have said that but He didn't.  He only allows it for fornication {physical sex between two people who are not married to each other}. 

So if your man is involved in pornography, pray a lot.  Continue to love and serve him.  Be the wife God calls you to be even if he isn't being the husband he should be.  You will be rewarded by the Lord and His rewards are very good.
He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.
Hebrews 11:6