Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Are Men Idiots?

Men are idiots. We work hard to date and pursue our girlfriend, but once we marry our girlfriend it all stops. The man who dated, wooed, and passionately pursued his girlfriend degenerates into the husband who merely shares a home, bills, conflict, and problems with his wife. {Taken from this article.}

This author makes some very good points.  It would be wonderful if men continued dating their wives and treating them like they did before they got married.  The only problem is that most women do not treat their husband like they did before they got married.

Calling men idiots is what our society likes to do, blame it all on the men.  Yes, men are responsible for a lot of things but so are women.  Many men aren't idiots.  They marry their wives desiring a good marriage but their wives start treating them like a child instead of a husband.  Men have a very hard time treating a wife romantically if their wife treats them like a child.

From my experience, when wives start loving and pleasing their husbands, the husbands want to treat their wives special.  They want to start dating them again because they have fun with them and enjoy being with them.  When a wife nags and complains, a husband doesn't desire to date his wife.  Who wants to date a nag?

There is a reason there are so many Bible verses about quarreling and arguing wives.  We are very good at it!  We can, however, decide to stop that behavior and start winning our husbands without a word.

I thought it was interesting that this man interviewed many people asking them how many great marriages they saw around them.  Most could only think of one or two.  He then proceeds to explain how they can have a great marriage. Date their wives!  It is a very good start and I think it is a good article for men to read.

However, I don't think it will work that well unless the wives decide to accept and appreciate their husbands just the way they are now.  If they can do that, this dating thing will work very well!

It is better to live in a corner of the housetop
than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:9

P.S.  The couple in the picture is one we mentored before marriage.  They love being married, he is an amazing husband, and they still date a lot!!!