Scripture makes an INCREDIBLE promise to women....We can actually win our husbands without a word. Win them to what....Jesus, us??? How do we win them...This is key? Without a word!
Wow! We are so good at preaching to them or being disrespectful to them when they act like jerks. But Scripture says we win them without a word as they observe our behavior. So what should our behavior look like...loving, serving, kind, gentle, quiet {Yikes...I'm not too good at that one}, forgiving easily, not rolling your eyes when they say something stupid, etc. There is no promise in Scripture given to men like this one.
Women wield a lot of power through their behavior. It is actually quite amazing. I have taught many women Debi Pearl's book which points to Scripture as our guide. Within a week...Yes, a week...these women come back to me and say how much their marriage has improved because they just started smiling at their husbands, being joyful around them, and stopped arguing with them. ONE WEEK!!!
I will ask the husbands how their relationship is going and they will tell me how great it has been lately. They aren't sure why {they don't know about 'the book'} but they know they like this new relationship.
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives.
I Peter 3:1
