The following comments are taken from an article from the Huffington Post ~
These women are done. They say they aren't happy. They say they aren't in love with their husbands {or any other man -- they aren't having affairs}. They say they simply wish they were no longer married to him. They aren't fulfilled. They wonder if this is how they are doomed to live the rest of their lives {and God-willing, most of them have another 40+ years ahead of them}.
The common factor amongst all of these women is that they say that their husbands are really solid, good, nice men. They are not victims of physical or emotional abuse. They are not married to felons. They are not married to alcoholics or drug addicts. Their husbands are not having affairs. In fact, they tell me, there really isn't anything "wrong" with their husbands ... they just don't want to be married to them anymore because they have fallen out of love. It's actually a depressing conversation. When did we all become so unfulfilled with life?
It goes on to say that these women wish their husbands would have affairs so they could divorce them. This behavior happening in the secular society is to be expected. They aren't taught to love others and to keep their vows, but I am seeing it happening a lot among "Christians."
Many women are married to very good men, yet their supposed happiness is more important than obeying God. The thing is they will never find true happiness apart from obeying God. We are called to love, serve, and please our husbands. The more a woman decides to live that way, the happier she becomes.
Too many women think that divorce is the answer. They are fooling themselves along with the many secular women who feel this way. They are trading one set of problems for another and usually, worse problems. They will never have the joy of growing old together, shared experiences, and well-adjusted children. They have allowed selfishness to run their lives instead of love. Selfishness is from Satan and breeds unhappiness. Love is from God and breeds happiness.
So if you are like one of the many women who are "unhappy" in your marriage, decide to be happy in your marriage. The choice is in your head, not your circumstances. Remember those very important vows you said to him on your wedding day. Be a vow keeper. There are many women out there that would love to have your husband. Hold onto him tightly and never let him go.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
I Corinthians 13:4-8
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growingmother 57p · 679 weeks ago
Another viewpoint is, "You only live once, people change, you shouldn't have to live unhappy and unfulfilled, the kids need to see what a happy, fulfilled marriage/partnership looks like."
But for me the huge problem with the entire story is that these women's fundamental unhappiness has nothing to do with thier husbands, but everything to do with themselves. They are unhappy on thier own and will remain that way divorced or married. Husbands aren't supposed to make their wife's personal happiness and joy that should come from God. I think for these women the problem really is the self. By the way I am unmarried so maybe I don't have the best perspective :)
Michelle
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ms4composure1908 40p · 679 weeks ago
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char72 44p · 679 weeks ago
Blessings,
Charlotte
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Nicole · 679 weeks ago
Marriage is like any other relationship (although vastly more important)- there are going to be highs and lows- hence the vows "for better or worse" etc. etc. You must stick it out, pray, and be there for one another. I am so blessed to be a married woman and I cherish what God created!
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monicaswitzer 1p · 678 weeks ago
Thanks for the wonderful post. My parents are divorced and I know the affect it has on kids. We can't let it be an option.
Blessings,
Monica www.myredandpurplelife.com
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e-Mom · 678 weeks ago
Blessings, e-Mom @ Chrysalis ღ