Sunday, August 12, 2012

Admiring His Masculinity


Both male and female brains receive a measure of testosterone, but the female brain gets only small injections of the hormone while the male brain is flooded with it {inside the womb}.  And testosterone makes a huge difference,  it stimulates strength, drive, and aggression, giving the average male a focus on power, competition, and winning. 

The low testosterone levels in the average female put her focus on nurturing, affection, sensitivity, and personal connections.  The bulk of the man's communication is in pursuit of his competitive goals.  The bulk of the woman's is in pursuit of relationships.
{Dr. Gary Smalley}

Now you can see why marriages are in deep trouble. Today's society is trying to teach you there is no difference between men and women. They are lying to you. There is a huge difference. The more that you understand this difference, the happier your marriage will become.

Instead of trying to make your husband become more sensitive, you will understand that he is not a woman and God has created him to go out and fight for survival. 

Instead of trying to get your husband to talk more, you will understand that he has used up his 10,000 words for the day and you still have 20,000 words left, so you will call your girlfriend. 

Instead of turning him down for sex again, you will understand that he has ten times the testosterone that you have and will be happy to meet that need for him. 

Instead of getting angry with him when he yells at the referee, you will smile and think he is just being a competitive man. 

You will admire his masculine traits for now on instead of trying to make him into a woman. 

You will understand when he doesn't notice your haircut or buy you flowers, but softly ask him if he likes your hair. 

Love the differences between the two of you instead of despise them. I wouldn't want to be married to another women. Yuck! Too much estrogen and too many similarities. Children like the differences between their moms and dads. All children if given the choice want a mom and dad instead of two moms or two dads. 

Each sex has something unique and special to add to the raising of children and the home.  Admire and cherish those differences. Why don't you go and tell your husband you love his masculine qualities and start appreciating him for who God made him?

But from the beginning of the creation 
God made them male and female.
Mark 10:6

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middlechild · 659 weeks ago

I am trying!
Something that has been hard in my marriage is coming to terms with the fact that my husband is NOT the typical testerone fueled man. He is very sensitive and caring and emotional...cries freely and easily and is very compassionate and loving. I love these qualities in him but I sometimes wish he had more of that aggressive drive to compete and provide. He's not ambitious at all by nature and dosen't feel much drive or obligation to provide for our family or be a leader. I've asked him to become the leader of our household and he turned me down!! I think that while some men are driven and ambitious due to their biological differences it does not necessarily apply to all. I don't know in my case if this is a blessing or a burden! Very interesting indeed!
I absolutely LOVE the 'manly-ness' of my hubby. It makes me feel very protected and comfortable. I used to think that I was attracted to 'cocky' guys, but I guess I just like a man that acts like a man. Even more so now that I have learned what it's like to act like a woman and not compete with my hubby......we are different, and that's how we're supposed to be.
SO true! Thanks for sharing this important reminder. :)
I think this is great advice but at the same time men need to understand women's needs too. It's not that hard to buy flowers randomly or try to make some time to talk. I definetly try to show respect for my husband but it doesn't change the fact I want certain things like flowers or quality time. He is beginning to understand this more though since I have been showing him more respect and love. It really helps when you give them room to be men. My husband becomes much more open to meeting my needs when I meet his. :)
I keep visiting your blog for your inspiring post. Thanks a lot you always make my day great.
I love that my husband has masculine traits.

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