Sunday, August 5, 2012

Changing On A Dime


Over 14 years ago, two neighbors and I were driving together to a funeral.  On the way there, we were talking about our marriages and our husbands.  One of the women told us there was not one thing she would change about her husband.  We were shocked.  "Wow!  Really?"

They live across the street from us.  They never argue and are madly in love with each other.  They are both always gentle and kind to each other, never raising their voices or showing disrespect.

On the radio today, one woman said she decided to start acting nice to her husband and she said her husband changed on a dime.  Dennis Prager then said most men change dramatically when they are treated nicely by their wives. 

So having a good marriage is simple really, unless you are married to a very bad man.  Love him just the way he is and treat him nicely.  Doesn't everyone want to be treated this way?  Shouldn't we treat all our family and friends this way?

Of course my neighbor's husband isn't perfect.  Nobody is so we must not expect it of anyone.  The people I enjoy being around the most are those who accept me just as I am and aren't critical of me.

We have so much control over our thoughts and behaviors.  Begin with your thoughts.  Change from critical thoughts to positive thoughts.  Start being nice even if you don't feel like it.  Do what is right instead of what you feel like doing.  Then, maybe even your husband will change on a dime.

May the God of endurance and encouragement
grant you to live in such harmony with one another,
in accord with Christ Jesus,
that together you may with one voice
glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.  
Romans 15:5,6

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I think most of us react in a DIME when well treated and less critisized!! I always strive for been good to everyone, even if I don't really feel like that! A great reminder for the new week coming and for ever! I love harmony in our lives, I just can't live without it! Thank you for sharing this great thought. Have a happy week.
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God is great and so true! Living in unity is so important and just so tough sometimes. I really admire the couples that have learned to overlook each other's faults and know how to truly talk through things and show affection and love through it all. I work on this everyday. :) I do struggle when I see unhealthful habits and such because I worry about his future. But I cannot be his Holy Spirit and only can lead by example! http://munchtalk.blogspot.com/
I love this post! I totally agree we should always treat others the way we want to be treated. My husband & I have a wonderful relationship and while our marriage hasn't always been perfect it's been a wonderful learning experience for us both. We've had many friends tell us they want a marriage like ours, my response is always the same... it's not always pretty or perfect and it takes a lot of work but so worth it :)
Amen, amen.
I love how you put it...it really is that simple, isn't it? :)
Thank you for this inspirational post. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, 3 years sober. We're both learning how to relate to each other in a healthy way. It's hard at times, and so worth it.
The more you appreciate someone...or some thing...the better they get!
amen to that! Secret of good marriage. Thanks for sharing:)
KIndness works. My husband has started treating me well, it is easier to love him. He had an addiction that he had to break so he could be nice.

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