There aren't many men who read my blog but for those of you who do, I think you need to start speaking up and being the leader in the home. Ken so wishes he would have spoken up years ago and told me I was treating him with disrespect.
If you have a wife who is constantly grumpy, negative, disrespects you, nags and tries manipulating her, start telling her what she is doing is wrong. Tell her she respects other people more than she respects you and she is commanded by God to respect you. Start confronting her with her sin.
I am sure she has told you what your sins are many times. The Bible admonishes us to rebuke and admonish others and if you can't do this with your own wife, who can you do it with?
I think a lot of husbands are afraid of their wives. Wives wield a lot of power in relationships with their moods and ability to withhold sex. This is why it is much harder for a marriage to improve when just dealing with the husbands.
Almost all marriages have dramatically changed as I have mentored the women. But I think the husbands can help by speaking truth to their wives.
If you have been reading this blog, you now know what a godly wife should look like. Start speaking truth to her and start praying she will listen. Hopefully, she will take what you have to say to heart and see her sin in the marriage. The biggest key to changing behavior is to see it, confess it, and work on changing it.
So be leaders, men, and start taking the lead in your families. It may not work but as you are the head of the home, it is your responsibility to act like the head and lead your wife down the right path.
But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things,
who is the head, even Christ.
Ephesians 4:15
For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church:
and he is the savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:23
Wise Woman
But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things,
who is the head, even Christ.
Ephesians 4:15
For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church:
and he is the savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:23
Wise Woman
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PJB · 659 weeks ago
Requiring someone to treat you well and respect your human dignity can be hard, but I agree that it is deeply important. It's not necessarily "leadership" but it is basic self respect. So many people miss out on good relationships because they let others walk all over them without a word.
All married people deserve to be well loved and have their needs met. It's important to address the problem if someone in a marriage is habitually unkind and unloving towards their spouse.
Sharon O · 659 weeks ago
It also goes the other way.
A few weeks ago my hubby was crabby and not being kind to me and I told him to stop it. I said "I am not the enemy and your way of talking to me is not nice, it is unkind and needs to stop." He heard me and did stop.
We all are responsible for our words. Equally and mutual.
If it is unkind and hurts, then we need to confront. Sometimes they or ourselves may not even realize the tone and attitude we give off to our 'spouses'.
Joluise · 659 weeks ago
And men who do "confront" their wives should do it with love and not as an act of power. It can go all very wrong sadly as not men are like your husband or my father or my brothers.
Debbie · 659 weeks ago