Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Making The Bed


My sisters have very pretty beds.  They like the sheets folded back just so and the pretty pillows placed in a special order.  Their husbands know this and when my sisters don't have time to make the beds, their husbands make it just the way they like it!

My sisters have learned  and practice biblical submission.  Neither of them were too good at it when they were younger but now have wonderful marriages.  Both husbands are very happy men and like pleasing their wives.  They are the leaders in the family and they are good leaders.

Women don't seem to know that when they start loving and serving their husbands, their husbands will love and serve them, even in the little things.  You reap what you sow, but why is this concept so difficult to understand?

I have always been a woman who seeks after God.  I have always wanted to please Him.  Carol Hopson {my mentor} asked what opened my eyes to the truth of biblical submission.  I told her it was Debi Pearl's book.  Debi told me I needed to start smiling at my husband and enjoying him.  She told me I needed to stop trying to change him.

How come I didn't see that in all the hours of Bible study I have done in my life?  God tells us to love Him and love others.  It is so simple.  If you truly love others, you will want to make them happy, even in the little things.  You won't always want your way.  You will want to serve them.

Thankfully, it is never too late to change.  My sisters and I all have good, solid marriages that have withstood the test of time.  God has been good and gracious to us and very patient!  We must be good, gracious, and patient with others.

What little thing does your husband like you to do?  Ask him and next time he needs it done, surprise him by doing it!

She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:12

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A Grateful Wife · 657 weeks ago

It's so refreshing to read your blog, Lori. Just the other day I felt very discouraged in this whole submission thing. But I know that when I fight and rebel against it, I am miserable. When I vow again (for the hundredth time) that this will be the day I change and become a wife like your sisters, I feel peace. I KNOW, deep in my being, that to submit to my husband is what's right. It doesn't even have much to do with religion, really. I mean, it does, but yet it doesn't, if you know what I mean. It's more like it's something I know instictively to be right, and I think I would feel that way without ever hearing of it in Christian circles or reading about it in the Bible. Which just reaffirms to me that it is the way things are meant to be. It's such a hidden nugget of truth in our society. Thank you Lori, for unearthing it, polishing it, and letting it shine here on your blog!
Submission has such bad connotations but it really just about truly loving your spouse. I have learned so much about how to love my husband from reading this blog. It is hard to give in and relinquish control but it is amazing what it does to a man. Giving my husband the grace the Lord gave me and loving him opens him up and has made him even more awesome. Part of the blessing though is when you do this it doesn't jut change him but also the way you see him which is half the problem. My eyes were open to see how amazing he is. Anyway, long story short I am so glad the Lord brought me to this blog and helps me to love my husband the way the Lord does:).
Oh Lori, I never miss, (or try to) what you write and the messages you send us all! Most Latin women are brought up to be as you say, understanding it in the right context of it, as God sends us to do..except of course some men don't appreciate and think they're entitled to it. I was lucky growing up as mother was as you say and dad appreciated her so much and acted just like your Bros in laws do and as God comands us. I also took after my mom and so did Sofia and we are also blessed by Him with our wonderful husbands. Thanks for sharing. Have a beautiful rest of the week.
FABBY
Great post. Thank you.
Awesome!!! Love to do something like this for my new home,Thanks for sharing. www.blissfulsewing.blogspot.com
Debi Pearls book also changed my life and my marriage. My husband respects me more and I respect myself more for submitting to his and Gods authority in my household.
God bless my friends.
That bed looks very pretty!
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im not saying · 654 weeks ago

:-) This made me smile.
My husband likes...
- the spoons with the slimmest handle
- that I come chat with him when he showers and hand him his towel
- Lots of lights on in the morning, but few at night
- To keep the shoepolish in the book closet (don't ask me why!)
- All his vegetables and fruit peeled and chopped into tiny pieces

I can't even think of all his quirky likes off the top of my head, I just automatically implement them in my daily chores :-)

He does the same for me. He used to be so messy but knows I'm particular about the position of the shower curtain (of all things!)

I'll give him a massage when he's had a rough week and inevitably, he will return the favor without me asking within a fortnight.
Gorgeous looking of the bed picture! I'm quietly enthusiastic to sleep just the bed because of I think that the beautiful bed makes me happy and coo. Thanks!

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