Wow! Even the secular society gets it right once in awhile. I was reading an article in the Huffington Post by a woman that was told by a friend that her marriage ended because she spent too much time with single friends. She also spent a lot of time with single, male friends {which I would completely discourage.} She even took road trips with them.
Her husband liked being at home more so she reasoned she needed to have her own life. After she divorced, her friend gave her this amazing advice ~
"Amira, your husband should always be your number one priority," she said to me. "That should be your main relationship. Even when there are children, you need to nurture the base relationship. He should do the same for you, too. Sure, there are family and friend crisis that you may have to deal with, but your focus should always be on your marriage. Always."
Now I am going to get just a little political. During the Democratic convention, Michelle Obama said that the most important job in her life were her children. She even called herself Mom-In-Chief. I was sad when I heard her say this. I would have loved her saying that Barrack was the most important person in her life.
One of Ann Romney's sons said that the universe revolved around Ann for Mitt. She always came first in his life. He loved his sons, but he needed his wife. I loved hearing this!
This concept is not taught in our society or church. When you make your husband your priority after your relationship to Jesus, everything else falls into place. He is happy. Your children are happy. People around you love being with you. In return, you are happy.
I know there are so many divorced women out there that would have been so thankful to receive this advice years earlier. They would have spared themselves and their children so much grief. Always make him your number one priority! This is the way it should be.
And the Lord God said,
Her husband liked being at home more so she reasoned she needed to have her own life. After she divorced, her friend gave her this amazing advice ~
"Amira, your husband should always be your number one priority," she said to me. "That should be your main relationship. Even when there are children, you need to nurture the base relationship. He should do the same for you, too. Sure, there are family and friend crisis that you may have to deal with, but your focus should always be on your marriage. Always."
Now I am going to get just a little political. During the Democratic convention, Michelle Obama said that the most important job in her life were her children. She even called herself Mom-In-Chief. I was sad when I heard her say this. I would have loved her saying that Barrack was the most important person in her life.
One of Ann Romney's sons said that the universe revolved around Ann for Mitt. She always came first in his life. He loved his sons, but he needed his wife. I loved hearing this!
This concept is not taught in our society or church. When you make your husband your priority after your relationship to Jesus, everything else falls into place. He is happy. Your children are happy. People around you love being with you. In return, you are happy.
I know there are so many divorced women out there that would have been so thankful to receive this advice years earlier. They would have spared themselves and their children so much grief. Always make him your number one priority! This is the way it should be.
And the Lord God said,
"It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him a help meet for him."
Genesis 2:18
I will make him a help meet for him."
Genesis 2:18
Kelley Highway · 640 weeks ago
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Roselyn · 640 weeks ago
Michelle Obama said her children were her most important job. (according to your quote) A husband is not a job. This didn't mean he is not the most important person in her life. Aunt R.
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Liz · 640 weeks ago
But your post made me stop and think tonight.
I reflected on all the times my husband has done something for me out of the goodness of his heart, without EVER asking for anything in return or ever using his good deeds to guilt me into doing something for him.
He works 12 hours a day, 6 days a week, yet he always finds time to help me wash clothes or cook dinner.
Tonight he helped me clean my car. (I struggle with that, too! Haha!)
He never lets me go anywhere alone at night to make sure I don't get hurt.
He always makes sure I have what I need, even if it means he goes without.
He lives to please me. I mentioned maybe buying a breadmaker and that I had found one at Goodwill last time I was there. And wouldn't you know it, when we went together on Saturday he sneaked off to see if it was still there. (No such luck! Darn!)
He always tells me he loves me and needs me and doesn't know how he got lucky enough to get me. He calls me his angel from God.
And I always thought I was the lucky one to get him! :-)
Lori, thanks for posting this. (And for letting me tell everyone how great my husband is!)
It was nice to have a reminder of how much he makes me his priority.
It's time to step-up my efforts to make him my priority!
Lori Alexander 122p · 640 weeks ago
Liz · 640 weeks ago
I love my husband deeply and until I read your post last night I don't think I realized how very lucky I am. I always wanted to change him because I thought that other women had better husbands and I wanted mine to be just like them.
I was definitely like the woman in the Bible who tears her house down with her own hands! (In Proverbs, maybe?) How did I miss the blessing right in front of me for this long?
Thanks again for this article and for letting me brag about my husband! ;)
homemakersdaily 32p · 640 weeks ago