Monday, December 17, 2012

Your Number One Priority


Wow! Even the secular society gets it right once in awhile.  I was reading an article in the Huffington Post by a woman that was told by a friend that her marriage ended because she spent too much time with single friends.  She also spent a lot of time with single, male friends {which I would completely discourage.}  She even took road trips with them.

Her husband liked being at home more so she reasoned she needed to have her own life.  After she divorced, her friend gave her this amazing advice ~

"Amira, your husband should always be your number one priority," she said to me. "That should be your main relationship. Even when there are children, you need to nurture the base relationship. He should do the same for you, too. Sure, there are family and friend crisis that you may have to deal with, but your focus should always be on your marriage. Always."

Now I am going to get just a little political.  During the Democratic convention, Michelle Obama said that the most important job in her life were her children.  She even called herself Mom-In-Chief.  I was sad when I heard her say this.  I would have loved her saying that Barrack was the most important person in her life.

One of Ann Romney's sons said that the universe revolved around Ann for Mitt.  She always came first in his life.  He loved his sons, but he needed his wife.  I loved hearing this!

This concept is not taught in our society or church.  When you make your husband your priority after your relationship to Jesus, everything else falls into place.  He is happy.  Your children are happy.  People around you love being with you.  In return, you are happy.

I know there are so many divorced women out there that would have been so thankful to receive this advice years earlier.  They would have spared themselves and their children so much grief.  Always make him your number one priority!  This is the way it should be.

And the Lord God said,
"It is not good that the man should be alone; 
I will make him a help meet for him."
Genesis 2:18

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Kelley Highway · 640 weeks ago

This is on the money. Dead right! I often tell my good husband of nearly 32 years, "You are the most precious person on this earth," and "You are my most prized possession." Show me in the Bible where it says God is the head of the wife. It doesn't. It says God is my husband's head and that my husband is my head. As my husband puts God first, I put my husband first. My children are watching that. They'll either embrace it or rebel against it. We will reap what we sow. No wonder this nation's in such a mess.
1 reply · active 640 weeks ago
Great thoughts, Kelley!
Hi Lori,
Michelle Obama said her children were her most important job. (according to your quote) A husband is not a job. This didn't mean he is not the most important person in her life. Aunt R.
1 reply · active 640 weeks ago
I have been a wife and mother for 30 years and view both of them as jobs that the Lord has given me. In fact, one definition that the dictionary gives of the word job is a specific duty, role, or function. So I have learned that as I make Ken my most important job {or duty or role}, my marriage has improved dramatically!
Whilst I agree that our husbands are our number 1 priority, I didn't like the cheap political swipe at Michelle Obama. Its quite clear looking at all the photos of the 2 together that they are very much in love. And just because she didn't say her husband is her number 1 priority doesn't mean it isn't. Whilst Mitt may think the world of Ann, you haven't said what Ann thinks. I think they are both wonderful wives and mothers and should be congratulated on that, not pulled down.
1 reply · active 640 weeks ago
I realize they probably have a very good marriage. I would have just loved someone with that much influence, however, to say that her marriage is even more important than being a mother. This country needs to hear and see that so badly as marriages are falling apart all around us.
Thank you for the wonderful post, it's exactly what I needed to hear. My husband and I are new parents, our little boy is 6 months old, and I can definitely see how parents can get so wrapped up in their children that they forget about one another.
1 reply · active 640 weeks ago
It is such a good thing to learn this when your children are babies. It is the best gift you can give them...to love their daddy!
I used to struggle SO MUCH with this. (And, human as I am, I still do sometimes.)
But your post made me stop and think tonight.
I reflected on all the times my husband has done something for me out of the goodness of his heart, without EVER asking for anything in return or ever using his good deeds to guilt me into doing something for him.

He works 12 hours a day, 6 days a week, yet he always finds time to help me wash clothes or cook dinner.
Tonight he helped me clean my car. (I struggle with that, too! Haha!)
He never lets me go anywhere alone at night to make sure I don't get hurt.
He always makes sure I have what I need, even if it means he goes without.
He lives to please me. I mentioned maybe buying a breadmaker and that I had found one at Goodwill last time I was there. And wouldn't you know it, when we went together on Saturday he sneaked off to see if it was still there. (No such luck! Darn!)
He always tells me he loves me and needs me and doesn't know how he got lucky enough to get me. He calls me his angel from God.

And I always thought I was the lucky one to get him! :-)

Lori, thanks for posting this. (And for letting me tell everyone how great my husband is!)
It was nice to have a reminder of how much he makes me his priority.
It's time to step-up my efforts to make him my priority!
2 replies · active 640 weeks ago
Oh wow! You do have an incredible husband! You are a blessed woman. Thank you for sharing how wonderful he is to you. {I just hope it doesn't make other women jealous! ;)}
And it took me constantly reading your blog to realize that I have such a great guy!
I love my husband deeply and until I read your post last night I don't think I realized how very lucky I am. I always wanted to change him because I thought that other women had better husbands and I wanted mine to be just like them.

I was definitely like the woman in the Bible who tears her house down with her own hands! (In Proverbs, maybe?) How did I miss the blessing right in front of me for this long?

Thanks again for this article and for letting me brag about my husband! ;)
I absolutely agree! I was always careful to put my husband before my children. In fact, we took the Growing Kids God's Way class which talked about having "couch time" every day. That was one of the things we did. When he got home from work, he said hi to the kids and then he and I went and sat on the couch for about 15 minutes to talk about our days. The kids knew we did this and while they were sometimes really, really anxious to talk to dad, they knew they would have a chance as soon as couch time was over. I would recommend that practice to every couple!

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