Ken and I have four children. Two of them are female and two are male. The males are much taller and stronger than the females. The males are much stronger emotionally than the females. They are very different as you can see from the photo.
When I wrote my post We NEED Men In An Emergency, I received many disagreements. My only purpose was to praise the men in my life who helped me in a difficult situation. Some women thought women should learn to do everything men do in case we ever end up alone. Some tried to convince me that women are not the "weaker vessel." Others thought I probably had an anxiety disorder because of my typical female initial panic reaction to a massive wall of smoke and fire bearing down on my home!
Men have ten times the testosterone that women have. They are much stronger. Most women can't even do one pull-up. I never have been able to. Women can't play football against men! {Well, they could but they would be badly injured quickly.} The majority of firefighters, policemen, and military are men. Even the majority of car mechanics, plumbers, builders, and electricians are men.
Women have bodies designed with unique abilities to create and nurture new life. Our bodies were created by God to be different for many reasons and we should celebrate those differences as male and female to fulfill God given roles.
Women have bodies designed with unique abilities to create and nurture new life. Our bodies were created by God to be different for many reasons and we should celebrate those differences as male and female to fulfill God given roles.
I have zero problem with this. I like the fact that men are bigger and stronger. I don't want to have the burden of learning how to fix everything and lift things way beyond my ability. Even if I ever have to live alone, I am sure the men in my life will come help me when I need help. I do not have to learn all male roles "just in case," because if even if my husband dies, men will still be all around me willing to help.
Several of my neighbors have called Ken when their husbands were away and they needed help. He's helped them with their computers, televisions, water heater problems, garage doors and when they thought someone was in their home, etc. He's happy to help.
So no matter what the feminists movement {and that is who it is!} says, men and women were created differently by God. Women are the nesters and nurturers and men are the providers and protectors. Nothing anybody can say will ever convince me otherwise. It's just as plain as night and day that men and women were designed to complement each other, not compete for importance or worse yet, equality of like kind.
No person will ever be completely equal to any other unless they are twins. Even then differences in intelligence, knowledge and talents will exist. Our society must stop trying to make a gender neutral world, but instead recognize the strengths of each gender and celebrate and honor these differences. Vive la différence!
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
No person will ever be completely equal to any other unless they are twins. Even then differences in intelligence, knowledge and talents will exist. Our society must stop trying to make a gender neutral world, but instead recognize the strengths of each gender and celebrate and honor these differences. Vive la différence!
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
I Peter 3:7
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Nora · 565 weeks ago
I agree with you. My husband works for a huge corporation and makes his own hours. I had an appointment in the city and he left a little early to take me. One of his co-workers asked if he was doing anything fun and he told him that he wanted to get home so that I didn't have the stress of driving through crazy traffic. (I'm not very comfortable driving in heavy traffic) His co-worker remarked that it was cool that my husband was so "old school" and wondered how my husband got his values (my sweet hubby is 30).... I'm so grateful for a husband that takes care of me. Likewise, my husband always tells me how i make such a comforting home and that he could never keep the home like I do. I can drive through traffic and he can cook the basics but we each have our own strengths, it's wonderful to work in harmony.
Prov 31 · 565 weeks ago
This is so true! My husband and I have completely different styles of parenting. Of course, we have two boys. I've had to learn to let him take the reins because it is his job to teach them to be men and my job to keep our home. If anything, this has been my biggest struggle in marriage because I wanted to have authority. My husband has been so kind and gentle in teaching me that I should not be an authority to our sons but simply guide them. When we ladies try to be that authority figure to our boys, we teach them to accept women in positions of authority and feminism as a legitimate lifestyle choice, when neither is acceptable.
It's been a day-to-day struggle, but I'm so proud of the men my boys are becoming and my husband for being the amazing, incredible, God-honoring man that he is!
Yvonne Mangum · 565 weeks ago
As a 50 year old, now single Mom of a boy.. the obvious differences are staggering. I have HAD to be self sufficient, fix things myself, etc. I am also 'smart' and self employed in a non-physically demanding profession. I am very capable of taking care of my son, home, boat, car, truck, yard, etc. But I would SO WELCOME a protector and care giving man as my partner! I am not physically cut out for many of the tasks that I do... as well as having cronic pain from an accident 22 years ago. God sends me help when I need it, family and church members, neighbors and the like.... but I have been very resistant (too proud) to ask many times when I should have. It is only through submitting to the promptings of God via the Holy Spirit that I have humbled myself enough to figure out that I was NOT intended to do all of this myself. I can fix a computer, cook a meal and do other things I am more suited to do and ask a man to do the things that are so physically challenging for me...
Thank you for your coaching and wise words in helping some of us grow and evolve.
MamonOf3 · 565 weeks ago
We all have "survival mode". We can all do things the other gender can do. With faith we dont have to learn everything. My husband doesnt cook at all. He will admit that if something happened to me he would probably be hungry for a few days after Im gone. His survival mode will have him in the kitchen making food. After he has used all his clean clothes he will have to do laundry. He doesnt take the time to learn to do this now. I dont have to learn how to fix the car or carry heavy things. When he isnt home And I go to the grocery store during the day I have to carry all of the parishable items and carry a 1yr old who cant walk up stairs and manage 2 young ones. This usually always includes a gallon of milk, eggs and bread. (We live in a "CA style" apt complex 5 min walk to door). I leave everything else in the car and when my husband comes home he carries the rest. If he could he would come home for the 5mins so I just have to carry keys and baby! Many times this trip from car to door a male neighbor just happens to be coming and grabs the rest for me. I have been grateful for the help becuase I am usually sweating n exhausted. Of course once I get home I have to put everything away still ;-) My husband doesnt have to put away and understands that he actually has the easiest part. I shopped, I saved money, he paid, he carried, I put away, and cook with it! Balance
If something breaks like the vacuum he fixes it, because my half of the job was to vacuum. I drive the car with the kids take them everywhere, and do things for the house & he fixes the car. We just end up doing things that are easier for each other.
A women working in certain fields say they had to work "extra hard" to get where they are. Many women start to have kids and get married and become "surprised" how well they do. Hmmm its no mystery. Like watching a man SASHEY(switch hips) when they walk. They have to work so hard at something a woman does naturally. I have several other different examples but we ALL know them.
Cynthia · 565 weeks ago
My religious view is that in each couple, you have 2 halves of a whole, which together is created in the image of God. How each couple work together as soul mates is very individual. I'm an introvert while my husband is an extrovert. In other couples, it's the opposite.
What's really important is for everyone to see how their OWN husband or wife completes them, and was intended for them in order to be in the image of God.
You've written before about how important it is that we not place expectations on our husbands. Part of that is not expecting that our husband will always have certain physical traits and skills. The very ideas that you mention caused us problems when we were first married. We both had fathers who were handy, so there was an expectation that my husband would handle those sorts of things. Well, he is a very intelligent and very hard-working man, who happens to have severe problems with visual-spatial skills. After a lot of frustration and holes in the drywall and items that couldn't be assembled properly, we finally faced facts and realized that we could admit this, and it had nothing to do with his manhood. Later, he had some other medical issues including losing sight in one eye. He's still my soul mate, still a hard-working and amazing man, still the greatest father, still saving lives and being a vessel for God's blessings.
Young men, on average, are stronger, but the difference is reduced as we age. Men are more likely to get serious injuries, suffer heart disease earlier and have slightly shorter lifespans.
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Kim · 565 weeks ago
Many "nurturing" professions (teaching, nursing to name two) used to be predominately male, with religion and science backing the notion that women were incapable being professional. Of course, we don't support this thinking...yet.
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Producer: do you think you're enforcing/teaching gender sterotypes to your children?
Michelle: I think there are some gender differences YOU JUST CAN'T GET AROUND! :) <3
Chris · 565 weeks ago
Keep up the great posts! God bless!
Babes · 563 weeks ago
I make good money. My husband stays home with the kids so we don't need daycare. He has a stay at home office job. He wouldn't last one day doing my job and I wouldn't last one day doing his.