Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Woe To Immodest Women!


Woe to the world for such temptations to sin and influences to do wrong! It is necessary that temptations come, but woe to the person on whose account or by whom the temptation comes! {Matthew 18:7} This verse made me think of immodest and indecent women.

It is difficult to find family friendly shows anymore. I use to love watching American Idol. The majority of the contestants are simply regular people. However, some of the female judges dress and dance so immodestly. I could never sit comfortably with my husband watching them with their breasts hanging out and moving sensuously all over the stage. What are these women thinking? Don't they know this is suppose to be a family friendly show?

Many women have no scruples. They are immodest and indecent and they cause many men to stumble...woe to the person on whose account or by whom the temptation comes! Woe unto them! I would never want the Lord to say "Woe" to me. You never want to incur God's wrath.

Bringing this closer to home, I thought of the many Christian women who wear bikinis and dress immodestly. They are causing other men to stumble whether they know it or not. Honest men will tell you that the more flesh a woman shows, the more difficult it is for them to not lust. So, whenever I teach this, some women will retort, "Some men will lust if a woman is wearing a garbage bag. It is their problem!"

I am here to tell you that you are still responsible to do everything in your power to not cause men to lust. The majority of men will not lust after women wearing garbage bags. They lust when a woman shows a lot of flesh. God commands that we dress modestly! Not only for our protection but for the men around us.

There are many places to buy modest bathing suits now. I encourage you to go buy one. Cover up as much flesh as possible. Keep it for your husband's eyes only or for your future husband's eyes only. If you plan on never marrying, keep it in obedience to the Lord.

Never be directly responsible for a man to lust. Be careful with the clothing you wear. Ask your husband what is modest. He is a man and he knows what men today struggle with. Respect his opinion in this area. Some men want their wives to dress immodestly. Explain to them that you will dress however they want in front of them but in public, you desire to be modest as God commands. Then decide together what modesty looks like in your home.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves 
in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; 
not with braided hair, or gold or pearls, 
or costly array; But which becometh women 
professing godliness with good works.
I Timothy 2:9,10

***Shamefacedness means modest or bashful...
completely opposite of most women today.

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Love being his wife · 565 weeks ago

Lori, I have some family members who wear very low cut dresses/tops and it always makes me sad to see it! I must say I feel quite embarrassed by it too. I am so grateful my daughter is a very modest little lamb of God. It would break my heart if she wasn't!
I don't believe that women are responsible for men who lust; however I don't think they are helping with wearing barely anything!
The Bible does tell us NOT to cause our brother to stumble. So my thoughts are cover up and be a tad mysterious; to me that is more feminine than showing it all off for all to see.
2 replies · active 539 weeks ago
Amen! And to be quite honest, I personally don't want to see some woman's breasts hanging out and rear end showing through high cut shorts and so on. Nor do I really want to see men in tiny itty bitty swim suits either.

Let's blame global warming! (insert eye roll)

On a side note, your post made me think of a line in a Dolly Parton song that says: "You could stop traffic in a gunny sack". :)
2 replies · active 564 weeks ago
Just what we needed today. I read this to my teenager who wants to dress like others girls her age. Low cut shirts, short shorts and tight jeans. It really hit her when I read "wrath of God". We are constantly taking clothes from her that she's out grown or other girls allow her to borrow. We've always been strict about clothing but boy is she trying to conform to this world. Thanks for the post!
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Sadie Grace · 565 weeks ago

Amen!
That picture really caught my eye in a good way! I'm going to pin this one. I see that you have something from Laine's letters, I remember her from way back, do you know her?
1 reply · active 565 weeks ago
I am very thankful for the maxi dress trend. Although not all maxi dresses are modest, many can be with a tank top underneath and light sweater.
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Carefree R · 565 weeks ago

My husband and I have 4 sons and 2 daughters. (20 to 15) Part of our family architecture is that we pave the way for each others successes. My husband has taught our sons to look with purpose and to look away with purpose. I have taught our girls how to dress, sit and move with purpose. Our sons expect the culture to be immodest, so they plan for it when they are out and about. The problem is that there is little difference with modesty when they are at church. They admit that it is hard to stay focused when the women are wearing strapless outfits or short clingy dresses, or now the short shorts and tight tank tops. Father forgive us for being so conformed to our culture.
1 reply · active 565 weeks ago
I've heard "dress so I know you're a woman; dress so I know you're a lady." I love that.
1 reply · active 481 weeks ago
Good Morning!
I just cringe when the temperature starts to rise... I really want to move to Alaska!!
Dressing for both men and women have gone to such an extreme! I find it hard to even know what to say or think anymore. I will say I do not want to see other women uncovered, slinky tops, showing way too much! Yucky and so not feminine...
And don't forget about the advertisement on TV and magazines anymore, Geesh!
Blessings, Roxy
My husband, who professes to be a Christian, always wants me to dress immodestly. He wants me in short shorts, short skirts, halter tops and to go noticeably braless and the more cleavage that shows the better he likes it. He says that if other men lust then it is their problem. This has caused so much strife in our marriage. If I refuse, he claims that I am not submitting to him and he cuts me off emotionally and physically and lets me know that I am not the kind of woman that makes him happy.. His answer is that if he is wrong, then God will judge him, not me, because he is my head and I have to submit to him. Don't ask me to go to my elders. When I mentioned to them about all the immodesty in our church, they just said that it has always been a problem and they don't really know what to do about it. I don't really know any godly, wise men or women to confide in. I just know that when I dress the way my husband wants me to, I am so ashamed, but he is so happy.
7 replies · active 565 weeks ago
Sue, I was always taught that modesty was a heart issue and that God looks on the heart, so I have never really thought much about what I put on beyond that I liked it and that it fit. This has given me a lot to think about because I tend to spend my summers in shorts and tanks and things like that. I need to really reconsider my clothing so that my modesty aligns with what God wants.

Can you ask your husband if you can dress in a way that pleases him around the house and add a layer or two (a cardigan, a swishy skirt) when you head out?
1 reply · active 565 weeks ago
I absolutely agree that women need to be mindful of the way they dress. I also fully believe that men have a responsibility to watch where their thoughts stray. Some Christians I work with were talking about pornography a few weeks ago. The common belief amongst them was "which man hasn't looked at(or regularly does look) porn?!" They said this as though they had resigned themselves to the fact that this is normal and men were not accountable for their actions. So sad.

I will never forget the time that a young woman at church wore thin white pants with a black thong. Sadder still that no one took the time to tell this young woman about modesty. It is unfair to blame some young girls for dressing immodestly. Many are just following the examples their mothers set for them. At a funeral a few months back, there were girls there that looked like streetwalkers. My sister was there with me and said that these teenage girls probably thought they were dressed appropriately for a funeral as that is likely what they grew up with. This is very true for so many girls nowadays.
If any of you are looking for comfortable, modest but not frumpy options, here are the two items that I use constantly:

Black cotton knee-length pencil skirt (which looks good for any setting, formal to casual):
http://www.doubleheaderusa.com/product.asp?itemid...

Lightweight elbow-length shell - very light and comfy, and I can slip it under anything:
http://www.koshercasual.com/Womens-Shell-Tops-Hal...

With a few inexpensive basics like these, modest dressing is very easy.
The dress rule with my daughter is I'm not to see anything that starts with the letter B: back, breast, belly, and booty. It's been a good rule she uses as a measuring tool for her clothes.
I appreciate you so much Lori! Thank you for writing on topics like this. May more women realize God's call to be shamefaced.
Sue, your story gave me flashbacks. My situation was not exactly like yours but similar in that he asked me to go against my conscience, and more importantly what I felt scripture taught. I had to stand strong. Yes, we want to please our husband but not at the expense of honoring Christ. Consider the young women who look to you as an example of Christian lady likeness. Consider how you have caused other ladies' husbands to struggle. I know your conscience is grieved by the thought. If you're husbands is not then he is not right with God. Stand firm. No matter what. One more thing. My husband pulled the submission guilt trip the same as yours. He talk down to me if he talked to me at all when I would not violate my Lord. In honesty, he was jealous of my relationship with Jesus. It's manipulation and a sign of abuse. If your husband is abusing you, as mine did, leave. Right now!
Lori,

I found your post through Wise Woman link up. I am 24 years old and married to a wonderful man. Last year, I wrote a post called 'That Day I Wore Yoga Pants: Five Myths of Modesty' and received a lot of feedback - and much hate mail - for that stance.

Modesty is a heart issue. Until a woman's heart is submitted to God, her dress will not reflect that; and only if her heart is submitted to God will modesty be worthwhile and not legalistic. I am grateful to have a husband who is honest with me about my dress.

Thank you for writing this from the Titus 2 perspective! If you care to read the posts I write to young women, they are below.

That Day I Wore Yoga Pants: http://phyliciadelta.com/that-day-i-wore-yoga-pan...
The Motive to Modesty :http://phyliciadelta.com/the-motive-to-modesty/
That Day My Husband Told Me What to Do: http://phyliciadelta.com/that-day-my-husband-told...
It's too bad more women won't take this command to heart. My poor husband works at a store inside a mall, and during the summer it's a terrible work environment. And the entertainment they allow in public areas is outrageous these days. My (two year old) son and I met my husband at work to grab some lunch, so we headed to the food court, and we were appalled at the music videos they were playing (suggestive dancing, very little clothing). I feel like I can't even take my son to the mall anymore.
I think that if mothers would read the book 'Sexy Girls' (I forget the author's name but it is by a Christian author), they would understand that boys are born with a photographic memory and that our young women need to be held accountable for their attire as it CAN ABSOLUTELY make boys/young men lust after them. It is our duty, I believe, to educate these girls so they do not cause a young man to stumble.

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