Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Why Do We Try To Control Those We Love?

Often it is those we love with whom we are most impatient.  This is often due to the fact that we want to control those we love.  We are called to love, and love is patient.
 Matthew Kelly

I often wondered why most of us women have this need to try and control our husbands.  This statement by Matthew Kelly was eye opening to me.  We think we know what is best. 

We do love our husbands {at first anyways}, and, therefore, we try to change them into what we want them to be by nagging, pouting, shouting, etc.  This builds a huge wall between us.  The husband puts up the wall in order to defend himself. 

No man has ever crawled out from underneath his wife's criticism to be a better man.  {Debi Pearl} 

The wall gets thicker and thicker the more we try to manipulate, change, and control our husbands.  We are blind to this.  We think it is because he is a jerk when in reality it is our disapproval and critical spirits towards them that erects that wall. 

We need someone from the outside to tell us to "STOP!"  It doesn't work.  Love them the way they are.  Let God change them.  Work on changing yourself.

It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Proverbs 25:24