I have mentored many women on becoming better wives. I wasn't a good one at all until eight years ago, as you know, if you've been reading my writings for any amount of time.
If I give any advice to women who are struggling in their marriage, the first thing I tell them is to stop arguing. It took me a long time to stop arguing...I had to bite my tongue A LOT but eventually I stopped and our marriage became so much better.
Practice makes perfect. I used to practice arguing and was really good at it. Now I practice not arguing and I'm becoming very good at it. It is NEVER too late to change.
The Bible says in I Timothy, the servant of the Lord must not strive
{argue}, but be gentle unto all men {I assume this includes being gentle to our husbands}.
Many places in the Bible it states that quarrelling and arguing should not be part of a believer's life. It accomplishes nothing. I needed to learn how to discuss things with Ken without arguing. I still give my opinion but I don't have to be right and I only need to give it once...not over and over again. It is possible to change your ways. I am proof of that.
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity.
Psalm 133:1
...giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
Ephesians 4:3
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18
