Heather and I came across these two statements in Debi Pearl's book yesterday as I was mentoring her. They confirmed what I wrote about yesterday in not trying to change your husband or the man you will marry~
A man will resist with all his might those who come against him. Most women spend their whole married lives in conflict with their husbands, trying to change them. It is a battle of the wills that no woman has ever rightly won, for even if she gets his compliance, she loses his heart, and he loses his self-respect.
When a woman resists or tries to change a man, she makes him more stubborn, and her own heart will be filled with bitterness. If a woman obeys God, a man does not have anything to come against, to resist, to dominate, to conquer, or to beat down. A woman's greatest power is in obeying God through obeying and honoring her husband.
It is just so sad that it takes so many of us so many years to figure this out...All those wasted years of marriage that could have been really good, if I had loved him as he was instead of always being in conflict. It is NEVER too late to change...Thank the good Lord for that.