Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Casting The First Stone

So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her
{John 8:7}

Women who have husbands that are caught in pornography are sometimes asked to separate from them.  I think this is the wrong advice.  The Bible says that if wives have husbands that are disobedient to the Word, the wives will win their husbands without a word as they watch their wives live godly lives. {I Peter 3:1}  It also tells us that a believing wife is not suppose to leave her husband.
{I Corinthians 7:13}

I always wonder what sins the wife is committing ~

Is she nagging, manipulating, or trying to change him?

Is she negative and critical towards him?

Does she show him disrespect by rolling her eyes, correcting him, and arguing with him?

If she isn't doing any of these things, but instead is loving, serving, pleasing, easily forgiving, and respecting him, then maybe she can sit in judgement of him.  She must be very careful, however, to not judge his sin so much worse than hers and feel self-righteous about it.

If you have a husband caught in pornography, hopefully he will confess it,  pray about it, and want to be held accountable.  If not, you pray for him and love him anyways.  No, it is not easy but it is God's ways and His ways work a lot better than our ways.

Men who are trapped in pornography are in a trap, a deadly trap.  They hate it and what it does to them.  They are in a pit and God can use you to help him climb out of that pit.  Godly wives sanctify their husbands. {I Corinthians 7:14} As you live Jesus in front of them, they will be convicted of their sin and may even be released from it.