Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Go To Bed Angry

I shock couples when I tell them it’s better to go to bed angry than force a make-up before bedtime. When tensions arise in a relationship, her hormones encourage her to talk more, but his hormones are designed for fight or flight -- not a good combination when both of them are already tired. It’s better to let things cool off and tell your partner you want to talk about it later, even if that means in the morning
John Gray, Ph.D., author of the Mars/Venus series

This is the advice being given to couples today.  If a man's hormones are designed for fight or flight {which I think it a very crucial thing for women to understand}, my advice would be to stop arguing with him and fighting with him. He doesn't want you to be his competitor.  He wants you to be his wife.  His companion. 

Instead of learning conflict resolution, how about obeying these verses from Scripture ~

 And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome
but kind to everyone,
able to teach,
patiently enduring evil.
II Timothy 2:24

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.        
Proverbs 10:12

It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife,
but every fool will be quarreling.        
Proverbs 20:3

So instead of listening to the teachers of this day and age, listen to the advice from God Himself, the author of wisdom.  Don't go to bed angry.  Don't quarrel and argue.  Be at peace with your husband.  This is a much better way to live.