Tuesday, July 17, 2012

No Longer In Love

Whoever thought the time would come when you are no longer in love with the person that you said "I do" to? What happened to "'til death do us part?" The cuddling on the sofa while watching your favorite sitcom together? How did it just disappear into thin air?
{Shanae Hall, Huffington Post}

I will tell you what happened, you forgot that love is a commitment and not a feeling.  You forgot to think about his wonderful qualities and dwell on them instead of all his negative qualities.  You forgot to make it your goal in life to please him and make him happy.  You stopped laughing at his jokes and started rolling your eyes instead. 

When the children came along, they became much more important to you than him.  He wasn't the knight in shining armor that you thought he would be.  He didn't live up to your expectations and he knew it.  Instead of sharing your opinions once, you argued with him and wanted your way.

Now I can't say this happens in all marriages that fall apart, but I can bet you it is the way it happens in most of them.  If a woman isn't taught how to love her husband, it doesn't come naturally, because we are all so selfish.  We want what we want and when we want.  It isn't natural to put another's needs before our own.  It isn't natural to serve and please others.  It isn't natural to put up with all their bad habits and love them as they get old and wrinkled.

These are God's ways and His ways work.  They are what bring true joy and happiness.   Forgetting about ourselves and giving ourselves away to others is what makes a happy marriage.  Tell me of a woman who truly seeks to make her husband happy whose husband then left her.  It may happen but it seldom does.  Why would a man want to leave a wife who makes him king of his home and strives to make him happy?  Most men would die for that.

Keep your commitment to love him until death do you part.  There is something very special about growing old with one person.  Don't seek for your own happiness.  Seek for his happiness and in the process, you will be happy.

Owe no one anything, except to love each other,
for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.
Romans 13:8