Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Teach Your Daughters To Be Homemakers


Virgina Fugate was born in 1940 when it was generally accepted that a mother's home was her workplace...No one that I knew was rich, but our mothers were still able to make meals from simple ingredients and we never went hungry. They also found ways to turn even modest houses into warm and comfortable homes. 

It was a time in our history when women understood that homemaking was much more than just cleaning a house and cooking meals. Although material possessions were few, home was where family and friends gathered for fellowship and children were trained for life. The typical American home was not rich in prosperity, but for the most part the people within it were rich in character and moral values...Modern homes may be rich in prosperity, but so many children today are poor in character...

Several generations of mothers have neglected to teach their daughters the joy of homemaking.  Therefore, the fulfillment one can receive from creating a pleasant home is virtually unknown to most modern young women
{On The Other Side Of The Garden}

Instead of having a peaceful home, stay-at-home moms are upset if their husbands, who have worked hard all week to provide for the family, don't help around the home and with the children. They grumble and complain about their husbands all the time instead of creating a home of peace and relaxation for them when they are home.

Mothers, the greatest gift you can give your future sons-in-law is to teach your daughters how to be a good wife and homemaker from the time they are young. Model to them what a submissive wife looks like by serving and pleasing your husband.

When you are cleaning, have your daughters cleaning by your side and sing a tune while you do it. When you are cooking, have them cooking with you. While you are cooking and cleaning tell them how thankful and blessed you are by having all this good food and a nice home to clean.

Let them grow up with thankful and happy hearts. Their husbands will love being married to them! Homemaking is a lost art today but we, as Christian women, need to bring it back for it is a very important job. Our society has suffered greatly for it so let's make sure our children don't suffer.

By wisdom a house is built, 
and by understanding it is established.
Proverbs 24:3

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I loved reading this post this morning! It makes me sad to see how few women are homemakers and many of the ones that are complain and are unhappy. I pray my husband and daughter (and the rest of the world) see how much I love being a homemaker. I want to pass on that love and joy to my daughter. I see so many wives who complain constantly and feel they deserve a break and that their husbands should provide that even though he spent all day at work. Even though our daughter is only 8 months, she sees that daddy gets to come home and rest and that mommy is always excited to see daddy and serve him.
1 reply · active 627 weeks ago
Thank you for sharing the precious picture of your family! I love hearing young mothers doing it right, right from the beginning.
Everything you say so elocuently it's very true now days! Women in the USA or first world countries are very demanding on their husbands, even if they work too, (not much around here). My parents never fought about what to do at home in the USA... it seems he and she just knew what they're chores were. On saturdays they both cleaned the house and that was it, my mom cooked dinner and dad washed and cleaned the kitchen, my brother and me had our chores as well, but everything was done in harmony and mother made a point in teaching me to be a good wife, mother and homemaker, I've done the same with my daughters. I think you're right, one reason for divorse is exactly what you pointed out..mothers don't teach their daughters to be and love homeking, all it entitles. Loved your post. Thank you for sharing.
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1 reply · active 627 weeks ago
You sound like you were raised in a wonderful family! What a blessing.
I left home for college in 1978. During my senior year of high school I had no idea what I wanted to major in. From the time I was in upper elementary school, I spent my free time sewing and baking and helping mom. With the help of a sweet and young homemaking teacher I decided that Home Economics was the logical choice for me. Even by then, it was getting hard to find a university that offered such a major. I live in Texas and I think there was only 3 at the time and one of them was TCU which was cost prohibitive. All of this to say that when I got to school the department was amazing, but small and I was treated like I was an idiot by the general population. My enthusiasm was curbed quite a bit by the end of the 1st semester. Even my boyfriend told me what a waste it was and said things like "you'll be late for your basket weaving class". By the time I was in my junior year of college the programs were completely dried up in the high school level. I honestly don't think anyone valued it anymore and the lie had won. Around the same time our schools become very liberal and out of control. Coincidence? I don't think so. I am not saying that doing away with those homemaking programs directly effected the schools, but I do think those three years I was at college, there was a huge, huge shift of values. I also saw my girlfriends switch from education majors to business majors in droves. I am homeschooling my daughter and she is learning to cook, sew and keep house as part of our daily life. Thanks to people like you and the Pearls, I am showing her how to be a good wife as well. Thank you for the time you dedicate to this blog...you have no idea how many lives you have impacted.
5 replies · active 626 weeks ago
Thank you, Susan. I used your comment to ask my readers on facebook if they had Home Ec. Classes in junior high or high school. Cassi would have LOVED majoring in it if she could have!
I loved it except for the Child Development classes I mentioned. I just don't think that's something you can learn in a modern text. In Jr. High, the homemaking classes were all girl only...the boys had shop! By the time I was in high school homemaking was open to boys and shop was open to girls...made me uncomfortable. They boys took cooking because they were with a lot of girls and got to eat. Didn't know any girls who took shop!
I know this is somewhat off subject. (Well sorta). A couple years ago the school my children attend were getring rid of some of their old books. My daughter brought home a book for home ec. I absolutely love this book and all that it teaches.
I took shop! I made a beautiful pendulum clock that my mom still has on her wall.
I have a Masters Degree in Family and Consumer Science. I have a job teaching canning, gardening and cooking classes.I love it and I don't necessarily feel that it is a dying art. In fact I think there is a resurgence of folks wanting this lifestyle.
My daughter is part of a local Keepers of the Home group, and I love how the program emphasizes the importance of joyfully keeping a home! It blesses me to know that she is getting a jump-start on what I've had to learn mostly as an adult.
Thank you so much for posting this! I couldn't agree more.:) God Bless!!
Love!!!! I agree all the way.... The world is in a different place and its oh so sad!!! We as women and mothers,wives need to lead by example:) So glad I came by..... Fill free to come over and visit! Gina-walksinlife.blogspot.com
Thanks for sharing this at the Weekend Whatever Link-Up! I chose to feature your post because it really touched my heart, even though I only have a son! Hope you'll link up again this week! God bless. http://ajoyfulmother.com/2013/03/29/weekend-whate...
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Renee Peebles · 624 weeks ago

Thank you for posting your heart for home. I have been at home with my family and children for 24 years now. I never thought I would be an "at home Mom" coming from a single Mom who had to work and only one sister. The only real rock in my life was my precious Grandmother. She was always home and so thankful at one time she lived with us and would provide us with home cooked meals, love and just the assurance of having someone home when we came home from school in the afternoons. Well when I got married I already had one child out of wedlock and was as "lost as a goose" so was my husband. By the time our second child came along my sweet SAHM and solid believer in Christ was praying not only for my soul but for me to choose to stay home with our children. I actually began staying home before I became a Christian. After being saved in 1990 God birthed in me a passion for my home, husband and children. I had a few precious mentors that I looked up to. Coming from a background of women raised in the 50's and 60's I had no example of this especially coming from lots of divorce and abandoned by my own father at the age of 2. I am so eternally grateful for the prayers of my sweet sister-in-law - who is now my sister in Christ! I am so thankful for the years I have had at home. We have home schooled for 14 years and I am still plugging along my youngest daughter will be in high school next year and I still have so much to pour into her life. My oldest daughter has always wanted to be married and have a family it is her biggest dream and some say is that all? It's so hard on this generation. Not many voices even sad to say in our churches encourage and support young couples who choose to be a one income family. Who choose to for go the "materialism" of this world in exchange for more quality and quantity of time to train up, love and rear a family for the glory of the Savior. Thank you for posting your thoughts and heart here to encourage us all. God bless you!
The real woman that post on this site make me want to believe in humanity! And you are so much STRONGER than any feminists out there! You are all amazing people! My dream is to be is the other side of the equation one day, to be a proper man (and hopefully a husband, if I am lucky enough!) for God, not to be driven by materialistic gain or money but for the love of family and to provide for them (Not just financially, which I now think is the least important part of being a man, but morally and culturally). However I've never had many good role models in my life, and my parents were both very bad examples and were abusive to me and my siblings. I pray that God will show me what it is to be a real man, so I will not follow in the footsteps of my parents but do what is right. God bless all of you, you are an inspiration and I'd give my right arm to get a wife like any of you! In today's world you are like rare and precious gems!

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