Sunday, March 3, 2013

Asking "Why Me?"


Why have I had to suffer so many years of pain?

Why did I get a brain tumor?

Why do I suffer with so many neck problems which led to
having my neck fused together?

Why was I so full of parasites and suffered from digestive problems
for so many years?

If I ask these questions, I must also ask ~

Why was I born in America and have never gone to bed hungry?

Why did I marry an amazing man who is a great provider,
husband, and father?

Why was I blessed with four healthy children that walk with Jesus?

Why do I get a beautiful home, comfy bed, and hot water?

I have never asked why I have suffered so much physically.  I was more apt to ask, "Why not me?" I don't deserve anything but by God's amazing grace and abundant mercy, I have been blessed.  I am learning to look above my circumstances and see my Savior and His many promises to me.

More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, 
knowing that suffering produces endurance, 
and endurance produces character,
 and character produces hope, 
and hope does not put us to shame, 
because God's love has been poured into 
our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

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I have chronic pain and have had it since I was very young (10 or 11). I was diagnosed with benign tumors when I was 11. While I have had brief periods without pain or less pain, it is still there almost constantly. For years I struggled with the 'why' and asked time and again for the Lord to heal me. Now I have a different perspective. I may never understand exactly why I have this problem but I know that God will use it for His glory. I have more understanding for those who are in pain and can minister better to others who also have chronic pain. So now, instead of questioning 'why?', I praise God for the opportunity to help and encourage others, knowing that God has a plan for it all. I love the Bible passage you posted! I will be taking note of it so I can refer back to it when times get tough.
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Pain is very difficult to live with, Hannah, and it sure does give you a better understanding and sympathy for those who do. Thankfully, this isn't our home so our pain won't last forever. Memorizing scripture is what has gotten me through real painful times...ALL things work together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purposes. May God continue to give you strength and bless you.
Are the benign tumors Tarlov cysts? (Curious b/c my brother suffers w/ them.)
What you have said is so true..
I don't deserve to breath but I do..
I don't deserve Gods Grace but he has given it to me freely .
i did not deserve that the king of the universe, my Saviou should die for me.. but he did..
i could dwell on all the bad horrible things that have happened to me and around me.. losing siblings when in thier ealy 20's through suicide...and a drunk driver... losing my mum before I was 16 through illness..Just losing my dad after he suffered 4 years from a stoke.. or I can be thankful for my every breath and every blessing and the fact that I can now minister to others that are hurting..
Thank you for the reminders...
I love the verse you have quoted.
blessings
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ERDRswifemomof12 · 629 weeks ago

Hebrews 12 : 1 says we are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses. Others are watching us, observing our responses to trials and sufferings, to see our faith in action, and to learn about God...to see us give Him all the glory He is due. It is NOT about us, even though it hurts....even though it really, really hurts. It is about God, omnipotent, all caring , all loving and perfect to supply our every need. And when our time on earth is done, we will fully understand what we can not even begin to comprehend in finite space and time. The more we suffer, I believe, the more we will ultimately experience joy in knowing the healing and comfort of our Savior.
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This is beautiful! Thank you for such wonderful encouragement.
That is beautiful, Lori and I did not know that about you. Thank you for being so honest and transparent.

With this latest ( and every) episode with my back pain and the bed rest, I have to remember my brother who has fought cancer three times and lives in constant chronic pain. He can no longer work and has lost much of his health.

Yet he loves life and tries to cherish every moment, despite the pain. I've had to ask myself the same thing. Why NOT me? Does he deserve to suffer and *I* don't? Am I better than him?

Suffering brings us closer to Jesus and purifies all those impurities out of us and makes us more like Him. But it's painful, hard and it hurts. Some people do suffer more than others. Life isn't fair, but Jesus is and we can trust Him to help and comfort us and see us through. I can't be jealous of how the Lord works in someone else's life. I just have to trust Him with my own.

You are right, my friend. We don't deserve anything and yet God gave us Everything when He gave us Jesus! :) By the way, the "Making Your Home Sing Monday" linky party is now live and ready for you to link up to today! ;)
Thank you for your sweet email about my brother. Yes, he is amazing and is my hero. He has lost so much to cancer, and yet he just always seems to have a smile on his face. I know he has rough times, he's honest about them, but even on his really bad days he tries to be positive and encouraging and can even find a joke or two.

He never complains about the pain and frankly, I whine about mine sometimes.....! Well, not to him but to my hubby and my mom, lol!

Thanks for linking up to Making Your Home Sing Monday today!
Yes, it's all about perspective. I'm grateful that you can give thanks even though it's not the perfect life. blessings from Uganda
Oh, this is the hard stuff, Lori. Rejoicing in suffering? And yet you express it so beautifully here--what that looks like. I didnt' know you've been through so much either, and my heart goes out to you for these struggles. I'm so grateful that you know Jesus and can lean into Him during such times.
What a wonderful perspective.
i love this Lori... this is such a humble and God-glorifying perspective.

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