Wednesday, May 1, 2013

His Very Bad Advice

She was in the middle seat.  Her husband was on the aisle seat.  A marriage psychologist was in the window seat.  It was an hour flight.  The whole time her husband was on his computer and phone.  He didn't look at her or speak to her the whole time.

At the end, the psychologist who teaches at big universities, asked her if he were her husband. She told him he was.  Then the psychologist told her what a horrible husband he was to not communicate with her at all and went on and on disparaging him.  This made her feel resentment and bitterness towards her husband.

I wish she would have looked at the doctor and told him how hard he works and what a good provider he is for her family.  He has been a faithful husband and father.  She lives in a beautiful home because of how hard he works.

It is so easy to grow resentful and bitter towards your husband.  Especially if you listen to friends and family who tear him down.  "He doesn't help around the house enough."  "He works too hard."  "He plays too many video games," etc.

Stop listening to other's criticism of your husband.  Defend him and tell them all of his good qualities.  If you listen to them,  it will affect your marriage.  You will become bitter and resentful.  If you defend him and dwell on all his positive qualities, you are on your way to having a good marriage.

Most of life is in our thinking.  This is why the Bible commands us to be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Don't listen to the lies of society.  Start meditating and dwelling on the good, lovely, and just.

And be not conformed to this world:  
but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, 
that ye may prove what is that good, 
and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 12:2