Monday, August 26, 2013

The Slow Death Of A Marriage

They met in college.  They had a whirlwind romance and then married.  They loved traveling together, eating out, going to movies, reading books to each other, hiking, riding bikes, you name it, they just loved being together.

They were blessed with several children.  He started working harder to provide for the family.  She was busy raising her children.  Over the years, she gradually transferred her passion for her husband to her children, who thrived in its light and love.

Sound familiar.  This is the love story of many couples.  When they are married they are husband and wife. One flesh.  Then the product of that love comes along and begins to produce cracks in the relationship.  She begins treating him like his mother instead of his wife.  She gives herself to her children and forgets about him.

Those cracks get wider and wider.  They argue more.  He feels neglected.  They try going to marriage counselors.  The marriage counselors tell them to go on one date a week and how to argue better.  They try that but the relationship doesn't get better.  Did the husband ever notice when his wife's passion for him transferred to the children?

I doubt it.  I don't think most men actually know what is happening.  They just know they are no longer feeling loved by their wives.  They know she is busy taking care of the children, but still, he feels lonely. They eventually get divorced hoping the grass is greener somewhere else.

Don't let your  love story end like this couple's.  Learn from them.  When your children come along, make sure you continue loving and serving your husband.  You were created to be his help meet and he needs you, even after the children are born.

She that is married cares for the things of the world, 
how she may please her husband.
I Corinthians 7:34