Saturday, August 3, 2013

Molested At Sleepovers

Rachel Campos-Duffy writes parenting blogs. She wrote one answering when the right time is to allow sleepovers and she was shocked how many women commented who said it was at sleepovers that they were molested. Her husband is a DA and she said he deals with this issue a lot as well.*

My husband is the District Attorney in our county. Needless to say, he is privy to the incidence of child sexual assault in our community. We know all to well that bad things happen, sometimes even in presumably "good homes". His access to this kind of information has made us a lot more protective {perhaps even paranoid}. 

We rarely allowed our children sleepovers. I will never forget Ruth Graham Bell saying that she wanted all her children under her roof at night. I agreed with her. With the proliferation of pornography, even in Christian homes, we must be very proactive in protecting our children.

I went to sleepovers when I was young. I remember doing seances, playing with a Ouija board, playing spin the bottle, eating tons of junk food; nothing that was productive or healthy. Thankfully, I was never molested but I could see how it could easily happen if there are older brothers in the home, step-fathers, uncles, etc.

So protect your children. You are the one responsible for them and you want them to be as safe from harm and evil as possible. Many men can point back to a time when they were young and saw pornography at someone else's home which eventually led to an addiction, which many times haunts them the rest of their life and prevents them from ever having a sexually satisfying marriage.

Teach your children to yell and tell. Make sure they know that no one should ever touch their privates and then do everything in your power to protect their innocence.

Concerning time alone with your husband; instead of sleepovers, make sure your children are in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 every night and the next couple of hours have as your time with your husband to cuddle, eat popcorn, give massages, read, watch TV, share, lots of lovemaking or whatever else you love to do!

Train up a child in the way he should go; 
even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6

*This post was written in 2013 and the article I referred to has since been taken down.