"Because Valentine's Day forces us to assess our romantic relationships, many people realize that they are not happy in the situation they are in and there is no possibility of it improving," Brandt told MainStreet. "Thus, they may turn toward divorce to get a fresh start." This report also shows that 67% of the people seeking divorce are women.
This, my friends, is why God commands older women to teach younger women to love their husbands. There are so many women who are unhappy in their marriages. The majority of them are married to basically good men. They work hard. They are faithful and they love their children, but the wives are unhappy and that is all that matters.
In our grandparents day, marriage wasn't about being happy. It was about commitment and hard work. It was about staying together through the good times and the bad times. It was caring for the spouse who was stuck in an addiction or in some kind of bondage. It was keeping their vows until 'death do us part.'
Now, if women don't get chocolates and flowers on Valentine's day, they want a divorce. Their husband is just not romantic enough. He doesn't help around the house or with the children enough. He doesn't build their self-confidence and make them feel special so they are willing to destroy their family unit and seek a divorce.
The Bible tells us that godliness with contentment is great gain {I Timothy 6:6}. It tells us concerning marriage "Let no man put asunder"{Matthew 19:6}. God warns us that women may have to suffer in marriage {I Peter 2 and 3}, but hang in there because God is with you and will never leave you nor forsake you. He will give you the strength to endure.
So if you want flowers and a card or whatever, ask your husband in a loving way if he will get them for you. For your birthday, tell him exactly what you want. They are not mind readers. Most men are not naturally romantic so you must let him know what you would love to get from him. If he doesn't want to do anything for you, love him anyways for this pleases God.
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FABBY · 580 weeks ago
My mom was always happy because she chose to be, not because others have to provide it to you...anyway, that's what she taught me and yes, hubby is the greatest, like dad, and he is no prince charming either...I'm glad... caz look what happened to Lady Dianna, her prince was the worset!!! Women this days take nothing they don't like or is it not THEIR WAY and how THEY WANTE it to be and are so selfish!!! Great post, I will be sending it to my daughter!
Happy Valentine's caz I know you will have one for sure!
FABBY
Elissa P · 580 weeks ago
I have been married for over 11 years and I promise myself from the very beginning not to bring valentine day or any other 'men made' holidays into my marriage or my family's life.
Peace to you.
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Kim · 580 weeks ago
The ideal is be connected to the point that its a daily occurrence, not a date on the calendar.
Tonya · 578 weeks ago
We've had funny things happen at Valentine's too, once he got confused about what holiday he was buying for because our local dollar store put out Valentine's and Easter decorations at the same time and I got a bunch of Easter village figurines for Valentine's. We still joke about that, and it's been so long ago that most of the figurines have long since been broken during moves or by one of the kids when they were small.
As for sharing holidays I don't really mind our anniversary is also his birthday he picked that so he could easily remember it. The running joke in our family is if he ever forgets our anniversary I get to put him in the nursing home since he will have obviously gone senile. My third child's birthday always falls on or around Mother's Day so that's one I don't really get to celebrate because my child comes first. My mother's birthday is the day after mine we used to go out on a special mother daughter lunch or go do something girly together like getting our hair and nails done. We have done that in ages not since my mom had her accident and got hooked on prescription pain pills. Now I'm lucky if either of my parents even remembers my birthday, and gives me a call. My husband though makes a point of letting me know he remembers even if money is tight and he can't buy me anything. That means the world to me, because it means he knows me well enough to know I get a little sad around my birthday, because I miss the way my mom used to be and how close we once were. I love my husband we've been together long enough to know the little things about each other. We fuss and we fight occasionally Lord knows nether of us is the easiest person to live with, but to throw away all the good times over not getting a box of chocolates and some roses that will be dead in a week seems a bit ridiculous to me. Granted I'm in my mid-thirties and closer to being middle-aged than a young wife still I have younger friends who would find the idea of divorce over a missed Valentine's day present silly. I think marriage is a mindset if you go into it thinking if it gets tough I'm out of here then of course it isn't going to last. Alternately, if you go into it thinking I love this person faults and all, and even when I'm so mad at them I could throttle them I still love them too much to leave then it will likely last. I think some couples just rush into marriage the bride isn't thinking much past a big wedding and reception and the groom isn't thinking much past the honeymoon, and when reality sets in they bolt.