Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Are Male Qualities Bad?


Dennis Prager asked this question on his radio show, "If you could change some male qualities, what would you change?" Of course, women jumped in and said that men's sex drive is too high, they always have to fix things instead of just listening, and they aren't sensitive and emotional enough like women.

"Their sex drive is too high." Yes, men have ten times the testosterone levels that women have. They need this to protect and provide for their families. They also need this to have desire for women and to want to have children. Of course, these traits can be abused but they can be used in many good and productive ways also.

"They always have to fix things, instead of just listening." Thankfully, men are wired to fix things or we wouldn't have homes, freeways, cars, airplanes, buildings, etc. God created them to fix things. It's how they are built so it would be good for us to stop trying to change our husband. If you tell him something wanting him to just listen and he wants to fix it, understand this is in his God-given nature.

"They aren't sensitive and emotional enough like women." You think you want your husband to be more like a woman, but you really don't. It's a good thing that men are stronger emotionally and not as sensitive. They have to go out into the world and work hard, dealing with all sorts of people and making big decisions. They need to be able to decide things without emotions and feelings, which women do far too often. God gave women sensitive, emotional makeups since most women should be home all day tending to the home and children. 

As I type this, I know many women will hate these words and be offended. We are not men and we never will be. God created both of us differently for different and important roles in life. The specific qualities He gave to both male and female are very good when used within the boundaries of these roles. Chaos reigns, as we are seeing in our society, when men and women leave their God-given roles to pursue the qualities of the opposite sex. Human beings will NEVER be able to improve upon God's ways, so stop fighting them, begin walking in the Spirit and in obedience to God's amazing calling on your life! Now, go and love on that masculine man of yours.

God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them...And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 1:27 and 2:18

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I wrote about this just recently. The differences of men are actually strengths that were designed that way for a specific purpose. We women need men to be different in certain ways and these are good things. Men aren't women and they aren't supposed to be.
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Lady Virtue · 514 weeks ago

Boy, did I need to read this today! The Lord has a way of ministering through your posts on matters I need to be taught about just at the right time. I thank God He's using you in this way.
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I wouldn't change a thing, God made man in his own image and we can't change that. Plus I wouldn't want my man to be as emotional as me, I'm blessed to have a manly man and blessed that he's not feminized like a lot of men are these days.
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This is a very good post for both husband and wife. When we struggle the easiest thing to do is look at our spouse and want THEM to change and we grumble. Instead of looking at husbands and wives and wishing that they were different and that their qualities were different we need to look inside ourselves and make sure our heart is right with The Lord, because if it was then we would quickly realize that the qualities that God gave them were exactly how they were supposed to be!!! Because the issue is inside us not our spouse or in this case of this blog your husband
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Dawn E. Brown · 514 weeks ago

Amen and amen.So thankful to be a woman, and thankful my man is a man.God set it up so perfectly,and we need not improve it.What a safe ,peace filled position this offers us women, when we love and accept our dear husbands for who they are.
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If you want to be listened to, and don't want Mr. Fix-it, you need to avoid discussing those things with your husband. It will only make him frustrated and you frustrated. In doing so, you also keep talking to a minimum, which is what the guys prefer. This is why ladies need an Ethel (as in I Love Lucy's Ethel). It makes things a lot better.
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Thank you for this. YES! God created MALE and FEMALE. We need to get over ourselves as women, embrace our femininity, and stop neutering our men by trying to make them more like us..... and PLEASE!!!! Don't stand in the way when your husband is teaching your son to be a man... Just a little advice from a mom of four boys who has had to bite her tongue a time or two over the last 27 years. wink emoticon
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Happy Homemaker · 514 weeks ago

I love this post!!! I am so blessed to be married to a REAL MAN, a manly man. Yes, it has caused some silly hurt feelings on my part at times when I wanted him to be more emotional about something that I was, but in hindsight, I am so glad God gave me a real man and not some feminized version. I love this man so much and so much of what made him attractive is all of his manly characteristics. I feel like allot of what is wrong with our country is we have let too many women take leadership roles and thus there are too many emotions and political correctness due to this.
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I loved this post. One thing I've noticed is that both men and women (now a days) aren't taught how to relate to each other so they don't relate to each other in marriage with the wisdom, knowledge, understanding and discernment that God so desperately wants to give us and is just waiting for us to ask for. I can go to my husband in any situation that I'm in and talk with him and because he was taught to "be still and know that He is God" he can then respond to what is going on in my heart properly because he is moving in the Holy Spirit. We need be able to go to our husband....the very one God blessed us with but we also need to have wisdom, understanding, knowledge and discernment on when to go to him so we ourselves are in the right spirit and can receive what he has to say. Timing is everything.
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Isn't this the truth! I think the differences between male and female are even evident in babyhood! All my girls have loved and snuggled baby dolls from a VERY young age, and my little boy was obsessed with motorcycles before he could even talk. Those were not learned preferences! I for one am so thankful for the differences between my husband and I. Heaven knows he could never stay home and nurture children all day, and I DEFINITELY couldn't go out and be a police officer, do mounds of yard work, fix cars, etc. like he does. Thank the Lord for these beautiful differences!
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A. McIlwain · 514 weeks ago

I love this post! Just last night, my husband and I were talking about how God created men and women so very differently and that we are so thankful He did! We really rely on our male/female differences in our marriage to compliment each other. Also, through growing in God's plan for our marriage, it seems the more manly my husband becomes, the more feminine I become. Thanks, Lori!
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