Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Owning Less is Great; Wanting Less is Better!


The Willis Family has a new television show on TLC right after the Duggar's show. This family has twelve children. The father comes from a very large family and lost six of his siblings in a fiery car crash when he was younger. They show the church with the six white coffins in it. I can't imagine losing and trying to get over losing six children.

Both he and his wife came from large families so they decided to have twelve children before they were married! They bought a 100-year old home in Tennessee out in the country. They wanted to get their children out of the city and into the country. During one Christmas, when the electricity had been out in their valley for several days, they decided to take the whole family to a movie theater. When they returned home, their home was a huge bonfire and they lost every single thing they owned. A huge power surge had started the fire. The mother said she has never been able to shed a tear over it because it was NOTHING compared to what her mother-in-law had endured. Some of the children spoke and said that things are nothing compared to human beings and all of them were safe.

Perspective is everything. I am sure they mourned the loss of their pictures, all their musical instruments, etc. but they knew all of those weren't all that important in the long run. Human life is what is important.

It's way too easy to value stuff over people and make things an idol. Most people continue to buy things even though they have plenty. Women are good at buying their 20th pair of shoes, a 50th shirt, etc. Men buy bigger and better cars, multiple TVs for their home and other things they don't need. What causes us to buy WAY more than we need? Why is never what we have enough? What lie have we believed that new and more is better? Why is it so hard to be content with what we have?

We are looking for fulfillment and satisfaction through things instead of relationships. You can tell this it true by how many lonely people there are today. Depression is skyrocketing and even suicide. God created us for relationship, not things. Yes, our basic needs should be met and it's fine to have some nice things that we enjoy, but not when it becomes excessive, wasteful, and prevents us from helping others as we should. If we continue looking for fulfillment and satisfaction through things, we'll never have enough.

We've believed the lie that "if only we get this one thing we really want, we'll be happy." Being in relationship with others and with God brings joy and happiness, nothing else. Things get old, break and end up in a garbage dump. Yes, people get old and break but end up spending eternity somewhere, whether they are believers or not. We are eternal.

 We fail to look at all the ways we have been blessed in this life and all the promises we have in Christ and instead, focus upon what we don't have and want. We look up the ladder at those we perceive to have it "better" than us when we need to be looking down the ladder at those less fortunate; be generous to them if you can and count your many blessings. We will always be better off than someone out there. If we have all of our needs met and have Jesus, we have all that we need since He is our Provider and Protector.

Therefore, next time you want to buy something, ask yourself if you really need it. Remind yourself that it won't bring the long-term joy and satisfaction that you are looking for if you are spending excessively. Be wise in your spending habits, train yourself to want less, and remind yourself that "godliness with contentment is GREAT gain!" 1 Timothy 6:6

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Actually, The mother came from a family with 2 children. Ive heard the kids joke that she didnt know what she was getting herself into when she agreed to try for 12 children.
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Thanks, Anon. I knew they both decided to have 12 children before they were married and I thought they said they both came from large families. I'll try to check it out!
Thats ok, Thankyou for your great work, i am continually challenged and encouraged im my role as wife and mother. Blessings. :-)
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ContentWife · 514 weeks ago

My husband and I have never been rich (in our society's definition); but when we have money to spare and the temptation arises to buy what we don't need, my husband reminds me to think about what that money could accomplish for eternity...supporting a missionary family, buying Bibles for those who long to have one, etc. It has helped me to think more wisely about what I buy.
1 reply · active 514 weeks ago
Great comment, ContentWife. Thank you and yes, we should all be using more of our money or eternal purposes.
Love this!
My Mom was a big-time hoarder and to this day we have to dodge piles and stacks of stuff throughout her house just to move from room to room. She's always complaining about it, but if we start trying to help her clean out, she becomes furious with resistance. It isn't worth it, so we don't bother. My sister is a hoarder as well. I am at a point where if I see even a small stack of things, whatever it is, I get very nervous and have to get that stack out of here! I collect at least one large bag per week for a giveaway or a charity drop off bin. It preserves my sanity. We all got the message growing up that the stuff was more important than we were, and I don't want to pass that message on to my children.
We rent a small place and are trying to get rid of stuff and not have too many things. After reading this the other night, I told my husband that the less you have, the less you have to lose.
it's easy to not accumulate stuff...no credit cards, no debt, our "newest" car is 11 years old. We have empty rooms in our house and our garage will hold the three cars it's built for. For every one new thing that comes in the house, two old things have to leave. I've scanned all the family pictures and sorted them into electronic albums and sent them to the kids. I'd rather have the time and money to do what I want to do than be a slave to "stuff". My mother had two walk in closets FULL of clothes that she maybe wore once...I share a walk in closet with my husband that has ROOM. There's no way I want that much stuff in my life.
I see how people go through so much stress, and hold onto so much anger and frustration, over things that are not important. It's just stuff, and I find it so uplifting to not just say that, but believe it. Thanks for sharing! Hello from Thrifty Thursday.

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