Sunday, October 14, 2012

New Rules For Matrimony

If you are rude to my parents, you must pay them $7,000.0 each time.

If you gain ten pounds, the marriage is over.

If you watch more than ten hours of television a week, I will divorce you.

These are all new stipulations couples are putting in their prenuptial agreements for marriage.  Gone are the days when you vow to love them for better or worse, richer or poor, in sickness and in health.  I can almost guarantee you that the marriages with these stipulations won't last.

Sure, you want your husband to treat your parents well.  You don't want your spouse to gain weight and get heavy.  You want your husband to spend more time with you than he does watching television.  The common thread between all these statements is that it is all about you and your desires.

Loving your husband for better or worse, richer or poor, healthy or sick is about truly loving him sacrificially no matter what storms may come.  I was very healthy until I was 30 years old and in a terrible car accident.  I am so thankful I have a husband who has been committed to me through sickness and health.

This is the kind of love that God has called us to.  It is not based upon feelings or circumstances but loving others just the way they are with no expectations or stipulations.  Is it easy?  No, nothing in life worth having comes easily but it is so worth it!
There are no guarantees in life.  Sickness, financial ruin, disappointments, etc. come to most people.  This is why we must cling to our Rock and trust in His handling and plan for our lives.
Therefore a man shall leave his father
and his mother and hold fast to his wife,
 and they shall become one flesh.
Genesis 2:24

P.S.  I am on twitter now at Lori Alexander@laalex2 if any of you are interested.  Every morning, I will be tweeting something to encourage you in your marriage like ~
Don't use the word "divorce" under any circumstances. It can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. You made a commitment to this man before God for better or for worse.

Alabaster Jar, Better Mom, Metamorphosis Monday

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Very true. Making a contract to live together only under certain circumstances is NOT marriage. If you already have a contigency plan for if things don't work out, you aren't all in. And if you aren't all in, you aren't in at all. Staying in through thick and thin is both the most difficult and the best part of marriage. Really, the very nature of marriage is to make an unconditional commitment to the other person - that you will stay together no matter what. If you aren't ready to make that commitment, don't get married because that's what marriage means.
I couldn't agree with you more on this post! I have always thought that prenups are almost a way of saying "Yeah, I don't think it's going to last" or "I want an easy way out for when I get sick of being with you." That is definitely not what God intended for marriage!
I wish I had the courage to send this post to my daughter in law, thank you
Just a few thoughts you may not have considered. What about the case where two people plan to marry in their sunset years who have lost the spouses of their youth but have children by the spouses? Surely it is reasonable for a pre nuptial agreement to be drawn up stating that their estates NOT be intermingled but go to their respective offspring, or something along those lines?

I do agree that nothing else should be in the agreement, though.
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Isn't this something dealt with in a will, rather than a pre-nup?
Wow! What ever happened to "for better or worse"? I would love for you to link this up at Matrimonial Monday!
This is so sad that "marriage" has come to that. I thank God that by the strength of His Holy Spirit and by the power and the blessing of His word that he has equipped me to commit to my marriage and my husband. And I don't say it is His power lightly because I know that I am incapable but for His indwelling and that I am blessed beyond words with having Him in my life to change me more into His image.

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