Research has proven that it is a happy wife that makes a marriage happy! We didn't need research to tell us this. God's Word told us MANY years ago, "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" {Proverbs 14:1}. I have always thought that women have more control over whether or not a marriage is good or bad. There are just too many verses about quarreling, nagging, and women being able to win their husbands without a word to not believe this to be so.
The Pearls have mentored hundreds of people. They always said that if they could reach the wife and she would change, the marriage was usually saved. It rarely worked if they reached the husband and he changed. Women have a POWERFUL influence on the health of a marriage.
Husbands rated their marriage higher than the wives because men don't have as high of expectations of marriage typically that women have coming into the marriage. It also found that happier women took better care of their husbands "boasting his over all health and self esteem!" They also believe that if sex is going to stop in the marriage, it is because the wife is unhappy.
This is why Debi Pearl's book Created to be His Help Meet probably begins with the first two chapters about being joyful and choosing happiness. She knows that having a joyful spirit is crucial to having a strong, solid marriage. We should be the happiest people around! We are freed from sin, saved from the wrath to come, and get to live eternally with the Lord.
Therefore, women, choose to be happy today. Even if you are going through a difficult time, you can choose to be pleasant instead of complaining which God hates. Dennis Prager says that when you are in a bad mood, it is like pouring your body odor on others. If you are in a bad mood, change your thoughts and stop giving into your emotions and feelings. Continually renew your mind with God's Truth and His promises. Decide today to be a happy wife and give your husband a happy life!
A joyful heart is good medicine.
Proverbs 17:22
Therefore, women, choose to be happy today. Even if you are going through a difficult time, you can choose to be pleasant instead of complaining which God hates. Dennis Prager says that when you are in a bad mood, it is like pouring your body odor on others. If you are in a bad mood, change your thoughts and stop giving into your emotions and feelings. Continually renew your mind with God's Truth and His promises. Decide today to be a happy wife and give your husband a happy life!
A joyful heart is good medicine.
Proverbs 17:22
