Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Man And His Critic


In the beginning God created man and his critic. {Dennis Prager} Ouch!  Sadly, it's true in most marriages.  Women, in general, seem to be much more critical than men.  Wives are especially critical with their husbands.  Women are even very critical towards other women

One friend of mine was telling me about her mother-in-law.  She studies the Bible all time and even teaches Bible Study.  She talks about Jesus a lot yet continually is criticizing and scolding her husband. 

This is a common occurrence among women, including me in my past life!  How come we understand Scripture so clearly yet forget the most important part...Loving others?  We are specifically commanded to love our husbands.

Being critical towards and trying to control others is not loving.  How come we think we can treat our husbands worse than we treat everybody else???  I don't have the answer to this question but I am sad that this is true in so many marriages.

The amazing thing, however, is once I can point this out to women, marriages usually improve.   I think most women don't see themselves clearly nor understand that what they are doing is wrong.  It is a very ugly habit that needs to be buried quickly.

Let no foul or polluting language,
nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk
{ever} come out of your mouth,
but only such as is good and beneficial to
the spiritual progress of others,
as is fitting to the need and the occasion,
that it may be a blessing and give grace
{God's favor} to those who hear it.

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So true. I am learning slowly to stop criticizing my husband. I find that we are both happier that way. The other day my husband and I were arguing about something, and after I insisted that I was right and told him why I was right, he graciously relented and said he was wrong, and I was right (that's when he heaped coals on my head). The funny thing is, I felt horrible and dirty afterward for criticizing my husband and trying to play the Holy Spirit in his life by pointing out sin and fault. How much easier to just let that go and let God convict and change him. I'm so glad I don't have to change my husband.
Criticism is a poison that slowly kills a marriage. I saw it in my parent's marriage and have carried it into my own. Thankfully, God is healing me, my marriage and my mouth! :)
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Cynthia Swenson · 667 weeks ago

Just want you to know Lori, you are on my 'favorites list'. Love your transparency! We must fight that critical spirit as it's the opposite of grace & love. It's good to talk about it as we need to confess it to God & ask Him for help to love better! He is so faithful to answer a prayer like that! Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
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ERDR'swifemomof12 · 667 weeks ago

I truly appreciate your blog. I learn from it everyday. It helps me conform to HIS image.
Sometimes, some women are married to critical men. Domineering, commanding men, who are impossible to please. Sometimes, the ball falls in the other court. But praise GOD we are given trials to sanctify our souls and show us more of CHRIST, the true lover of our souls.
Wow, total conviction! I appreciate your bringing this to our attention. Be blessed! :) Lauren, lholmes79.wordpress.com

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