Sunday, June 10, 2012

Marry A Generous Servant


Marry someone who is generous and a servant and you will have a good marriage, but only if you are generous and a servant.  When Ken married me, I was selfish and not a servant at all.  I wanted him to be generous with me and serve me, then I might be happy, so I thought.

Thankfully, God working mightily within me has taught me that being generous and a servant is what brings happiness.

My two married children married spouses that are generous and serve others.  They are blessed and very happy.  No, they aren't perfect and I hope you never think any of us are perfect because we are not.  I will not ever use this blog, however, to speak negatively about anyone unless they are anonymous. But Jon and Erin are amazing!  Alyssa and Ryan are so blessed that God brought Jon and Erin into their lives.

Jon bought a brand new truck when he lived with us.  Anyone that needed to borrow his nice, new, shiny truck, he let borrow it.  If someone needed help moving, he helped them move.  When Cassi got in an accident and smashed our car an hour away, he drove up to get her.  He is generous with his time and money.

Erin makes every one's birthday special.  She brings balloons and presents and makes yummy desserts.  She did the flowers for Alyssa and Jon's wedding three weeks after having Emma and did an incredible job.  She is sensitive to others, kind, and giving and makes Ryan one happy man.

They both came from strong, Christian families who are generous and are servants for the Lord Jesus.  They were given powerful role models growing up.  I thank God for them.  They all have deep roots in Jesus.  They are oak trees!

Thankfully, God has the power to change anyone.  {God, not you!}  All it takes is to confess your sins, acknowledge them, and get them out in the open.  Ask God to help you become generous and to love serving others.  He is faithful to accomplish what He asks of us.  So work on becoming generous and serving others.  Your life will never be the same.

But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant.
Matthew 23:11

Titus 2 Tuesday

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I am not sure one can ever be too generous! My husband is that way but it is good. We can never out give God.
You are so right. I too, am learning to be a generous servant. I've been married for twelve years and wasn't even close to this we my husband and I were married. I'm working on it now and with God's grace I know I can do it. You write a wonderful blog and I read it often. I'm so happy that you are willing to share your life and experiences as being a christian woman.
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Recognizing your faults is the first step to overcoming them. With God's strength, you can overcome anything. Keep up the good work!
My father is a very generous man, helping out where-ever he can - however as he approaches 80 he now needs the help as he can't do as much as he use to and his poor leg is playing up making it difficult to move about as much as before. I live too far away to help physically, but I phone him often in the evenings so he doesn't get lonely.
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My mom is very generous also and is 81. She can't do as much now either but it has been wonderful being raised by a generous mother.
Hey Lori, I know you've stated that the purpose of this blog is to encourage women in their marriages, but I would love to see some posts with advice on picking the right man and beginning a marriage in the best way possible! You've written about your kids and their new marriages, so maybe you can just link to some old posts - you might already have this covered. Thanks!
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Yes, I have written on both of these topics a lot. One young woman asked me how she can prepare to be a good wife and this is the post I wrote for her ~
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2012/03/prepari...

On picking the right man, pray a lot and when you think you may have found him, ask advice from people whom you trust, godly parents or friends for their opinions. Read my marriage posts and they will help you learn to begin marriage the right way. Becoming more like Jesus is the key!
Thanks! That's just what I was looking for. I appreciate your willingness to answer your comments personally when you can. It's very helpful and it shows you really care about your readers!
Hi Lori.... Sure! You can link to any of my posts anytime you wish. Thanks for your kind comments--and how do I not have your blog on my blogroll??!! Ack! Well, it will appear there as soon as I leave here. :) Thanks again! Blessings, Debra
Once again, your blog has motivated me to be better, and improve! I am so blessed to be married to a wonderful guy who would do (and does) do anything for me. I try hard to do the same, but there is always room for improvement! Thank you for your wise words!

Lori I wanted to tell you that I started up a new blog! I'd love it if you wanted to pay me a visit and maybe even follow me. There's not a lot there yet, but you have to start somewhere, right?
http://tiffanyandcoblog.blogspot.com

Have a great day! :)
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I will be happy to follow you! You have an adorable blog. Everyone does have to start somewhere!
Such a good post.

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