Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Woman Can't Have It All


Finally, a prominent woman gets it or so I thought.  She worked in Washington D.C. and has two teenage sons.  She realized she couldn't work a high powered job and raise children successfully.  She rarely saw her two sons and one of them was always getting in trouble.

Her solution ~

The best hope for improving the lot of all women, and for closing what Wolfers and Stevenson call a “new gender gap”—measured by well-being rather than wages—is to close the leadership gap: to elect a woman president and 50 women senators; to ensure that women are equally represented in the ranks of corporate executives and judicial leaders. Only when women wield power in sufficient numbers will we create a society that genuinely works for all women. That will be a society that
works for everyone.

When women hold all leadership positions, then and only then will women be able to have it all!  I am not sure how she thinks women in charge of everything will help women have it all.  There is no way a woman can have it all.  No one can.  She lives in a dream world.

Very few women can work a full time job and be home to raise a healthy and happy family with a strong marriage.  Sure, there are some of you out there who say you are doing it and you well may be able to but for the majority of us, we admit that it isn't possible.  Something suffers and it is usually the marriage.

She still believes women need to work towards having careers and maybe even putting off having a family.  Tell me how having a career is so much more fulfilling than raising children, loving your husband, and creating a happy home.  Why is working a 9:00 to 5:00 job suppose to be so much better than that? 

Personally, I think many men do a great job in leadership positions.  I like men to be leaders.  I know that is a very politically incorrect position but I don't care.  God seems to like men in leadership positions also.  Almost everywhere in the Bible, men were in leadership positions {Moses, Abraham, Daniel, David, Solomon, Paul, etc.}.

Most women in leadership positions, unfortunately, have feminists values that I disagree with like abortion, free birth control, and homosexual marriage.  I am not sure why that is but it seems to be the trend.  Maybe it is because women who hold my views enjoy being at home taking care of their husbands, children, and homes.

I have no intention of offending any of you women who have to work outside of the home or choose to do that.  I am simply stating my convictions and what the Bible tells me to do, namely, to teach the young women to be keepers at home. 

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good,
obedient to their own husbands,
that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5

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That's true! All the women I can think of, that I actually think would be good leaders and have good Christian values, are at home taking care of their husbands and children (or being a wonderful Grandmother).
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Yep, raising the future generations. It is a good place for them to be!
I don't take offense at this post at all and I am a young single woman who does work outside the home as an attorney. I believe that God does give men leadership qualities both inside and outside the home. I work outside of the home because I am not yet a mother or a wife and because I felt God put a calling on my heart for this season in my life to do what I am doing and because my parents encouraged me to become financially independent for this season of my life. I did not have a father who encouraged me to take on the traditional, stay-at-home daughter role after high school and in fact I don't believe stay-at-home-daughterhood would have been acceptable to my father. So in working outside of the home and supporting myself, I do feel that I am honoring my parents as their adult-child because I am following their wishes for me to be able to take care of myself financially.

I am blessed that my heart is to be where I currently am in my career, but if and when I meet the person God has for me to marry, and if and when I have children, I know my heart will no longer be to work outside of the home. It is difficult hearing from wise, Titus 2 women that women should be keepers-at-home, mothers, and wives when I have not yet met the person I am to marry and my parents do not embrace the daughter-as-keeper-at-home idea, so I can only conclude that it is God's will that I follow their wishes and keep supporting myself with a job outside of the home (that I am blessed enough to enjoy).
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I think you are doing a fine job, Fran. You obeyed your father as the Bible commands. When you meet your husband and have children, your desire is to be a keeper at home. There seems to be nothing wrong with the path you are taking.
I'm with you. I'm fulfilled when my lifestyle aligns with the Word of God. Personally, I already HAVE IT ALL! I have the best life!
1 reply · active 665 weeks ago
I agree with you Kelley. Who says that "having it all" is having a career and family? I felt like I have it all by being a wife and mother and loving it!
To be honest, if a woman has to do it, she can and she can do it very well. I only had this discussion on my blog this morning – many women use the excuse of “I’m too busy to cook” when they are working, however the women I ask, I am discovering this isn’t always true at all – it’s just easier to grab pre-made meals and throw everything together.

Those women in senior positions, they are in a situation where it is probably best if they chose between a career and children as you can’t dedicate time to both. However, if you choose your career well and work in an organisation that is family friendly (as I do) – children and husband do not suffer. My marriage certainly hasn’t suffered by working fulltime and if it did, it would be my fault, so I don’t let it happen. Its all about the amount of effort you put in your marriage, no matter what you are doing - home or working.
Hello Lori, I agree, the only exception I think would be when God annoints a woman to serve Him in a particular way in which case she would respond to His call. That being said if I married a man who had a ministry I would want to support his ministry and be an active part in it but also maybe use my testimony as a God given gtift to help women. I would try and make sure that didn't conflict with loving and submitting to my husband's authority.
I totally agree, and wish I had heard this advice when I was 18, and not at 40 :)
I do "have it all"...A LORD who loves me. He gave me a husband who loves me. My husband works hard, and allows me the privilege to make and keep a home for us! We have never been blesses with children, and yet, I cannot imagine a higher calling than the one I have....being a "keeper at home." Love, love, love it♥
I was raised that the men are to be the leaders, in the home and out.
I don't muchly approve of women in leadership positions and when women are in the ministry I have a hard time respecting them unless they minister primarily to women ant then I greatly respect them because they are doing whet God has called all women to do. That is just my opinion but I do feel it is backed up by the Bible. I found you via hearts for home and am subscribed via GFC now :)
Thankyou for your balance and wisdom Claire!
There are women leaders in the bible. I either path can be correct. It is most important to figure out truely where the Lord is leading you. It is sad though when women work who want to stay home because they want material items. I feel the Lord leading me to help other Christians, especially women who are at home feeding their families in the field of nutrition. My husband told me if for some reason I am still feeling lead to pursue this when we have children he will stay home and let me make the money. We will still live simply. We shall see though. I honestly don't know if I would want to do that. But the Lord has a plan. So as of now I am returning back to college to finish my degree at 33 and writing and designing a blog. Feel free to pray for me:). Much love. www.ecochristianlove.com

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