Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Children, Sports, And Balance


Almost every single week from six years of age to twenty years old, I had piano lessons.  I practiced faithfully even through college.  I never touch a piano anymore and I haven't for almost thirty years.  I was pretty good at it but I am not musical and it just never was that easy for me.  I tried gymnastics in high school but wasn't very good and didn't like it much.  I became a cheerleader in high school and absolutely loved it.

Alyssa started serious ballet when she was eleven years old.  She became a professional ballet dancer when she grew up and danced with Ballet Magnificat for nine years.

Ryan played baseball, basketball, and soccer.  He played baseball and basketball all through high school.  Now that he is all grown up with a family of his own, he golfs.  He loves to golf and he is very good at it.

Steven also played baseball, basketball, and soccer growing up.  He even played baseball through college.  Now that he is all grown up, he plays softball, basketball, and golfs.  He loves working out and staying active.

Cassi tried ballet for awhile but she wasn't too flexible.  She played basketball and soccer in high school.  She enjoyed both but they were definitely not her passion.  Her favorite thing is to go on long walks with friends or work out classes.

The one thing we would not have done if we did it over was competitive soccer for the boys.  All their friends were doing it so we thought they should.  It was very expensive, they traveled a lot, and there were games on Sundays which I did not like at all.

I think the key to children and extra-curricular activities is to find out what each child enjoys and what they are good at.  If they are musical, let them play an instrument.  If they are athletic, let them find a sport or sports they enjoy.  If they are highly intelligent, maybe they can be in a chess or debate club.

We enjoyed extra-curricular activities.  My children learned to be good losers and good winners.  They learned to work as a team and practice hard.  They learned to be under a tough coach and handle criticism.  They learned that life isn't always fair.

However, balance is important.  You don't want to be running all over the place all the time neglecting family dinners and time at home.  It is a difficult balance especially when they reach school age.  Some parents opt out completely and I don't blame them.  However, our greatest entertainment while our children were growing up was watching our children doing what they enjoyed.

Oh and they all enjoy wakeboarding, snowboarding, surfing {the boys}, bowling, games, etc!  The above picture is Steven having some fun with some friends.

Behold, what I have seen to be good 
and fitting is to eat and drink and 
find enjoyment in all the toil with 
which one toils under the sun 
the few days of his life that God has given him, 
for this is his lot.
Ecclesiastes 5:18

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We always stood by the notion that we were only going to do extra-curricular activities that our kids were so passionate about that they took the responsibility and ownership of them. If I had to remind, beg, cajole, etc., to do, then we didn't do it. But, if they loved it so much that they practiced on their own, reminded me of their practices, were excited for competitions, then the money and time was worth it. Right now we have one in Scouts and weekly bowling league and the other playing whichever sport is currently being played (except basketball ... she does not want to play basketball). Thankfully, my kids are really most content just being at home, playing, hanging out as a family. They like to go swimming and go to the lake to swim. Otherwise, they would almost rather just hang out at home. I am glad I taught my kids to be content instead of always feeling like they had to be involved in an extra-curricular to be entertained.
3 replies · active 604 weeks ago
I do believe that extra-curricular activities have great value, as my kids are involved in the ones for which they are passionate. My point was just that I am thankful they don't feel the need to always be involved in something (or several somethings at the same time) to keep from being bored. There is some value in just chilling out at home with your family, being content just to "be", instead of always feeling the need to go from here to there to everywhere. I am just thankful for contentment, that's all. Balance is key as there are lessons to be learned in both situations.
I struggle with this all the time. Everything is soooo expensive and is really time-consuming. I want the kids to have fun and to learn, but it's difficult for us to invest the money and time esp.. knowing that this is just an introductory money/time investment and that it only increases as they get better.
1 reply · active 604 weeks ago
My eldest son wasn't interested in sports but he did love Scouts and did that for a number of years. Going on camps was his favourite activity. He also played the saxophone and quite enjoyed it . My youngest loved taekwondo and reached junior black belt. He also learn the electric guitar. It didn't push my children into sport/music they made the decision what they wanted to do and how much time they dedicated. Some of these things were expensive but having children does come with costs, and one of them is after school activities. We were very happy to encourage their passions.

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